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Gail
Even if i could fly to Mars im sure i would do it wrong lol i was never the golden child and since i openly admit to having a learning disability that makes me even more of a reject so to speak.

Thanks for pm's.

Just been to see a work friend who is off after having an op. I told her about B. She understands how I feel. B has said some horrible things to her before. Supervisors don't say anything.
As this woman is 72 I think she thinks she can say what she wants, and expects us to not retaliate. My days of saying nothing are coming to an end. I'm not going to feel bad cos I didn't answer back even if I feel bed cos I did. LOL

Sending caring thoughts to Liz x

Clair my mum has also symptoms of Narcissism Iike I told you before. I can't do right. My sister isn't very good at reading and writing but she is the golden child. So funny and entertaining to others (not to me though, I get fed up with her stupidness, the things she says, and does are so silly and she knows it, but it gets too much after a while, others don't have a life time of it), very like mum in many ways, no wonder mum thinks the sun shines from behind her. A copy of her own image.

Sent out some facebook invites, anyone I haven't sent one to I haven't got your email address. If you want to join let me know.

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Hi all, well what a lovely surprise, o.h. decided he would go to the ball after all lol - it's actually a 50th birthday party for one of his mate's wives, a mate he lodged with years ago before he got this wife no 2. I have met them and the crowd they go around with, K only sees them when there is a party on and they bore me rigid going on about what they all used to get up to at other parties!!! Then they usually go back to one of their homes and roll joints, like they are all trying to be young again. I had said I didn't want to go, and he couldn't decide, he made up his mind about 8pm, asked me to pick him out something to wear and ring him a taxi, I couldn't wait! He was off about 9.15 so I have had a pleasantly peaceful evening and might even have an early night. He won't be home till at least midnight and even later if I am lucky, he will come through the door with a silly smirk on his face, and sit in the chair and fall asleep. I have put clean bed linen on the bed so might take advantage and get in first for a change lol

Haven't heard anything from Liz's family which probably means she is still hanging on, I called yesterday and her s.i.l. said she was peaceful, sedated so minimum pain, and no food or drink, no line in so they are waiting for her body to shut down. It sounds so awful. It was her 59th birthday on Wednesday and altho before then, Liz couldn't raise her head, open her eyes or speak, she could still hear so had her cards read out to her. We all phoned with messages for her too.
I told her s.i.l. yesterday that we wouldn't bother them again with calls, there is a houseful of family members and carers, her Dad is 86 and must be hating all the carers there as he is a very quiet and private man. We will wait now for the inevitable news and remember Liz as she was before this awful illness took hold.
Thanks for all your support, and hope you all are coping with all life throws at you.
Take care,
Lizxxxx

Carole, so sorry I didn't acknowledge your thread.

I wish I could offer some thoughts on the subject of that horrible woman, can you not all get together and show a united front against her by alll making a complaint about her together? She should not be allowed to talk to people the way she does and get away with it.

Last night, or should I say, this morning was not as I expected.
The idiot arrived home in a dreadful state, was ill - luckily I managed to get a bucket under his chin almost in time so the chair was saved, I can't begin to tell you the disgust I felt and told him so. I ran him a bath but he didn't get in, I sat up reading etc for a couple of hours or more as didn't want to come down and find he had choked in the chair (I wish - couldn't have coped with the hassle) and finally went to bed at about 5am, (without my stint on here) He came up about 6 but I wouldn't let him in the bed till he had had a good wash, and stayed right away from him. I woke about ten and reminded him he told his father he would be there at 11 and it's a good half hour cycle ride. A cup of tea was brought up to me altho I didn't really wake up properly and when I woke and came down at 12 he had gone out, note saying he had gone to his fathers. I rang there and told his father what had happened so he could quiz him a bit without him knowing I had called, and hope his father can get him to see his doc and admit he is an alcoholic. Don't hold out much hope tho. His father said he had just arrived as we spoke so he did get there, I hope he feels awful.
Don't know if it was a taxi brought him home, can't believe the driver would have him in the car the state he was in.
One more nail in his coffin, in both ways of thinking about it.
Lizx

Quiet day, he managed to cycle to his father's with the birthday gift, but had to get his dad to bring his bike and him back in the car lol

He went to bed early after his dinner, as he didn't feel well. I wonder why?

Lizxx

Hi everyone.
Liz special loving thoughts to you at this sad time.xx

Betty lovely pm, thanks. Dad is home but I was so embarrassed Sunday when he decided to have a wee, and got his penis out in front of me and my sister and my oh. My oh said thats not very nice in front of your daughters, but I know he didn't like it either. Dads brain just isn't the same since his stroke and it gets worse.

B wasn't at work today so tomorrow will be the first time I'll see her since last weeks words. We are working near her home, and last time we were there she asked us all back to hers at lunch time.
Hope she won't do the same tomorrow.

Deanna we are missing you love. Come back all is forgiven xxx

Caz Y sending you lots of healing thoughts, are you getting them? xx

Dave hows that job going ? x

Eileen thinking of you and your family xx

Mary, are you getting back on an even keal? xx

Carolina how are you all ?xx

Janet, Sharron, Sue, Elaine, Christine, Paula, Claire,
Caz C, Ben, Angela, Jules,

Kathy, how are you getting on with the kitchen? xx

Gail do I owe you a reply? xx
Thanks for the pictures you sent me

Joyce so pleased I made you laugh xx

Bed time, I need my beauty sleep xxx

Carole, it's sad to have your Dad not behaving like your Dad, if you know what I mean. I do hope things don't get too difficult for you all - feel sad for your poor Dad and for you too.

I hope you can put up with seeing B and don't let her say a thing wrong! Remember I am on your shoulder, here's what I will tell you to say so you can practice lol Think of me saying this with my (slight) Norfolk accent lol

If/When she says anything to you about last week,or tries to be sarcastic etc, say 'You do not have the right to speak to me or others in the way you do, so if you cannot be pleasant and polite please don't bother to say anything! ' (You can say it in your voice, not my Norfolk one lol) Don't enter into an argument or slanging match with her, just turn your back on her if possible and ignore her.
Don't forget, I am on your shoulder! No trembling or I will wobble off.



I am very tired so apologies that I can't respond to all of you tonight. Thanks to all who have contacted me privately about my friend, I will get round to responding.

Lizxxxx

hi just to let you know im still around and looking in

love and hugs to all
carolina xx

Carolina !!! Hello my lovely. What time do you call that? xx

Liz I just woke up with the most awful tummy ache.
(Been to loo). Hope it isn't the start of it today. Not looking forward to work I must admit. Will note what you told me. Thank you for your support xxx

morning all ,carole hugs to you love and i mean that xxx well i havent slept very well have been up since 5 ,drinking tea and just sitting around ,might be to do with us going hospittal today hubby got 2 appiontments one with heart surgion to see the results of his echo and a heart cheak up to find out if the second procedure he done has worked (af ablation )as well as merchanical valve so fingers crossed ,then to see nurolagist about his eperlpsy just routine ,so we are going to have dinner there save coming home and going back thisafternoon so will let you no the results later please keep your fingers crossed all is normal i am a bit jittery shakey and running loo nerves i think hugs to all elaine x

GoodMorning All
I dont general come on this board,but no quite afew ladies on here,i just wanted to say if i can be of any help just say the word,my daughter in law suffers from depression and im not sure the name of the other she has,every thas to be put in certain places wont let any do the dishes,as they have to be put certain way,her mother just dos,nt want to no whats wrong,she called her daughter stupid little girl theres nothing wrong with you,well her daughter got mad and told her to leave and she said ,before you go joyce meaning me is more like mum than m.i.l,she rings if im not well sends flowers if im at my lowest what do you do nothing,if i was there i would belt her mum i dont like the woment one bit,my d.i.l goes to see physicist and the problem is ,m.d.l wants to no why shes not getting any love from her mother its what she needs and dos,nt get any,i think that people should be more understanding to try to understand what people are going thru,its not the dark ages anymore,but i.ll support anyone here who needs it as if you care about people which i do,then you,ll try to understand what there going thru,take care all
Dutchxx

Come back to practise what Liz has told me to say.

Elaine know just how you feel, but also know you will be okay. (So will I). Hope you get some good news today xxx

Dutch Joyce you are very welcome here, it is so good of you to come and offer your support to us all.
I know you have enough problems of your own. Bless you. Hope to see you on here more, just to chat with us all, that would be nice. I feel I know all these people even though we have never met, and some I have never even seen. (Photos please, ask for my email address) That means you too Joyce. I have seen you mention your dil before, and your patience with her is worth all the gold in the world to her.

Any one want to see me on facebook? PM me.

xxxxxxx

Hi Carole,plese send me your email address and will send you photo,its nice to see who were talking to,ive got afew of some of the ladies on here
Dutchxx

Morning everyone

Hope you can all see my post as it seems I am invisable to some.

I hope today is a happy and painfree day for all

((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))

Take care

Gill

afternoon all well just got back from hospital and not so good hubby has to go back in hospital in stoke as his heart rythem is not right and has low bp and slow pulse now he has to have what i call a kick start ,and if that dont work a pace maker fitted was hoping he would got the all clear today but that hasnt happend so am of for a cuppa and to calm down a little am all of a shake have just told grown up kids so im gona spend some time with them chatting il hopfully catch you all later xxx

Hi all, Dutch Joyce, welcome to our world lol

Twinkle, please don't be too worried, two of my relatives have pacemakers and are doing fine, one is 88 and the other 71! If it becomes necessary for your hubby to be fitted with one, it could be a new lease of life for him and therefore for you too. Hope the chats with your family will help you relax.

Gill, you aren't invisible, I can't always cope with answering everyone, my head is so stuffed with things sometimes the sorting mechanism goes on strike lol
That's why I try and add a general hello or hug or something, cos I hate not responding to everyone but can't always manage it. You stay positive and strong.

Hope your day has been better than you expected Carole, did you like the Norfolk accent lol?

Hugs for everyone,
Lizxxx

Afternoon everyone

Sorry to hear your news Twinkle, (((((((((((hugs))))))))))) for you.

I didn't mean you Liz

Take care everyone

Gill

I know Gill, but I think several people are like me, get a bit snowed under with all the various posts and want to respond but lose their way when adding their own posts.
Take care
Lizxx

Just popped into say 'Hi' to everyone n sending {{{{{hugs}}}}} to those who'd like one.

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Boo !!!! That's to Gill. Just kidding, I see you xxx

Elaine sorry today didn't bring such good news for you both. You must feel disappointed he has to go in again. Hope it's all done sooner rather than later so you can get him fit again xxx

Liz, dunno bout that there accent, don't suit meee. Oh that is bad! You're much better at it xxx

Dutch pm'ed you xx

Everyone else okay? xx