General Chat

morning all
Gill listen to auntie Liz she always talks a lot of sense. Ignore them, stay away from their threads.
Report abusive pm's. We are pleased to have you back so don't get dragged into anything where you could end up saying something to get you banned.xx

Gail what is H doing with Z, re feeding? Is he any better? Has work started on the kitchen? Email me if you need to talk xxx

Liz any news on your friend? Are you able to telephone to send your love? xx

Y Caz miss your post's, and hope you soon get well enough to join in with us again xx

Elaine lovely to see you here. Your oh will suprise you at the hospital I'm sure. Don't expect olympic standards yet xxxx

Eileen thinking of you xx

Must move away to get a shower, going to see Dad later. He is still on a drip with antibiotics so not sure when he is going home but it shouldn't be long now.
Last week a nurse said his pneumonia was better, I didn't even know he had that, on top of everything else!

Love to you all xxx

hi everyone

Carol, H had to wean X as is defiantly lactose intolerant. As you can imaging she is devastated and not handling it to well. Many phone calls over the last few days. They cannot get into see the specialist for 9 weeks, appalling for a tiny baby. She was going to try and keep milk until they spoke to specialist, but do not think she will be able to keep up for that long. I told her to contact midwife or nursing mothers association, and see what they have to say.

Within 24 hours of special formula X was smiling and gurgling and sleeping. No pain, no screaming.

It is very sad for H.

I have spent today dealing with insurance and assessor, they have been really nice, but it is still difficult.

Carole I hope things will improve for your dad. Cannot understand why they did not tell you about pneumonia. I have pneumonia injection every 5 years, used to get infection even with a cold, up to 8 times a year. Have not had it now for nearly nine years. In Oz it is the only meds I get for free.

Love & Hugs

Gail

Well first day of new job done with and so far so good. I am working for a company that processes and scans archive records and documents not exactly childcare but its a job.

I didnt see how clean is your house last night so I am none the wiser.

British legion phone today and also had contact from RAF Ass but they wont do anything until mother back home.

(((((((hugs))))))))) to all

Claire

Whitenancy, but it is progress that they have replied and that they will be in contact once your Mum is home. Glad the job went OK. Not childcare but it is money coming in.

Gail, It is sad for your daughter that she wants to feed and can't and no doubt it is painful for her too. But when she sees how contented and pain free baby is I am sure she will feel she is doing the best thing for him.

Carole glad your Dad's pneumonia is better, even though you didn't know he had it!!

Gill hope you finally got rid of the headache.
Liz, it must be tiring for your OH having to cycle and then work long hours but he shouldn't take it out on you. Still thinking of your friend

I have a busy day tomorrow although will probably manage to squeeze in some time on here. Because the tomatoes have not ripened we have a glut of green ones so tomorrow I have the joy of making green tomato chutney. Not a job I enjoy, it makes the house smell and takes forever cooking them to a puree but we do enjoy the chutney so it has to be done. the tomatoes are beginning to go black because of the damp weather. Did pick a good pound of red ones today though. We go away on Sunday for 4 weeks so all these things have to be done immediately!

Ann
Glos

hello everyone

My headache is just starting to lift but I am very tired and will go to bed now.

Hope you all have had a good day

(((((((((((((hugs to all )))))))))))))))))))

Gill

goodnight Gill Hope you wake with a clear head in the morning.

ann
Glos

Ann going away for four weeks? Where you going?
Hope you have a lovely time and we will all miss you loads I'm sure xx Oh no it isn't a GR ban is it?

Gill how's the head this morning? xx

Liz any news about your friend? xx

Betty thanks for pm, can't wait for you to be back properly without using internet cafes. xx

Gail it must feel sad not to be able to feed a baby when it's something you realy wanted to do but I'm sure seeing him happy and content will help H feel happier herself. Will email you today if I have time to
get back on here. Son is off work so he hogs the puter xxx

Paula haven't seen you for a while xx

Don't think Dave will mind me telling you all he has a new job at the hotel he tried for earlier this year . Congratulations Dave x

Anyone seen any posts from Malc?

Jules do you still look in? Hope you are okay xx

Eileen how are you and the family ? x

Kathy is your kitchen back to normal now ? Hope you are okay xx

Elaine thinking of you and your oh xx

Deanna what are you doing this week end? x

Caz Y sending healing thoughts to you xx

Carolina how are you all x

Caz C thinking of you x

Anyone heard from Angela and Christina?

Morning everyone

I still have a bit of a headache but not as bad as yesterday.

Hope everyone here has a friendly and happy day

(((((((((hugs to all )))))))))))

Gill

Good morning all.

We are off to Brittany at the crack of dawn tomorrow. Daughter and hubby should be here sometime in the early hours of tomorrow.Their 3rd child, Muelle, will be celebrating her 21st birthday (actually on 2nd sept.) tomorrow evening, boy, will WE feel up to it, after driving 11,500 kms.
Today is my daugher Sarah's son's 2nd birthday.Shame I can't be there.Floris is a lovely, funny little boy.

Am in bit of a muddle, will have to revise what I can take with me for a 12-day stay.Daughter mailed to say that their car is packed already...they flew out to their daughter Indra & co.bought a car to replace their ancient one, have drastically downsized, so it looks like a toothbrush and clean knickers will have to do...

Thank you for mentioning me, it is really nice to know that people care.

It is supposed to be sunny this weekend, so I hope you all can get out and about to enjoy it.

Take care everyone.

Eileen xx

Hi Carol, not a ban (yet). we are going to Tenerife North for four weeks will be back on 27 September.

Ann
Glos

afternoon everyone hope you all having a good day ,its been a long one for me and hubby well as you no he hato go to hospital this morning for a cardio rehab assesment for cardio gym after his heart opp 7 weeks ago well we was up early arrived on time then to start with when we went in they didnt have him in the book as coming today even though they sent us the letter so she hato do all the paperwork while we were there ,then asked alot of questions any way ,the outcome was they think he not well enough yet to start in gym doing cardio exersizes so she refured him to another person who will do a one to one with him at home ,instead of gym ,so we waiting for another call from her ,then to top it all he seen gp other night about these turns he is having and now he has wrote to another consultant hubby is under for a acustic nuroma ,to see him sooner for mri scan to cheak that it has not grown so all in all not a good day ,as we were coming home hubby said im another regect ,told him dont be silly you will improve but it will just take time so i hate to think what he is thinking or how he is really feeling as he is not one for opening up and saying ,hugs to all elaine

Hi everyone, just poped in to say I'm still around and thinking of you all.... got a lot going on in September , some of it good some not so good.................

Had a good 2nd day at work came home feeling very positive as they have offered me extra hours for the next 2 weeks as another staff member is on holidays.

Rang my sister and suddenly i dont feel so good mother refused to ring the British Legion apparently we have have destroyed her and my dads service record is too long ago and too embarrassing (who was never good enough and def not her intellectual equal(spot the narcissism)).

She hasnt had a bath for 2 week now and according to my sister is slightly incontinent but trying to hide it

Now she is say she cant go back to Norfolk because everyone will know how she lived and she can never hold her head up in public again.

Can she not understand that she has brought the shame on herself and there is only one person to blame in all this and that is herself.

Whose fault does she think it is then Whitenancy? If she wont let people like the British Legion help her who does she think is going to supply replacement furniture. I suggest your sister tells her she has to go back to her home because she can't stay there for ever as there is not room. Or would she rather go into a residential home? she sounds as if she is being very manipulative

ann
glos

ohh dear Claire, sounds like you have a big problem on your hands. You and your sister will have to put your foot down with her. It's her fault not yours.

Do you all remember the woman at my work having a go at me for being late? I told them at work I would not travel with her again. Wednesday when the supervisor was doing travel arrangements for next week, she said she would pick me and another up then go for the woman I had the do with. So I thought I can sit here and not say anything, or I can speak up for myself. So I said I would travel on my own that day. Supervisor asked why. So I said it was because I would not travel with B. B said are you still stewing over that? I said no but I would have trouble that morning worrying about being late. B said weren't you listening? Supervisor was driving not you. I said you don't understand anxiety I would worry, and that would make it more likely I would be late. So she said that's because you are stupid. I said it's because of idiots like you that makes it harder for me. I walked away. Then she got me again in the staff room. I tried to stay calm and talk but she just didn't get why I had a problem. I said why do you think I am seeing a psychologist, I am trying to get better. I was so upset and nearly in tears, so had to go outside for a walk to calm down.
Now I'm worried I am making a bad atmosphere at work. I feel bad about myself for acting this way

Hi folks
Just popping in quickly at work, very busy evening so only have a sec.
All is really quite well, I am gradually coming out of the fog created by my mis-management of the Celexa. Actually feeling VERY much better.
Got a surprise today, apparently somehow I qualified at the bank, of all places, to receive an ASUS EeePC, tiny laptop. Not sure how it will be, but hey, it's free . . .
Colleen leaves on Monday for Kingston and the kids and I will have to care for each other in her absence. Now I'm becoming nervous.
I just got my monitor back today (at least, I received a replacement one from HP) and hopefully should be online again by next mid-week. I'm off work for the next week so won't be able to check in until I am connected at home.
If I may, I'd like to ask you to remember a friend of mine, someone with whom I work, whose son was killed last week. Sadly he was with the 'wrong crowd', and was shot in the head, age 19. His body had to go to the forensic lab and was just released yesterday to the family. Please remember his mother who is in total denial, doing his laundry so it will be fresh when he comes home etc. Her sisters are coming from Angola and her husband from Portugal. her grief is shared by all those who know her; sad enough that a mother has lost her child, but she has all the additional emotions of anger, guilt, shame etc to exacerbate her profound grief. They emigrated for "a better life". I refuse to discuss the circumstances of his death, at present his mother is the victim and needs our support.
Have a good and healthy weekend everyone, hugs to those who need them today, look forward to being back among you all.
Love
MAry

Ann
I am more than ever convinced that she has Narcissistic personality disorder She fit the criteria perfectly which of course means in her eyes she has done nothing wrong and it is everyone else's fault.

At least my sister has developed a bit of a backbone and apparently gave it to mother with both barrels last night.

We are going to take her back next weekend no matter what i have got her a new bed through freecycle. Will try again for fridge etc although i am quite sure it wont be up to mother exacting standards but she has a choice use it or have to sleep in spare bed.

I am going to take mother out for a bit tomorrow to give my sister a break she says its like living with a particularly demanding child.

Ladies and gents a few of us appear to be really bogged down at the moment.

Carole, I would be upset with this horrible person. You have done nothing wrong. Do not know how you manage to work with someone so uncaring.

Whitenancy, You have your hands full. Your mother sure sounds like a narcissistic. I do not know what she expects you to do, perhaps fly to Mars and back.

Love to every one.

Gail

My love to everyone,

Caz xxxx