General Chat

Hi everyone
Still reading all threads, to keep up with everyone. Been busy decorating, a little bit at a time each day but it still makes me feel rough. I have a purpose now for getting it done-just found out my step-son is expecting twins-the bad news is it was a drunken one night stand. I can see me having babysitting to do
janet

Hello all, not read through the thread for the past 6 days but just wanted to let you know I am back from the Lake District. had a lovely time, one wet day - last Sunday, otherwise fabulous weather. Did one 4.5 mile walk, one almost 4 miles and two about 2, went in the pool three times but only swam a couple of lengths and a couple of widths each time. back to washing etc now. All unpacked anyway which is a start and one load in the machine.

Ann
Glos

hello Ann
Glad you had a nice break, I haven't been around much lately seem to hit the depression level again, can't seem keen to talk to people really.

I'll try again tomorrow.




Ycaz hope you are ok - have a nice rest and take it easy.


Gill

hi all i went to the breast clinic today and one dr said its a cysts then i went for a scan and that dr said it was a Fat Necrosis due to Trauma or Injury but because i haven't had an injury and because of the family history they did a biopsy so i have to go back next week for the results
i hope your all feeling ok

love and hugs

carolina xx

Carolina that is good news. You must feel better now you know.xxx

Sue you are so right. It's a real effort trying not to be
sad all the time. You just can't forget how you feel, and get on with life. Here we can say how we feel and know our friends understand that cos we laugh we are not really finding life easy at times. At work some of them think I'm ok now, been back five months, they don't know I'm still struggling to cope.
Some are really good and realise I'm not okay yet xx

Deanna I have been off loperimide for six months or more. Have hundreds in the medical cupboard as bought them in America last year where they are cheaper. It's like sone one who stops smoking and hangs on to a packet of cigs, I hold on to the loperimide!!

Liz what a lovely day to spend at a garden show. Hope you had a good time xx

Angela thinking of you and oh xx

Gill I thought you had been quiet! Do you want to talk? Pm me when you're ready xx

Hi Janet, ~~~~~xx

Anyone seen Eileen?

Elaine thinking of you xx

Gale hope you have had a good chat with J xxx

Kerry hows work going? xx

Joyce ????? Where are you again??xxx

Ann bet it was lovely in The Lakes. Didn't you do a lot of walking. xxxx Fit family hey?

Kathy, are you okay? xxx

Mary, Mary, (((((xxx))))) sending you hugs and kisses. xxx

Betty do I have to shout!! What are you up to? xx

Malc, Dave and Ben just to let you know I'm thinking of you all xxx

Today I saw my GP for a three monthly check up on the tablets and how I'm doing. He was really pleased to see me not crying, but smiling! He is always willing to listen and even sat and read a paper I took in to show him what I have been dealing with with my parents. Been in the garden, shoulders
tingle with the sun, and my back aches from digging
and mowing. Saturday tomorrow a lie in ohhhh can't wait xxxxx

just been learning chinese heres a few words I have learnt. 1. thats not right(sum ting wong) 2. see me Asap(kum hia nao) 3.small horse(tai ni po ni) 4. u need a facelift (chin tu fat) 5.Ithought u were on a diet(wai yu mun ching) First lesson from shaz part 2 tomorrow. love to everyone shaza

Shaza,

Having read those I may just up my dose...pmsl

Sue xx

You caught me there Sharon, I started to think 'why is she learning Chinese' lol, then I read the words lol

Didn't go to the Show today as o.h. late back from work and didn't feel very well so lazy afternoon, he rallied and cut the grass and fitted the hose back to the outside tap, as altho we have water butts I cannot always manage to carry heavy cans to the tubs and shrubs. Gave some things a good soaking later between cooking dinner and such.
He is snoring away in bed, he works tomorrow so we will go on Sunday instead altho it will be busier. Sometimes they sell off things cheaply rather than take them away so might get some bargains, who knows?
Carole, how good to have doc who listens, mine is like that but she is a bit forgetful so has to be chased up all the time to arrange any checkups etc.
Hi to Ann, glad you enjoyed your holiday and managed to do some nice walks and some swimming, wish I could do walks like that. I used to go out with o.h. every Sunday to the coast and walk miles, even in winter but no more I am afraid, too difficult to walk far now. Will probably exhaust me on Sunday at the show but can rest on Monday luckily.
Love and hugs to all, Caroline, glad you got the results you did and hope further tests come back all clear.
Lizxx

H....had a busy few days..feel like Sh.T. my body hurts,each day its getting closer to the anniversary,not coping,cant even get drunk ,I've tried.................bye

Hi everybody,
sorry not on for the last while, sharp downward curb in drinking problem, think she is back with ex, not sure as she does not talk, went to dr. to have chat with him for help but all he said is and I quote "I am listening to you talking about your family for years," unquote."What do you think I can do about it".
Waveyone,
I am not very good at putting my words across but please believe me when i say if you get drunk it only numbs the feelings for a while and you feel worse when the numbness goes away I have never drank but know only too well what it does to people,I know that people cope very differently with death, some "get over it" quicker than others but we never "get over it" we start at our own pace learn to cope with it.We seem to be coping the out of the blue something reminds of them, something that they did, said or even someone in the street that maybe looks a little like them and for a fleeting moment we think that it is our loved one.When my younger sister died t wo years ago I started to write poetry?, and for myself a story about our lives when we were young.It wasn't very good but It helped me.
Carole sorry have being reading up but not posting, sorry to hear that your dad did not get home he must have been very disappointed also your mam, how is your friend now?. I see that she had to go back into hospital again.
Carolina glad to see that the tests are looking promising for you and will talk to-morrow.
Liz the perfume from your garden must be wafting through the whole village now.hope that yours and Carole's counselling keeps going from strenght to strenght write? I can't even spell.
Eileen are you still away?.
Ycaz hope that you were not badly hurt when you fell.
Elaine hope you and oh are well.
Everyone that I have missed I wish you positive thoughts and ((((((hugs)))))) for anyone in pain anguish to-night.
Love to all,
Bless, Betty.

Oh Betty, sorry to have missed you love, hope M sorts herself out soon, and that she isn't back with 'him' and will curb the drinking again.
What a shame your doctor spoke to you like that, I had the same off a different doc to my usual one re my ocd and I made a complaint about him. It isn't right to talk to people like that, no matter they might have had a bad day!
The garden is looking so nice in the sunshine, the hazelnut tree is a lovely shape with the grasses underneath and the clematis, which I think is the one called Elizabeth, smells delightful, it now grows over the gate and along the side wall by the driveway, leaves a dreadful mess all over the cars but smells so nice and is pretty for the neighbour whose kitchen looks out to it, better than just looking at the cars and blank end wall of the house, she has a bungalow so is only that window she can see it from. O.h. says he is glad I persuaded him to put up trellis to support it now.
We are on the outskirts of a busy city, Norwich, but have a field at the end of the garden, 5 miles from the city center by road. I have got peonies in bud and astilbes growing well, a couple of buds on my roses, but no sweet peas this year. The blue tits are busy feeding their young ones we think, in the bird box and yesterday I found a white egg shell in a pot under the fir tree where I think the pigeons or collared doves have a nest. The blackbird isn't nesting in the bushes this year which is a shame but I am sure they are somewhere close as they come to the bird table for bits, as does the robin and lots of starlings which have nested in the eaves of next doors house and probably this one too. They are so noisy lol Oh and a couple of magpies are visitors too. If/When I leave here it will be the garden I miss the most lol

Betty, I hope things get better for you and your family give you a bit less to worry about. Hope S. is doing ok,
You take care, love,
Lizxxx

Betty it makes me really mad to hear a dr could talk to you in that way. I have to say my Drs are really good and supportive. I first remember when I went to see my dr he explained to me that what I was feeling was a real medical condition to do with chemicals in the brain. He sat and listened to me he had a real bed side manner. The same with the pychatric consulant. I must say I have had so much support from people the hospice shop, friends. I even think my mum and dad understand a bit more. I had depression and aniexty before this episode and mum and dad never really under stood even though years ago my dads aunty had terrible mential illness that her child was put into care. As a child I saw my great aunty drunk and depressed quite alot but. my dad would shout and others in the family at her. I even remember me telling her off for upsetting my nan because she used to worry. I was told children should be seen and not heard by my gran my g aunt said that ok. She had electric shock treatment loads of pills that when you tryed talking to her she was in another world she would look straight through you. I remember when I first had my episode of depression and
actually before then when i was a tenager coming home after a night out drinking my dad said do you want to be like your aunty. As a child I know mum and Dad wanted the best for us but they didnt half criticise. My brother was golden child. Me and mum used to clash. I am closer now because when they saw me 3 years ago I think I just nearly give up. Now I am better and alot stronger. We talk now how difficult it was for my aunty she lived faraway noone to talk to or help her. She was all alone, and in the end for her she was taken in care. I just wish they understood then abit more. Mind you medication and help is better now than 30 years ago. Thanks for listening. will be taking dog for walk later. Also might do some gardening Liz you have got me motivated. might send some jokes out tonight to cheer everyone up. Or learn abit more chineese. love to Liz, Deana, waveyone, Betty, Mary,Elaine,Joyce, Sharron,Ann and anyone else I forgot. love Shaza

Heres some more chinese lessons no1 hes cleaning car (wa shing ka) no2 your body odour is offensive(yu stin ki pu) 3. This is a tow away zone(no pah king) 4 stupid man(dum fuk) 5 great (fa kin su pah) lol I hope this cheers everyone up. love shaza

Next time anyone needs to relax it might be a good idea to dream about the garden Liz keeps! It sounds lovely with all the birds coming.
Liz thanks for the pm.xx

Shaza I use to drink most nights when I was in my teens. Went home drunk most of them too. Now I see it gave me confidence to talk to people, and
not be scarred of everything. I had a few one night stands craving to feel loved and pretty. I'd flirt to get a boyfriend then when I proved I could get him I'd dump him, cos didn't really want him! More I think about it I'm pretty messed up!!
My daughter went to work in Japan, and when she was back my oh was always saying he had learnt a new Japanese word and came out with one of your Chinese sounding words. Daughter got fed up with him!! lol

Sue how are you? Keep reading on here and see just how the execise helps those grey cells, remembering everyone will show you can do it xx

Wendy would it help you to send a pm to anyone?
I haven't been through what you have but if it helps you you can pm it all to me. I saw a lady on John Edward who had lost her husband, she keeps a diary and uses it to "talk to her husband", she said it helps as she feels she is still sharing her life with him. xxxx

Janet hope you are ok, is the news settling? x

Eileen still missing xx

Y Caz could you get an extension cable for you phone line up to your lap top, you could talk all day then, and keep your feet up xx

Joyce how's it going ? I bought 500 miles walkies of amazon, will read it when I have time ! And think of you xx

Deanna how are you all ? xx

Sharron thinking of you xx

Kerry you are quiet are you ok? xx

Angela you have your hands full but I know you wouldn't want it any other way, (except him fit and well!! ) xxx

Betty lovely to see you. Well Dad did go home!! Mum was moaning the hospitals right arm didn't know what the left was doing. He went home with a big plaster on his arm where he had caught it getting in the ambulance ( they had caught it), it was about five when he got home.
Sorry to hear M is maybe back with him, and on the drink. It's hard for her to need the love of a man and feel pretty, but be on her own. But she won't get real love there will she! She needs counselling, could her doctor get it for her? xxx

Kathy, Gill, Gale, Ann GG, Irene, Ben, Malc, Dave,
Carolina, Mary , Elaine, love to all xxx

Just had good news, my friend is home from hospital. She has had seven weeks off work being sick, couldn't eat, on a drip and
had an endoscopy. This week she had a scan and they found a blockage in her intestine. Now she is up and well, out with her sister today!!

Hello everyone.

I managed to go to the hairdressers today...whoohoo! OH helped me shower when we got home so I am a new person.

Had my usual scalping to last me 5 weeks, I had my hair cut Jan 3rd, the day before I went into hospital. When I looked like the Dulux dog about 7 weeks ago a friend came over and wielded his scissors to help me out.

I have done 2 lots of washing! The paperwork is still sitting in a huge pile and I still can't face that!

The weather has definately made me feel better during the day, the evenings and nights remain dark in more than one sense. Demons seem to pop out unexpectedly then.

Still wrestling with latest problem on my own. How much longer I can do that I don't honestly know. Thank you for the offers of talking privately I will take you up on those when I am ready.

Love to everyone who is suffering. Thank God for this thread.

Love
Sue xx

Hi everyone
This is an excellent thread and I am so pleased for Carole when I read that people feel better for it being in place.
I am a firm believer in talking or writing things down, it helps to get stuff out of your system and to actually know that someone is out there listening to you is wonderful.
I am becoming a bit of a hermit just now, I feel I can't deal with the outside world, so please excuse me not speaking to people directly on here but I do read the messages.
I wish everyone well and hope you have some amount of peace in the day, you deserve it. Life is very difficult to deal with at the best of times so I award you all a medal for bravery
Love Janet

I have just Read the last two pages and we are not too bright at the moment are we?
Still, we have each other to talk to and that helps doesn't it?
My hand is still not good enough for typing and my wrist band restricts it a bit, which slows me down and frustrates me.

Allan is not too well today, he even went back to bed after breakfast.... which he just never does. It is sad to see him like this... not old age, but sick.
Tony did our bit of shopping for us, we are so lucky to have him. As sick as he may be, he will always look after us. a good boy... he is man, but to me.... he is still my boy! ;-0)

Angel, your poor lad must be in a bad way bless him. Just you enjoy all the time you have together love.

I would love to chat to each one of you , but at the minute Allan is in the shower, and then we will sit together and watch today's...... *cowboy film!*.... a gold star to everyone who knew what I was going to say!! ;-0)

And Wavy~~~~~~~ any doctor who talks to a patient in that manner needs replacing. Are there any other doctors in your practice?
I am sure they must get bored with us over time... but it is their job and they should NEVER MAKE YOU FEEL THAT WAY.
My little lovely doctor is a gem. she never forgets anything , and she listens to what I have to say.
I had a letter this morning to go and have another blood test. then she will wean me off the iron tablets.... IF my haemoglobin is good.
So I will go with my lad's either Monday or Tuesday.... they both have appointments then.

So I have had a good chat about me!!

Sorry girls.
I just hope that you all are feeling well and that you have a great weekend.

If you want a coffee and a slice of walnut cake.... you are welcome.... at about 2.30, just before the film starts... ;-0)

Joyce , how are you?
Caz Y... yo should be in bed.
Sue... hope you get sorted soon
Gill... I know what it is like to 'not feel like talking'.... but we can wait for you love.

my arm is now hurting up to my elbow... so must stop typing.
So... Janet, Mary, Shaz (both of you X),
Kathy, Elaine, Eileen, Kerry, Gail, and all our lovely pals on here.... look after yourselves and I will see you all next time.


forgot to say.......
LOVE DEANNA XX (I'm an idiot!)

Deanna, you are not an idiot, well no more than the rest of us lol! Only kidding folks, I think we are all brill cos we try to talk about our feelings and help each other.
Glad I got you motivated to do some gardening Sharon, wish you were near by, could give you lots of plants, our lovely grasses do spread themselves and we have lots of baby ones needing homes. As I sit here with the patio door open I can hear the planes going over taking people on holiday, bet they are all fedup cos they are paying good money to go to the sun when we have it hear lol Sky is blue with little puffs of white cloud and the birds are singing, well blackbirds were scolding a little while ago, I expect one of the babies was somewhere they didn't think was safe, or one of the local cats was around. So many different shades of green out there, with all the different shrubs and trees but this garden is not very big, less than 7 fence panels long and less wide than that. I got o.h. to paint the panels blue and they set off all the greens beautifully, and coincidentally most of the flowers are blues, purples (of course, lol) pinks, and whites so it looks great. Wish I could put a picture on here for you.
Have a good day everyone, and take care, enjoy the sun and don't forget, slip slap slop, as the sayings goes, something to do with putting on sunscreen and wear your sunhats too lol
love and hugs,
Lizxx

hope our MaxiMary is ok, haven't heard from her for a day or some and Kathy too.

Hi
Liz, is it, slip a shirt on, slap a hat on and slop the cream on? Something like that.
Just been out in the garden with daughter, son in law and OH staring up at the sky where four large birds have been circling. we think they may be red Kites but they are too high to see. Big birds, too big to be the usual hawks and definitely not seagulls!!!! So graceful to watch.

When we were in the Lake district - at Tarn Howes we saw a young red squirrel, very pretty to watch, quite tiny scampering everywhere.

Our garden too is not very big, about 8 panels long, seven wide and it is looking good. OH has been working hard out there. I was annoyed this afternoon because I found two of our flag Iris buds have been eaten while we were away. I hate slugs, little vandals. Still the Aquilegia are looking good, we have a lot of those in purple, blue, pink and white. and the Hardy geraniums (Cranesbill) are also looking good. Too good in some cases as they are spreading a bit too much.

Sue, please don't wrestle with your problems on your own for too long. It may well help you to talk to one of us by PM. we are all discreet and willing to listen.

Deanna, sorry your wrist is so painful it is extra annoying when the pain we suffer stops us doing what we enjoy isn't it. Hope you get some relief from it soon. and sorry that Alan is feeling unwell, makes you feel so helpless doesn't it? Hope he feels better soon.

Janet, no problem, just read and post when you feel like it, we don't mind, just check in occasionally.

Gill, come back and chat soon, hope you feel better soon too.

Betty, sorry you have troubles with your daughter. Hope you can find a solution for her problems soon.
Carole so pleased that your friend is better. what a pity they couldn't find the cause before. Hope they found a permanent solution to the problem.

Wavy, how are you today?

My two holidays have definitely done me good. while they have not solved my back problem they have made me feel so much better after the trauma of the op.

Ann
Glos

Joyce another 143 posts to go!!!

Ann
Glos