General Chat

Ben so glad to see you, but now a bit more worried about you.
do you have any help for these feelings Ben?
Glad you are back anyway.. just keep posting.... something will hot home eventually.
God Bless... X

Gill, you come back when you are ready.
Giving yourself somethin g else to worry about is not going to help you. X

Mary your heart must have been in your mouth.. your grandchildren... the idea of what could have happened.
Can't you lock that door?

Have a wonderful mothers day.
I will be back later everyone, but dinner is ready... gotta wash my hands and be at the table like a nice well brought up litte girl!!! Little???? ha ha ha

love to all,
Deanna XXXX

Hi Deanna, the door was locked (we have keypad locks for her outside doors) but we were all outside in the garden, and Gareth escaped up the stairs with nobody noticing him, apparently sarah did too, eyes in the back of ones head aren't enough with those two LOL.
I seem to be fine again this morning, when those bad days hit, I can hardly put one foot in front of the other . Just looking outside makes me feel positive this morning, it's so tidy and looked as if someone cares. The neighbour took the time to say she liked what we were/are doing out there. It's an inch at a time. The 200 year old lilac is covered with white blooms, looks lovely despite being at 45 degrees LOL. I have an expert coming on the 29th (Meg's b'day) to assess my garden/lawn/trees for free. So we'll see if they have any suggestions for helping this lilac move to a bit more upright position. It's the neighbourhood curiosity,currently propped up with a long piece of wood - several people have stopped to comment. It is believed to be AT LEAST 200 years old. I must get Colleen to take a photo.

Sending encouragement and hugs to those who are down, it means so much when I'm down, for someone just to say they care, even if their issues are different, they are helping me to keep walking in my shoes.
WhiteNancy welcome to this amazing thread. we have friends here. And unbelievable support.
Ben I hope you are having some professional help with the notion of self-harm, I've been there, please remember it only take a second to make a decision which will change the rest of your life. Can you try forcing yourself to take your pulse on your wrist instead of the neck? Please come on here for a chat when you are feeling desperate, if there's no one else to talk to, there's usually someone on here, because of the varied time zones.
Hugs
Mary

goodness, so many of you who need a response on here since I looked in yesterday.

but first....Ooof! That was a good day, but very hot and I am shattered now with all the walking in the heat. arrived at the showground at 9am and left at 3pm, could have gone on, probably missed something but it just got too hot and we were drinking buckets (cider lunch time then water and coke. got quite a few plants to put in now, three hostas, six aquilegias a white mallow a small Acer and a tall yellow flower , the name escapes me. also bought some sweet chili sauce, asparagus and a beef and ale pie for dinner tonight. Oh yes and a butterfly on a rock. fantastic show at Malvern (Malvern spring garden Show), but very crowded, I think they have done well this year.

I have just taken some photos of the garden as it looks very 'cottagy' and pretty. Haven't downloaded them yet as they are on the end of the Lake District ones. Pity we can't put photos on here.

Ben, please come on here as soon as you feel the urge to self harm and discuss it with anyone who is around. Please don't press on your pulse. Why do you worry about your breathing? would it help to talk about that?

Y Caz, Deanna good to see you on here, also Sue.

Also nice to 'meet' you Whitenancy. This is a wonderful thread, come back and visit it again, always somebody around night and day.

Mary, can you not put up something to stop the children from climbing up, as Liz suggested, trellis maybe.

gill, sorry you are not feeling great, you know where I am if you want to PM me.

Wavyone, It is good that you are getting support from your family now, lean on them and they will help you.


Better go and help OH sort out the new plants (well supervise where he puts them really. It is so hot we have been forced to put out the hanging baskets before they burn up.
Ann
Glos

Hi all

I have not felt the urge to touch my pulse on my neck today. I hate these ocd urges.

I recently did worry about my breathing that I am not inhaling or exhaling enough air, or that I might stop breathing or something. The chances of that are very unlikely arent they? How long would it take for you to pas out if you stopped breathing. The worrying over breathing has stopped but I would still like some advice on it please?

I have had ocd for a long time and had owrries about harming others but I have never before worried about harming myself before until recently when I owrried over my pulse.

Ben

Ben,

That is great!!!! One day without that urge must be a step forward.

You are NOT going to stop breathing. The amount of breath you inhale and exhale is regulated by your body naturally enabling you to get sufficient oxygen.

People train to hold their breath, pearl divers are just one example. I know I can't hold mine for very long, brain then takes over and I have to take a breath. It's the built in survival safety mechanism and you cannot overide it.

Have you spoken with your GP about this one? Has anyone else in your group experienced the same worry?

I am sure someone else on here will help you with this too.

Sue x

Breathing is instinctive Ben so I think it would be impossible to stop it. When you have these thoughts would it be possible for you to immediately concentrate on thinking about something else. like a puzzle in your family tree or something? Or immediately come on here so we can talk you through it.

Ann
glos

hi everyone i hope you have all had a good day>
love and hugs
Rachxxx

Hi Rach, how are things with you? Good to see you 'calling in'.

ann
Glos

What a lovely weekend! I'm feeling quite good at the moment, just very tired! Not sleeping too well on work nights. Again been constipated since Thursday! Tomorrow it'll start with a vengance ten min's before I have to go to work.

Ben you can hold your breath but your bodies instinct will make you breath. Mum's learn that with babies which hold their breath! As for the pulse, can you find one in a finger tip? It would be better to feel for there. Have you ever tried doing something else to distract you from doing the self hurt ect? Try an elastic band on a wrist and pluck it. Make a little sequence on it. I tried that to take my mind off going to the loo!! Or a bag in your pocket with small things in. A button, marble, stone, penny so on. Fiddle with it to take your mind off the other things that pop up!

NO NO I don't mean that!! Blush !!!

Mary Mary quite contrary how does your garden grow? With a daughter and grandchildren, and lots of love !!! Oh thats not right is it!!! Oh yes it is !!!
xxxx

Deanna sending love to you xxx

Liz another heavenly sounding garden.xxx

Joyce do you feel any better? xx

Eileen do you want to pm me? Don't let things get to you on your own xxx

Gill would it help you to talk in a pm to me? xxx

Gale thinking of you and your family xxx

Sue ~~~~~ xxx

Carolina, Kerry, Ann G, Kathy, Rach Wendy ((((xx)))
Irene haven't seen you for ages xx

Welcome to the club White nancy xx

Morning everyone, don't like to see 'us' sink so low down the threads. looks like it is going to be another lovely day here so may get a bit of gentle gardening in. Don't want to hurt my back again so have to be careful.

I am waiting to hear if my nearly 18 year old Great Niece has had her baby yet - she is expecting a boy and went into labour on Friday, seems to be stop start but Saturday was every five minutes. Not heard from my sister (her Nana) since last night so probably no news.

Have a good day everyone.

Ann
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HI all

Things ok Ann! Still struggling a little ups and downs had a couple of bad days
Rachxxx

ANN.... Friday she went into labour???

Bless her heart, that is a long time.

Hope she has him soon. XX

Allan at the doctors and I am trying very hard to do some H********......... the very fact that I can even think of it is a huge improvement.
Still have things that I can't do... like take the hoover out. I am cleaning the kitchen floor with a dustpan and brush.
Sounds heavy, but one of the things which I have managed to maintain is my 'flexibility'... I can bend over to do things very easily... it is standing that causes me the problems.

Eileen, missed you this morning love.

Ben please look after yourself, and be good to you Ben... you are an important person love.

Joyce hope you are okay today, I know that you have times when you can't be bothered ... like the rest of us, but I miss you on here. x

Mary, Kathy, Gail, Gill, Sue, Caz Y, Elaine... how is your husband these days?
Janet, Sharon, and Sharron.... I will eventually be able to tell you apart... at the moment you are like twins to me! ;-0)

Wendy , are you about still?

Carole... our *founder*... good morning all.
I will go finish what I am doing.. then perhaps do a bit of reading... new book... my idea of luxury.

Have a lovely day all of you. The sun is shinning and we all feel better on days like this don't we?

Love to all those I have forgotten... I will get there in time...;-0)

love Deanna XXX

Just heard, my great niece had her little boy (name not chosen yet) 6lb 12 Oz at 3.30 this morning. All well. Thank goodness that is over for her, must have been an ordeal in this heat.

Deanna, don't go doing too much now!

Ann
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morning everyone ,hope you all enjoying this nice weather i didnt se much of it over the weekend spent it painting the living room ,so am having a day of today ,and just gona potter about in garden ,hello to deanna ,carole ,ann congratulations on the new born ,and every one on here ,well a quick up date im not doing to bad these last few days been on a high ive noticed if i keep myself busy im ok dont have time to think ,and dont notice the shakes so much il be worn out at this rate ,as for hubby he gets out of breath at doing the slightest little thing and its getting him down he of to stoke on whensday for the day he taking part in a medical exam for the students ,they picking him up and bringing him home and having dinner there , its his birthday today so happy birthday love ,love you loads xxx hugs to all xxelaine xx

Morning everyone.

Congrats to Ann's great niece x

Well, can't face paperwork but will try later on, if I don't clear it soon we will be eating on our laps cos the dining table is full.

Doctor phoned me this morning and is sending scrip for Tramadol to local chemist. He knows that I have a tendency to drop blood pressure but I will give it a go. Anything to try and ease this unrelenting pain. It may also accelerate my INR level but as I am still .6 under my target they will keep an eye on that (I have weekly bloods anyway).

I only have one physio appointment this week plus trip to surgery so it's basically a slow week.

Why do we always try and push ourselves at home? I have dusted around, wiped up the dishes, I keep looking at the fridge shelves and I will have to attack those today as I am ashamed :-(( Swept kitchen floor, apart from the fridge none of it really matters but having been used to a clean house I feel guilty that I cannot keep on top of it. OH says it doesn't matter but he works long hours and I don't want him to come home to a tip!

We bought plants for the tubs and baskets last week and I planted them up on the kitchen worktops cos I can't bend over. That worked really well, so at least they are finished for the year.

Well I am going to try and stay out of bed for another hour..

Love to everyone who is suffering.

Sue xx

sue, no wonder you don't want to do the paper work after doing all that housework.

It feels as if you have built up the paper work to be a mountain to climb. why not break it down into bite size chunks. One day sort into piles in order of importance. Then each day do just one piece of it, or two if you can manage. Organise a reward for yourself and give yourself an award each time you clear one thing. keep us informed if you like so we can cheer you on in the paper chase!

Ann
Glos xx

Congratulations to the whole family Ann.
Bless her that was a long one.......

Sue you sound like me.
Ir is awful when you can't do as you used to.
Just a bit at a time, but then they come around again!!

Ann I can't do too much so I do what I can... and am so pleased to be able to.

Allan came back from the doctors... and the result is............... wait for it.....
EVETYTHING IS FINE!!
I just cannot believe it. The heart man will get in touch... but in the mean time??
Stuggle on old man! ....

Deanna XX

Oh another baby, how lovely, congratulations to the family and you Ann.
Deanna I'm thrilled for Allan, you can rest easy now that worry has been taken off your shoulders.
I've been out this morning to supermarket, suffering for it now with my back but it was lovely to get out for a bit. The weather is so hot though, I can't cope with the heat, was glad to get back home.
Sue my dining table is like that, only it's all family tree stuff, I've found that what comes down stays down now, it's difficult for me to get things up and down stairs. Lol, I can't even get myself down the proper way sometimes.
Hope everyone is enjoying the weather and it makes you feel a bit better.

Caz xx

Deanna, lovely news about Alan, a relief for you I am sure.

Yes, poor girl, that was a very long labour in this heat. Apparently, according to her Mum, she was fed up but kept her sense of humour.

YCaz, i am sure it is easier to take FH stuff downstairs and leave it in reach. Do you have a stair lift?

Ann
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Hi Ann, no as it is a small semi and has a cross over landing so a stairlift wouldn't fit. Occupational therapists came and looked round to see what could be done, but not a lot at end of day. They looked at putting a lift in but it would have to go in corner of front room, and would arrive upstairs in our bedroom doorway. No good as to get to the bathroom I would have to come down in lift and walk up stairs. In the end we were told we would have to be rehoused. We are just waiting for one to become empty now.

Caz xx