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Hi, week-end was ok ... did some gardening but body hurts today...been asleep all afternoon...

Hi everyone Just watching jack Dee hes really funny.. julian clarys on aswell. So having a good laugh. Julian has a great big hole cut out from the front and back of his trouser/leggings and he is wearing a thong. Hes just told venessa phelps sorry dear didnt recondise you there I thought Barbara cartland had come back. Hes just got some men up on stage. One man is in the navy. The man said to julian I am a submariner, and they do say they go deeper. Julian smiles then replied the champagne is practicly yours. See you soon love shaz

Hi Elaine how did you cope today? Hope you had a good meal when you got home.xx

Wavey Wendy have a soak in a hot bath, relax those muscles! xx

Liz take note! Too much work in the garden causes back ache! xx

Mary you take care too ! xx How is all your family? Gareth seem okay?

Betty are you and your family okay? xx

Hugs to Rach (((( xx))))

Carolina hi xx

Eileen are you home ? xx

Gail how are you? xx

Kathy (who isn't really grumpy) did you get back to B&Q ? xx

Joyce ~~~xx

Deanna ~~~~xx

Caz Y how are those feet, healing yet ? xx

Kerry are you doing ok? xx

Sharon ~~~~ x

Sharron ~~~~x not sure which one I'm talking to (but think it's you) when I say I'm off to see my phychologist tomorrow, armed with a highlighted wad of papers about Narc' mothers!! Had mine on the phone tonight, didn't ask how I am!

Gill thinking of you.xx

Jules miss you xx

Dave ~~~~xx

Malc how is your counselling going? xx

Sue hope you get on okay tomorrow xx

Caz C haven't seen you on here for ages xx

Ben ~~~x

This morning went just as I expected. Hadn't been to the loo for days and 10 min before I was due to leave it started!! I was a little late, and very tense as we had a 50 min drive to Boston. I don't know how I get to work somedays!

Bad news today Dad has to stay in hospital as they took out his catheter and he isn't peeing! So back in it went, and the nurses have to get the dr to see him. Mum is really disapointed as Dad will be. It's been six weeks in hospital for him now, and he only went in with a nerve that was painful, cos it was being squeezed by a muscle! There has been one thing after another to keep him in there!

My friend had a endoscopy ( did I tell you?) Friday and nothing was found. But tonight she has been taken back into hospital! Still being sick, no pain, but so fed up! I miss her at work. Hope she is soon on the road to recovery.

Hi Carole, hope you are ok, you sort of disappeared into the bottom of the page lol

Back not too bad but only did a bit of garden work on Monday, little and often keeps on top of things out there.
Take care, all of you,
need to get an early night if I can as counselling tomorrow.
Lizx

Liz hope your counselling was a positive experience this time.
Carole you are so wonderful keeping track of all of us.
To everyone else, thinking of you all, trying to motivate myself to do some work before going to work. Lovely sunny day, I should be outside, but here I sit. Worry about my cyber friends, wish we could have a group hug. I'm in need of one today, feeling a bit overwhelmed at present.
Love
Mary

hi every one mary am sending you a big hug hope it helps and one for everyone whom needs one hugs to all ,well carole coped quite well but was a long day ,had a fright this morning my phone rang and it was stoke hospital my heart went in my mouth so to speak ,i quickly imangined all sorts after yesterdays tests ,they wanted to no if hubby will be willing to let some students be involved in a examination of him and his case ,we said yes as they all have to learn somewhere ,but im gona make sure they are not involved in actual opp though you may think im being silly but only want hubby to have someone whos experanced in this surgery can i ask you all what you think ? am i being selfish as i no they have to learn somtime but not on my hubby need advise please xxelaine xx

Elaine.... I would want my husband to have the best surgeon available... no students thank you!

I also understand that they must learn, but could they learn by watching please??? ;-0)

I have had students around my bed when I was pregnant.... Oh the embarrassment!!

Love to everyone, but I am having problems with my out going mail, so I need to be working here... on my computer.
See you when/ if I ever get sorted.
Anyway, you might not like me today.
*nasty old woman alert*.....

Deanna XX

Today I had another counselling sesion with the phychologist. I took with me a diary I had to keep of
how asertive I have been! LOL. Need practise! So might try it on you unruly lot!! Now my diary for the next two weeks is to also keep notes of when I feel
???? I can't remember!! I also took a print out of an article Sharron has posted about Narcistic (sp) mothers and was told yes definately, thats the situation I am in.

Mary do you need to pm me! Share whats getting to you. ((((xxx))))

Deanna (nasty old woman) I don't believe it! xx
As Kathy V Meldrew said!! xx

Elaine I would be like you, yes the students can listen and take his pulse, but no cutting or stitching
( well maybe a bit of sewing). They have to learn
but we are not talking about sticking a thermo' anywhere, so let them keep their hands out of the way!!

Carolina the kids love growing stuff don't they. Have you done old tights with faces and grass seed in their heads?

Eileen , Caz, Joyce, Jules, Gale, Gill, Joyce, Liz,
Rach, Betty, Sharron, Sharon ~~~~xx

Hello all,

Sorry that I have been missing for such a long time. There has been so much going on here. My b/f (with terminal lung cancer) has now moved in with me permanently. He has registered with my gp's surgery & has nurses coming to see him regularly. They are currently trying to control his pain.

Meanwhile I have had my assessment to see if I am fit to go back to work. Have to wait & see now. I also started counselling last saturday.
I fell asleep on the sofa this afternoon because I am not getting a proper nights sleep.
Best wishes to all,
Angela

Hi Angela, it must be very hard for you to see your boyfriend in pain but glad he is having lots of help to try and control it. I wouldn't think you will be able to go back to work if you can't get sleep at night, you will end up poorly too if that continues and you try to combine work and looking after your man.
Good luck with the counselling, I had my session today. It went ok but she said she wanted to review the situation, well we sort of did and I have a bit of 'homework' to do before next apptmt, which isn't till MOnday 19th. Wish in a way we could have a set time and day each week but seems not, I seem to have to be fitting in around her. Fair enough I suppose, as she is therapy manager and only does some counselling so I am lucky to be seeing her.
Carole, it certainly seems to be stuff from my childhood and youth that is my problem and my mother and father helped cause some of the difficulties I think. Makes me worry a bit about what I have laid onto my own son, haven't always done things right altho did my best under difficult circumstances, pretty much on my own all the way through. Didn't get a lot of help or support from my family or friends. Most of my friends had already had their kids or didn't want kids - I was an older Mum.

Mary, wish I could get a hug to you and sit and have a cuppa and a chat, such a shame you are so far away. Am with you in thought tho more often than you know.
Love to everyone - I just can't answer all the posts but it doesn't mean I don't care, please believe that.
Hope Betty is ok, haven't seen you here lately and meant to say well done to Ben the other day for sounding so positive.
Lizxxxxx

Carole, since my operation 6/7years ago, I am the opposite of you.
I have to take LOPERIMIDE/IMODIUM... to keep control.
What a life, we don't seem to get anything right do we??

And I was nasty yesterday Carole... but it is not normal for me.

Angela, my heart goes out to you and your fella, hope you have a wonderful time together. God Bless

well my poor husband has been on the go since 7.30 this morning and he needs my company for a while.
So I will have to love you all and leave you until later today.
love
Deanna XX

sending my love to everyone


love and hugs

carolina xx

Hi gang, and welcome to our newbies, I spent ages writing a message after hospital visit on Wednesday then my puter went down and I lost it. I was so tired yesterday I just slept after a tidy round kitchen.
The good news is that Anne (my consultant) has given me a three months break from chemo, she wasn't happy at the state of my feet and hands. She wants my feet to clear up before I start again, unless I notice any more lumps growing then I have to go straight back on it.
The lump growing at side of toenail is what she called a granular growth, I had a little ingrowing toenail trimmed three weeks ago and my body tried to fill the space but got it wrong. It was the chemo that has ruined my auto immune system, hence the cold and flu like illnesses. I have to see my chiropodist asap, hubby said he would take me anywhere they could put me in first, only appointment available was next Tuesday a couple of minutes from home on the village street, you have to laugh.

Carolina, sorry I haven't been in touch but as you will have realised I had to stay in bed so no computer, hope you are doing ok and not worrying too much.

Joyce what is this about me still being a clown? I haven't fallen for a couple of weeks now, mind you I haven't walked much either, it's awful having to be in bed when it's the last place you want to be, boring.

Carole we have to wait for a flat to become available, I had a phone call last week from disabled housing offering me a flat just come empty, but it was in a complex a couple of villages away, I would have been isolated as well as housebound. As it is now, if I am in trouble I ring my sister at other end of village and she comes down, if I move to the other flat I wouldn't have that immediate help.

Elaine, I had a student in with us on Wednesday, he asked me if it was ok and I said like you, they have to learn. In my case though he was really interested as some of my cancer is visible on skin and he had never seen it, he was taken up with the way the lumps were shrinking and asked loads of questions. I don't think he had seen chemo tablets before either as he couldn't get over the size of them, I had taken the unused ones back. So all in all he learned a lot that morning he said. I don't think students would be allowed to help in a big operation though so don't worry about it.
To everyone else I have read your posts but there were so many to catch up on I can't remember who's done what now.

There has been so many things thrown at me lately that it has knocked me sideways, so as I said to a friend yesterday I want to crawl back into my shell while I sort myself out now. I will be reading all the posts but maybe not posting myself for a while.

Love and hugs to you all.

Caz xx

Hey caz !!! How lovely to see you. What a lot you have to deal with. Now you carry on doing what your doctors advise, and let's get you better and back here with your friends. You are always in my thoughts can't talk for others but I know others think of you too. Oh, I have an email from cazthom off to read it xxxxxxxxx Take care love Carole xxxx

Now after what I said earlier, don't anyone dare laugh, are you listening Joyce??? I am off back to bed to lie flat, I fell earlier and pulled my back and I can't stand up straight. So much for famous last words. Hubby's off today but gone to an appointment of his own, will have a hot bath when he gets back see if it eases, oh I am so annoyed.

Caz xx

Shhhh Caz, or Joyce will have you a clown outfit in the post!! xx

Caz... don't you think you have enough to cope with without chucking yourself about??

Were you, or were you not told to go lie down and let your beloved do for you??
So why didn't you??

Where is Joyce anyway?
She is going to miss the 3,000th message. We are moving towards it quite fast.

Well after a bad day yesterday I am hoping to have a better one today...
Wrist band on... even while I type, pain killers swallowed... and I am not going to spend too much time on the 'pooter' today.

Son just invited me out for breakfast... but I said no.
I have had mine and Allan has a nice dinner getting ready for us. I did consider taking my book and having a coffee with him.
He said.. "will you be accompanying 'mum' style or 'dad' style?"

I asked what the difference is, and he said.... "dad pays!";-0)

See you all later and I hope we all have a lovely day.
Angela how is your man? X

Eileen , Caz, Joyce, Jules, Gale, Gill, Joyce, Liz,
Rach, Betty, Sharron, Sharon , Carole Elaine, Mary,Kathy, Janet, Carolina and anyone else I may have missed... don't be upset, I'll get you next time...xxxxxxx
Where are all the boys?
Don't say we have cured them!

Aren't we the best doctors??? ;-0)

love Deanna XX

Hi all, a flying visit before o.h. gets in from work, early on Fridays :>((

We are off to a Garden Show this afternoon, I am tired but will go, as it is a beautiful day and will be nice to be outside. Won't dare buy anything tho as he will complain, he says I have too many things in pots and tubs now, not much actual growing space in his garden so if I have tubs I can take them back to my garden eventually.
Don't know how anyone can have too many tubs or pots but then he doesn't get the joy from them the same way I do.
Caz, hope you feel better after a warm bath, take care hon and Deanna, hope today is better for you, what a lovely son, and husband, you have.
Everyone else, hi and hugs,
Lizxxxxx

Morning everyone.

Sorry I have missed saying hello for a few days, too busy fighting with surgeon and now I am gunning for the local council re charging for a Radar Key. I am gonna email my MP later and complain that the disabled are being financially discriminated against for needing a pee!!!!
Good job I have low blood pressure :-))

I have tried to catch up on all the posts, some of them have been absorbed by the few little grey cells I have left.

I send love to everyone suffering mentally or physically.

Life seems like utter hell sometimes. I will not increase my anti-depressant dosage and will have a chat with GP on the phone on Monday (that is already booked). If I can get pain relief sorted it would help. (OH is hiding all the knives as I type).

It's a comfort to know that others understand that although we can join in on threads that is our other persona trying to be 'normal' (whatever that means). On here we can be honest and admit we are not perfect, have faults, feel terrible and get the support we all need.

Love Sue xx

Good afternoon everyone, Hugs & best wishes to those who need them.

My oh is very sleepy at the moment but he does things in his sleep. For instance, I've just heard him light up a ciggie, then he'll fall back asleep & drop the ash (or even the ciggie) on the floor. I have to watch him all the time.
Despite the warm weather we have had the last few days he insists on having an open fire. Phewww, I'm boiling in here!
Bye for now & good luck to you all.

Angela