General Chat

Oh Angela, I feel for you I really do, not having had any experience of your situation I don't know what to say apart from we are here if you want to talk.
One of our friends on here might be able to help you more, I just feel so useless. Does Eddie have a sleep during the day, if so you should take the chance for a sleep yourself.

I didn't come on yesterday as I went to chiropodist in morning, what a palaver(sp?). Came home with a big bandage on my toe like one of those jokes about old men with gout. Got to leave it on for 4 days and not get it wet, so no bath yet. It was caused by ingrowing nail, she treated it last time but unknown to her it had grown in right down to the base, theres a name for it but can't remember. I have to have some nail surgery but not while I'm on chemo, put the foot of my bed high and lay down to read, next thing hubby was waking me at 4 saying it was tiime for my tablets, where did the day go.

Mary, what is going to happen next? We will be opening this thread with our hearts in our mouths wondering what's happened to you now.

Deanna it's the way it goes, I'm always being told off for doing things because I feel I can, and paying for it next day, we should learn from experience but never do.

Hello to everyone and I hope you are all having as good a day as you can.
Oh Carole, forgot to say I am so pleased for your friend, glad it got sorted.

Love to all
Caz xx

Morning all

Have not posted for a few days but have been looking in from time to time

Pleased with myself as I made it to church on sunday and didn't have a panic attack .I even got a very short message right at the end to say I was not to worry about my child that everything will work out .
After that I went to asda then makro so pat on the head .

My neighbour had a lovely week end in London only to come home and find her son in hospital .He is 49 and had a heart attack so she is worried sick .He was due tests yesterday but an emergency came in so it was cancelled . He had very bad chest pains so they gave him morphine and he had a bad reaction.
So my last few days have been busy trying to keep weeds down and cheer up neighbour .

Angela my thoughts go out to you xxx

I must go for now but will be back later for a meldrew moment

love
kathy xxx

Ann, yes he is on morphine & his dose was upped on Monday. District nurse has been out & contacted MacMillan nurse. I have to cut dose down again. It seems to be a choice between him being in a lot of pain, or being like he is at the moment. I hope that they can get it right soon. I was really scared!

Y caz, I had the same thing done by my GP about 6 weeks ago. Isn't it awful not being able to have a bath or shower? I hated it, just keeping my fingers crossed that the problem is cured for good.

Off to keep an eye on him now.

Angela

Just a quick hello before physio and the doctors for bloods.

I am pleased I am not the only one who avoids their paperwork Mary! But I don't set fire to mine - well I haven't yet!

Love to everyone who is suffering. I'll post properly later on.

Sue xx

kathy, well done on getting to church etc.
YCaz, That sounds painful, hope it soon heals, not nice not being able to shower or bath.
Angela, I hope they get the morphine dose adjusted properly for him. many years ago (1958) my OH's Mum died from cancer. Before she died she was on morphine and she used to do and say all sorts of weird things (don't think they had McMillan nurses to advise in those days.), probably they kept the dose too high but so much has been learnt in those 50 years.
Sue, hallo.
Ann
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Morning Ann

Thanks for the pm's last night, I tried to get some sleep but unfortunately not much.

Will keep in touch

Gill

Well done for coming on Gill. I hate those threads that start nice but are aggravations in disguise. Hope you can cat nap during the day and sleep better tonight.

Ann
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Ann and Caz, I know what you mean... but we do it anyway, don't we?

I have work to do for my son (reading), so I won't be able to come on much today.

AND today is no better that yesterday.

I also had a phone call from a friend with a big upset in her life!!
Does nothing ever go well in this world for good people??

But I cannot go without telling you Angela, that I am thinking of you and your poor man.
Bless his heart, hope they get the morphine sorted for him.
He doesn't want to be in pain, but he doesn't want to be asleep all the time either.
God Bless Angela. XXXX

See you all later..... MAYBE! If I finish the reading I have to do.

Love to all who need a friend.... that is ALL OF US! ;-0)
Deanna XX

Claddagh.... (Eileen) has asked me to pass on a message for her.
Her Internet provider is is down and has been since Monday. (All those people with no Internet! I couldn't bare it!)

She asked me to let you all know that if you are waiting for an e-mail, PM... that is the reason.... She will be back!

love Eileen...... XX
(through me! ha ha ha )

Good evening folks,

Yes ti's me popped in for a few minutes to say a gentle hello to you all.

I don't know why but I am going through a very strange period at the moment whereby all I need is my own company.. but not in a withdrawal from life sense.

I am still taking Toby for his 'walkies', doing the computer classes, doctors visits, etc but in some calm, serene way?
Don't know if any of what I have written makes sense!

I do read our thread daily and keep up with all the news, some good some sad.

Tomorrow I am off to the doc's again! then attending my next door neighbours funeral, followed by a light meal for family and a few of us neighbours, sad..

I do have a few tales to tell you but they will have to wait until I get my sense of humour back, it appears to have deserted me for some reason?.

I would just like to say hello Angela, I understand how you are feeling lass because I nursed my mother in the days before MacMillan nurses were invented, and no District nurses to come out. I was taught to injection my Mom with morphine, as and when the pain got too bad.....my two daughters were only aged 3 and 1 at the time. Am thinking of you both xxx.

For now, Good night, sweet dreams, creamy cakes and pink ice-creams.

JoycePxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hi Joyce, good to see you on here, even if minus the sense of humour. are you on new medication or anything that is affecting you at all? Never mind, you are not unhappy, just introspective. enjoy your walks with Toby and come back to us again soon.

Ann
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Hi everyone.
I haven't been on much as my daughter has come home for a couple of days. I've been at work during the day as well. This week has been awful in the mornings. God knows what I've eaten to make me need the loo so much! Wierd thing is the days I'm not at work I get constipated.

Elaine doesn't it feel great to be out in the world.

Caz you must be so fed up of looking at your bedroom walls.

Mary where have you found this new burst of energy!

Betty I am fine. Lovely to see you back. How is M?
Is she getting sorted out?

Ann G you are a wonderful lady and I thank you for being there x

Sue, can't you look at a piece of paper work each morning and afternoon?

Deanna how are you and Allan?

Kathy ~~~~~, hope your message helped you x

Angela try to get some rest when oh is asleep. If you don't rest you can't cope x

Anyone seen Ann GG? Is she still away? Oh funny a message just come from her !!

Gale sending you love and hugs xxx

Carolina how are you?

Eileen thinking of you xx

Carole, as you don't have a problem when not working could it be as simple as you worrying you are going to need the loo and you do. i.e. it is a nervous reaction. I have the same problem if I am nervous and my OH is the same when he has a gold competition.

Hope you have had a nice time with your daughter there.

I am nothing special! well i don't think i am anyway.

Nite all
ann
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Hi and love to everyone. Havent been sleeping very well for days. Had a good night sleep last night and managed to catch up on the housework. Been to hospice charity shop today helped in there. Had a lovely day I always do when I work in there. Had a couple of bargins as well bought a shirt home for hubby just the thing he wears look new. Actually some of the time we get brand new stuff in so its great. We are also starting this new project at the hospice shop. Its about 2 weeks ago when we went to the elderly warden run complexes and bring stuff to sell there for the hospice. We had a great response the old people loved it. Doing another one again next week. One of my daughters friends said she had seen me in the local paper. We had a photographer there to give us some support. I havent seen the picture I will have to ask at the office for a copy. Anyway It help raise more money for a worthy cause. Going again tomorrow to help. see you soon a bit shattered now so going to bed. love shaz

Ann it is nerves that causes my repetitive visits to the loo when I'm going out. I had loads of blood tests
last year. A colonoscopy, and a radio active pill and scans before and after to see why or if there is a blockage. Thats why I'm having counselling now. We talked and the cause seems to be my Mum's constant warnings of what will happen if I do one thing or another. My sister is a nervouse wreak, but she copes by smoking. (something I gave up over 25 yrs ago) Sister is a different personality to me and acts in an over the top way to get attention. She is extrovert, I'm introvert thats why my problems manifest in my bowel actions. She has always been the pretty one, funny one that everyone loves, do anything for anyone. I have no confidence so feel ugly and hide away in a room, or crowd.

Love to all, have to get dressed and might go out with daughter, need to get my legs waxed. I look like a hobbit. xx

Hello again everyone, many thanks to those who have sent p.m's.It is really good to know that there are people who really care and offer their unconditional support.
Have been reading the messages posted on these boards, most of you have sooo much to contend with already, and still think of others.
My internet has been down since monday 3am, was working for an hour yesterday, but we are not out of the woods yet, further problems are predicted.for the coming days, even the weekend.
Had to cancel my appointment with the cardiologist this morning, because there is a strike on the buses and trams.I was planning on going by train, then with a bus to hospital, instead of driving there myself.It is too stressful at the moment, too much going on.Have managed to get a new appointment for the 29th may.Heard on the Dutch news that there are further strikes planned towards the end of this month!Talk about sod's law!

Eileen x

Morning friends
It's a dreary day here, rained overnight, which was good because I spread fertiliser on half the lawn yesterday morning and now it's been watered in. I think the sun is trying to break through the dark clouds. I love the appearance of the newly green trees against a dark sky.
No crises to report - - but the day is young yet.

My friend received a 'stay', so they have till June 4th to raise $8000 to avoid losing their house. How useful it would be to be wealthy . . .

Ann in Glos congrats on the new twig for your tree. Can you share some hostas????
My niece's younger son age 15 months is showing signs of developing autism, his brother is already diagnosed with aspergers, the epidemic seems to be running through our family.
Waveyone you sound more upbeat, can't you share some of the chocolate????
Deanna hugs to you and Allen.
Elaine thinking of you with hugs . . .
Liz, where you at - digging in the garden pots, or sorting papers??? Hope the quiet week is restful for you.
The sun has appeared, I'm heading outside. It's not new energy, it's conscious decision to NOT sit on my tail for hours at a time.
love to all,
Mary

Snow White.... don't you dare delete.
How old are you ?
I went through that when i was younger...
Wife, Mother, Daughter , Sister.... Who was I???
It will pass love, honestly it will, but until it does.
Stay here and talk to us.. we know what you are saying, and no one is going to think that your thoughts are in any way ODD! xx

Carole We are as well as can be expected... as the saying goes.
Went out this morning for breakfast with my lads.
We had it late so considered it dinner. then went for a wee look around ASDA's.
Then came home to find a fruit cake, two danish buns, and a pretty pink APRIL candle on the door step..... Mary had been and I was out. the first time she has been able to come for weeks!!
Still, spoke on the phone, Baby is home from hospital and doing well at the minute. .... then after all that chat, I had to phone her again to thank her.!! what an idiot I am.

It is raining here and we have the heating on, just a bit, but it is needed.

Hope you are all okay today.
AND... we had an electric cut out last night, so the phones were not working!!
They are now, so all's well again.

Angela, thinking of you both.
Mary, Kathy, Elaine... how is your husband today?
Kitty,Gill, Gail, Ann,Betty, Carolina,Sue, And anyone else I have forgotten just now... hope you are all well today.
JP, and Eileen, i have spoken to... got to go now, feeling a little *feak and weeble*

love,
Deanna XXX

Snow White, Jeannie, don't delete. There is no shame in having depression as you will see from others on here.

Besides being someones wife, Mother etc tell yourself you are you. A special person.

Why not give yourself a day or morning off from the house? Say the word, i will meet you, you know where I am, ten minutes away from you. really there is nothing to worry about meeting somebody who knows you are depressed and an outing might make you feel better. Well meeting me might make you feel worse if you don't like me but we could deal with that when we come to it.

Please continue to come on this thread, don't suffer on your own.

ann
Glos

Deanna, breakfast out Mmm! Trying not to do it because we put weight on last week. However, had lunch out today, Wetherspoon's fish and chips, mine was breaded plaice. Plus a glass of white wine. can't think why I feel tired this afternoon. Also went to debenhams 25% sale and bought 4 tee shirts.

See!!! You talked so much on the phone they turned it off!!

Seriously, glad it is back on for you today I know it is your life line!

Elaine, glad to see you back
Mary, if you were near I would share hostas, do you grow them?
Carole, another one who has to have a talk to herself. How can you be ugly? Of course you are not. But then you wont listen to me I'm sure. Hopefully your counsellor will help you to see tat you are a lovely person, caring and bubbly on here, can't be much different in real life surely?

Ann
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