General Chat

I put up a thread suggesting a meet for we who have had narcissistic mothers which didn't meet with any enthusiasm but it has been suggested I start a support thread.

It is evident that many people on here are coping with the effects of narcissistic parents and partners.I feel that some of you are probably not ill with depression at all but reacting in a perfectly normal way to a form of abuse that is hidden.In effect many of us are or have been taking medication for somebody elses disorder.I was. Narcissism must be costing the NHS millions,maybe they could start to acknowledge it.

Anyway, as the Health Service finds it easier to not support us, do you think it would be a good idea to start a specific narcissism support thread?

Gail so sorry your having abad time its usaul the way we do everything for them ,and then get left out in the cold as so to speak,i dont talk to my daughter and never will for personal reasons,shes told friends of mine im dead but who cares i dont at the end of the day its her loss not mind,try to get some sleep and not worry to much easy for me to say,but her being nasty to you dos,nt cut any ice with me i would,nt bother with her but shes your flesh and blood and if she dos,nt relize whats she doing to you then shes afool,so to get uptight but i dont like it when nice people get hurt for the wrong reason,take care
Dutchxx

Thank you Dutch. I just did not need this right now. Just sick of being everyones punching bag.

Sharron, I look in on your thread from time to time, I wish you lived next door right now as would pay you a visit.

Gail

PS have run bath and put bubbles in, so off to soak, back in a while.

aww Gail

((((((((((((big hugs))))))))))))))

Gill

Hi Betty,will try and find out were its gone and they cant return it as i didnt put my name on,have you got your right phone number for me,as i was missing one digit i think
Dutchxx

Hi Deanna,i no you care but i dont expect cards back just like to send them to my friends,and people who i know are having bad time ,every little helps if you can brighten someones day up

Dutchxx

Hi everyone,

Betty, your story about that poor woman dying, whilst dear hubby had his girlfriend downstairs, is worse than mine.I am still feeling very unsettled about it though.
Gail, how are you today, did the bath help you to relax a bit? How horrible for you, especially as you were so happy on your recent birthday.
I am very bad at remembering names, hope it is not becoming a senior thingy.I only want to wish all of you a peaceful day, without any strife, if possible.
Love to all from Eileen xx

Forgot to add this:

Joyce, I sent you an e-mail with the address of that on-line shop where you can buy English tea etc.

Will ask other daughter if she knows someone, in this country, who is willing to bake a Christmas cake for you.

Eileen xx

Hi everyone.
DUTCH, sent me a lovely get well card today.... well to me and Allan. He was quite impressed Joyce, he did not expect to be included.

Tony took Allan to the hospital, and i am sitting here waiting for them coming back.

I have been answering e-mails and and there is no way you can ever beat the e-mails, can you?
you answer ten and ten more appear!!
I am not complaining, I just love my e-mails... if I did not get any I would feel so rejected.
Getting very hot in here now so I must go and have a cool from my fan.
See you later .
love Deanna XXX

well its rainging here and guess what took the dog for walk and hes pulled my side again seen another dog then bloomin cat,would,nt mind hes not abig dog,but at the moment got some pain in my back mybe have got acold,thank you Deanna for your loverly email
take care all
Dutchxx

Hi all, been busy all day with my sister, just managed to get on. I am fed up at moment, as most will know I went to see another Neurologist yesterday, went with hight hopes of getting somewhere. I came out no wiser than I went in. He looked at all my results of scans, x-rays, mri's and blood tests, in fact my file is massive, couldn't believe it when I saw it. He gave me a good going over with tests and his little hammer, balancing tests and standing up tests, everything.
All he could come up with was that he didn't have a clue what was wrong, although something clearly is. He said everything points to MS, even to the loss of sight in one eye then it coming back slightly but not being able to see red, a classic symptom. But I'm too old.
There is one thing he said it could be but it is so rare he doesn't think it will be that, the name is so long even he couldn't say it properly.
So, I have got arthritis all over, proved, I have secondary cancer, proved, I have FM, proved, I have degenerative spine disease,proved, damaged nerves in spine, proved, slipped discs, proved. Something has made me disabled and nobody can tell me what, it's beyond a joke now. My sciatica he said will have been caused by my jerking legs, they get quite bad and would have pulled my back disturbing my discs. He is leaving my back alone for the time being as long as I can cope, he said if he operates there is a chance that I could end up paralysed, lovely.
I'm sorry for moaning on but I really have had enough now and don't know how much more I can take.
Oh yes, Dutch told me she would be with me in spirit, she was, the doctor was Dutch lol.

Love and hugs to all.
Caz xx

HEY Lady ,lest of the old bit dont forget my friend im older than you ,i can see im going to have to come and knock on you door,so you better be near loo or have bucket ready,all joking aside you take care my friend your one special lady
Love Dutchxx

Caz....I second what Dutch has just said..reckon you are going to have not one but TWO Joyce's knocking on you door and believe you me you will need more than a bucket to hand...how about we get Phillip to place her in the bath before we arrived Dutch lol....
My heart goes out to you lass, just one of your hurts would test a saint...and a saint is what you are for still posting on our thread and thinking of others all the time, bless you.
I know your phone line is pretty busy but will buzz you and have a natter xxx.
In the meantime take care and lots of love xxxx.

JoyceP

morrning all thought id pop on and say hi to everyone ,well thought id pop on and update everyone ,ive not been to bad over the last few days myself had a bad day last week though ,anx /panic wise ,was really down ,but glad to say thats passed for now lol well i could wall paper the house with all the hospital letters weve had come in the last two days for hubby 7 letters in two days all appiontments so we gona be busy over the next month then phone calls from cardio unit to see how he is ,witch i thought was nice of them he still waiting to go back in for cardioversion ,till then we wont no if he hasto have a pacemaker fitted , grandson starts his speach therapy today so things are moving there then other assesments at hospital for autisum ,and ive got grandaughter coming this morning while they take him she does cheer me up she a right little chatter box and always smiling and full of hugs and kisses she is 4 ,well im of for now ,so ill send hugs to all and hope everyone has a good day and deanna il catch up with you soon love i hope things are well xx elaine xx

Morning everyone.
I will come to add another Carole to side against the two Joyces!! But what we doing? Caz what a list of pains you deal with every day. Some I knew some I didn't. Bless you Caz and hope you get some help very soon. xxx

Elaine nice to see you here. Have a good day with your little girl. Good luck for the other stuff. xx

Sharron I wonder if like me others do/did not realise what is at the root of their problems. Why not try a thread and see how it goes? xx

Going to second group meeting this morning. See you all later xxx

I have just come off the 'General' threads... the sadness on there today is dreadful. have you been on today?
I'm very upset by the trauma in the lives of two of the women on there.
It certainly put my problems in perspective, so now I am not going to mention any of my insignificant pains.
Caz, you are in a state. you did not tell me that you were in such a state. my own son had a lot of trouble trying to get a diagnosis from doctors too.
they like to say.... psychosomatic.... gets them off the hook when what they really need to learn to say... "I'm not sure".
Just you keep keeping on love, and we can get well together... all of us.

Eileen, no e-mails lately... you gone off me?
love to all Deanna XXX

Hello all,

No Deanna, haven't gone off you, am just feeling rather sorry for myself these last days.I hardly dare moan, when I read about Caz's terrible illnesses, because it seems so insignificant.
Why am I so miserable?Mostly physical problems, but, today, a man came from a certain deptartment, can't go into details, which has made me feel as though I am about to flip. This has been hanging over me for months. I have dreaded the post every day...now the 'sword has fallen' at last, it should seem like it is a relief, but it isn't. I have an appointment for 13.00-12.00 your time, tomorrow, so will you all please think of me, and send positive thoughts my way? I hate asking, knowing that all of you have far more pressing problems, but this has been eating away at me for so long.I am sick to the stomach, don't know what to do really.

Thanks for listening.

Eileen xx

just hato come on for a little while hope you dont mind need to write how im feeling well not a good day got the shakes carnt breath dry mouth all the signs of anx /panic ive got now oh how i hate this hate it hate it ,why carnt i just deal with things instead of being like this ?all this since a phone call thisafternoon from stoke hospital hubby hasto go bk in next friday at 9 in the morning now im panicing how do i get there ?as i dont travel good loo thing through panic /anx whats gona happen ?questions questions questions want it all to go away ,sorry all just needed to let it out xxelaine xx

Elaine
Never be afraid to let it all out on here that's what we are all here for yes some of us have more to cope with physically than others but i have always said when you are having a bad days its is your bad day and at that precise moment you are the most important person in the world and if you need to let of steam and have a good old rant then do so without felling guilty about it.

Claire

Elaine I have only got a few moments as tea is nearly ready, but do you remember when you first posted? You were very bad with anxiety but you overcame it and you got your husband to the hospital and all his appointments. You know we are all behind you and post any time you need to.
I am sorry everyone I was very bad yesterday, really down.

Caz xx