General Chat

Wish you could Mary, if we both had magic carpets, can you imagine the comings and goings lol

take care, have to sign off as o.h. will be up soon and I am not welcome down here while he is getting ready for work.
Enjoy the pumpkin farm. Don't bring any pumpkins home to bottle or preserve or whatever, you have done your share for this year lol
Well done to Colleen, hope her success continues on the course.
love and hugs
Lizxxxx

Good morning Joyce(Dutch) I'm fine but I do have a headache so will not be staying on here long. I will try and rest and allow the pills to work.
Hope you are okay love and Jan.X
Glad to see that you were so welcoming to Louise, she must have felt rejected... did you Louise??
Well it must have been a busy day for everyone yesterday as it is most unusual. They are a great bunch of people and you can come on with any worry... and no one is going to think you are weird in anyway.... we are all weird on here... if that is the way people want to think of our illnesses. Hope you are feeling well today, and if not, tell someone even if you have to send a PM. X

Mary no wonder you have no time to e-mail me. Do you NEVER STOP woman??
See you all later, I've about had it now...
Lots of love to all,
Deanna XXX

Hi Liz been thinking of you this week. Thanks for the photos of you and your son. He reminds me of Mark the musician in The Tudors! (Poor bloke lost his head last night). Where did he get his lovely hair from? Where were the photos taken? xx

Mary you have been thinking deep. Coleen is doing very well. Where did she get her brains from? xx

Good morning everyone

Hope you all have a nice day and without too much pain

((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))

Gill

Good to hear of somebody else who makes too much chutney etc. for the sake of making it. This year my preserving is quite special,and exhausting as I have my dad doing it and he is now talking about what to plant for next year,which he wasn't doing before.
When he first came home I bought a lot of huge flower pots and filled them with compost in the hope of re-awakening his interest in gardening but he had given up.
Now he can get up the garden on his own in the wheelchair he has been picking the runner beans and I think this has made him interested again.
I was wondering about deep beds for up the garden so that he can reach them from his wheelchair but I think they are expensive,especially if he won't use them!
Better get down there and get him pickling I suppose.
Get on with it woman!

Morning Gill. How are you? What have you been doing with yourself?
I just took my son and his mates into town, to get a train to Nottingham. Another friend of theirs is playing in his band at the castle there.

Sharron and Mary you put me to shame. I hate being in the kitchen. I like it to look nice and tidy, not like cooking is going on in there!

Kathy are you okay? Do you need to talk? xx

Deanna ~~~~~ mwah how are you? xx

Ben there you are! How are you doing ? xx

Gail have you been trying to go out more? xx

Dawn you too? xx

Ann G should be home soon shouldn't she? xx for Ann

Joyce things are getting better for me. I have never been out so much for years. Still not 100% but getting there. Just to be able to say to my son do you want a lift into town and take them. Couldn't have done that before. How are you and your family? xx

Eileen what are you doing today? xxx
Still have not done my jobs I keep saying I'll do xx

Louise ~~~~ hope you are settling in with us xxx

Just popping in while my cuppa is brewing, neighbours are very noisy today and woke me up!
I noticed a message through the door and it told me the postie had listened to me earlier this week when I asked him to put a package I was expecting over the gate rather than wake me.
Thank you Dutch! You are a sweetie, not only the bath headrest, but some nice toiletries too, and some perfume samples that smell good. I figured out from the Dutch/German on two items that they are lavender foot treatments? Will enjoy using those next week when I can sit with my feet in a bowl (not the one I use for dishes lol) and then use them. O.h. takes the mickey if I soak my feet when he is around lol so next week when he is at work will be the time for r and r.
Thanks again Joyce, you are so caring.

Hope you all have a good day, it's bright and sunny here, my friend from Germany certainly brought some good weather with her, she and her husband have had a lovely week for travelling round the Norfolk coast, he is loving seeing all our seaside places, even tho she drags him into the charity shops at most places, as well as the beach!

love and hugs,
Lizxxxx

yea i am x

hi everyone,
I have suffered with depression on and off since i can remember (im 33 now). the thing is i think its starting to come back again!
Ive had to take time off work due to ill health (nothing serious) you may have seen my coeliac thread...
But i now find myself sitting round the house doing nothing.
The house is a mess
I cant be bothered to go out
im sleeping in the day then up half the night
dont see anyone really
cant be bothered to tidy up
cant even be bothered to eat really!!!

I know if I dont sort it out soon im gonna be in a right state but how can I ?

All ideas welcome PLEASE..................

As our mothers use to say

DO SOMETHING

Do something]
Change something
Make something better

xx

Dawn straight to the doctors Monday morning!! Get yourself on anti depressants. Don't mess about with
St Johns Wort and all that rubbish it will not work. I think the fact that you have realised it is coming again is a good thing. So before it gets hold even stronger see your doc. You sound to have classic symptoms. Best thing is fight it. Not easy when you can't be bothered but you must. Set your self little goals and push to meet them.

We will all be here for you, and will come to the doctors with you Monday ( or as soon as you can, we can do anything in cyber world :o)), but being real people we can listen xxx

Oh David didn't see you there! Yes thats right. Do something, or you just vegetate!

Dawn,it could just be that you have too much time.
Now that I don't really go to work I find that I don't accomplish much.No structure to the day any more.

Because there is plenty of time to cook the tea,sometimes the tea doesn't get cooked at all.Washing hangs about because there is plenty of time to do it and before you know it,no knickers again.

David most people who suffer from depression/Anxiety wish they could just do something change something to make it go away its a horrible to condition to have and I wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy... I have part of a Chemical missing in my brain which causes depression I was born with it I can't help it I dont like and I dont want it...but tough all I can do it try my hardest to keep the chemical balanced..

Hello and love to everyone,

Caz xxxx

I think I might have been born with it as my mum has it from time to time and my brother has it really bad but hes on medication at the mo so is doing ok

I have,in the past,suffered from awful depression and was on tranqus through a lot of my teens with recurring bouts after that.

Then,thirteen years ago,my mother died and magically,no more depression.

In retrospect I can see that I was actually behaving and reacting in a pretty normal way to a very unpleasant situation.

From the research I have carried out it seems that my mother was suffering from a personality disorder for which it would seem logical for her to receive treatment. She was a regular visitor to the doctor for everything she could think of. That was also my doctor.

That doctor was treating me for depression.Had he noticed there was something not quite right about my mother I would have thought he might have wondered if that was the cause of my problem.

I do wonder if the medical profession doesn't lump one or two things they can't quite suss out under the banner of depression,either in the patient themselves or those who are reacting to the pressure they are put under by that patient. I certainly feel that I was being given secondary treatment for somebody elses condition.

The odd thing after my mother died and I had had some hypnotherapy for stress was that I had the feelings that would lead to depression but no despair to hook them on to. Was my depression a kind of habit?

Ohhh Sharon that hook things on too....I totally agree with that....I have nothing to feel depressed about...I always try to think possitive try to think there is a logical expernation for everything....

About 8 years ago I suffered one of the worst bouts of drepression ever...My OH dragged and I mean dragged me off to our GP...I lied through my teeth why I was there I felt so a shamed...in the end I agreed to take medication and speak with another DR...I couldnt stand anyone else that my OH and children in the house but once they got through the door I was ok...I didnt want to see anyone but didnt want tobe alone...I couldnt even hang my washing out.....I spoke with the DR and couldnt belive the nonsense that I was talking...stuff about my childhood...my Dad dying at such an early age and really not been able to greive for him I know understand that my Mum wanted us to move forward and think positive..my mum suffers very badly with depression which at times went untreated...but 8 years ago I had nothing to worry about ...money health nothing...and at times of a family crisis I am a pillar of strength ...so I stopped hooking the reasons for my condation on to things...and just accepted its just who I am...

Claire It's a pleasure to remember you when sending pm's! I know its very hard to join in somewhere when
everyone seems to know each other, but you are always welcome and so is anyone else who might be wanting to post here, but worries like you do about making that first move.
It's been a very busy time for us all on here, seems a few of our friends are having a bad time for one reason or another. So it's up to the rest of us to
let them know they are with friends here. Trust is a big thing when you feel fragile!!

Claire if you want to send a pm with your email address we can swap photos. xxx
Do you want to talk about your problems with any of us? Tell us about your son maybe? xxx

Hi Caz C nice to see you. Hows it all going?

Hi ~~~ Hayley

Do you think it could be a kind of delayed unhappiness? No time to deal with the situation at the time but later, when you are quite unawares and unprepared,out it pops to bite you.

I had to develope copping strategies to deal with the constant unbearable stress of living with a mad woman. Now I find myself sliding into those strategies because that is what I always did.