General Chat

Hi Gail,

You are certainly going through a very difficult time lately, on top of all your other worries.
How sad and annoying that your brother is treating you and your other siblings this way.Has he always been so controlling and bossy? Yes, it is sad and depressing to be in a loved one's home after their death.
Kathy, why did your doctor want to put a metal tube down your throat?
I have had about 10-11 bronchoscopes done years ago, before and after my lung was removed.The last time I went to my lung specialist, (he took an early pension, I am sorry to say)he wanted to do another one, but I also refused.
Elaine,sorry to read about your husband's troubles, and hope he will be helped soon, so can start getting better at last. Does he have an artificial valve? I had my Mitral valve repaired almost 15 years ago, it seems to be o.k.Try not to worry, and try to get some sleep, you will need it.
I took your advice Liz, went to the g.p this morning, will know the results next tuesday or wednesday.
Must get something done, it is such beautiful weather, almost like a summer day here.

Am bad with names, but want to include everyone, so love to you all, and God bless.

Eileen xx

HI all

Sorry to hear that some of you are having a bad time .Hope things get better soon .

I just had a call from the hospital .The doc I saw yesterday thinks I am very nervous and wants me treated asap so I go in on monday for pre op check .Have op tuesday then all going well home wednesday .

Next question how do I survive without my fags and wine ??? and my biggest addiction the internet ????

I asked the girl if they provide patches she said no but you can go outside for a smoke !!!!

If I could quit it would save a fortune maybe a few days in hospital is what I need !!!

Had planned to get on with some gardening today but as usual it is raining .Could do the H thing but can't be bothered so will go read my book

love to all
Kathy xxxx

elaine, sorry your OH has to have yet more treatment. Looking positively at it maybe a pacemaker will be the answer to his problems.

Gail so sorry you are having yet more problems with your brother and the estate. It is time somebody pointed out he is only a small part of the whole family. and I would certainly not take any notice of his instructions not to touch anything (especially as he was not there). If he is so keen to be in charge why doesn't that keenness make him keep the garden tidy?

Kathy that doesn't sound a nice procedure but was it necessary for your health? what else can they do?

Caz, glad you have replacement patches (when you can find them), hope they work and you no longer itch!

ann
glos
xxxx to all

Just to let you all know, there is a free spot to sit on my wall..it's a place you can sit and rest a while, and watch the world go by until you feel strong enough to continue your chosen path..There is a flask of tea on the side, and some chocolate, please help yourself..
When you feel stronger follow me up the path, i'll be there waiting for you..
I may pop back to the wall from time to time, just for a visit, so save me a warm spot..

Lou xxxxxxxxx
Ps. giving some of my strength to those of you who need it...
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Gail, what Ann says, and what I and most people would also say,why indeed doesn't your brother keep your dead dad's garden nice and tidy, if he wants to be the 'chief' son? Surely you all mourn him and want to do what you can to clear his house, in the most respectful way possible?
When my (only) brother died in dec.'79, I was the only one to go through his papers etc and burn everything I didn't want my mother, or anyone else to see. It broke my heart to see what was left of his 41 years on this earth....

Eileen x

Forgot to add this earlier.
Betty, it was nice to read about your grandson's success. Hope you are well?Must p.m you again soon.

Eileen x

Lou, what a lovely thought, thank you.

Has anyone 'seen' Gill? Hope she is OK I haven't seen her about today.

Ann
Glos

Lou, can I come to sit on your wall too please?

Eileen x

Hi everyone. Not to good with names at the moment so please forgive me, my brain is overloaded.

Eileen, welcome to the wall, I brought a flask of coffee as well, but will have some of Lou's chocolate, yum.

Brother has always been bossy and overbearing. Tried to keep the peace when mum and dad were still here though and used to back off. Wrong thing to do I think, he does not know what hit him when I stood up to him finally. He would not let me speak at dad's funeral as too many were speaking already. I did not back down, but he arranged with the priest that my part was cut out. Okay I am over that. Just trying, I guess to show what he is like. He has all legal paper work, deeds, shares, bank accounts etc. When searching for certain papers I found bills that were due, Brother did not take these. So had to phone all concerned for payment and explain about my dad and that bills have been handed over to solicitor. Now the house is uninsured, as they only allow 60 days after death, so have to now arrange for that as well. I cannot even speak his name just now, thus Brother.

I found a treasure trove that Brother had put aside as rubbish. Cards from 1908 until 1969. Old letters as well, so much stuff from family that he was throwing out as rubbish. Hand written messages from my great great grandmothers. But to Brother was rubbish. Just glad I got to it before it ended up in the bin.

Kathy, good luck for Tuesday, you will have us all there holding your hand and feet, feet because there will be so many of us with you.

Eileen, I hope every thing goes okay with the doctor.

Luv and hugs

Gail

The priest cut your part out without consulting you?Beggars belief!

How about a word with him?What slant on the truth was he given,I wonder.

Gail, well done for retrieving all the important stuff. Words fail me when I think of your brother so i will just send you a (((((hug))))) and say i hope it is all sorted soon.

Ann
Glos

Trouble is Sharron the priest has early onset dementia, I felt he probably would not have even thought of asking. Poor fella could not even remember dad's name a couple of times and dad has been going to that church for 50 years every Sunday.

Ann you are right, I did get the important stuff, it is a gold mine for me.

It will get sorted eventually, but to me getting the bills paid and insurance is so important.

Gail

I think the solicitor should now pay the bills out of the estate but not sure how it works there. The insurance is a worry. stupid man, if there was a fire he would lose his part of the inheritance too.

Ann
Glos

Having just posted on here I wonder if I come over as very uncaring.

Really I am not but I just don't do "there,there,Dear".All I can do is try to put another perspective.

That is the bit I have to give.

Sharron, what you are is a straight shooter, you tell it as it is, no nonsense. I like that in you. I does not come across as uncaring at all. Just straight from the hip. It does give you enough of a jerk reaction to get your brain moving in a different direction though. So I do appreciate that.

Gail

Thanks Gail.Much appreciated.

It seems to work in the real world too,People will tell me anything,whether I want to hear it or not.

Sorry to pass on bad news but I just found this message in my emails from Deannas son Tony

Just a note to let you know that the reason Deanna hasn't responded to any e-mails for a week (and probably wont for at least a few more) is that she is in hospital. She was admitted last Sunday with a stroke and extensive bleeding on the brain. Considering the severity and extent of the original incident she is doing remarkably well but it is too early to tell if she will be able to return to being a 'pooter geek'

Be Well
Tony (Deanna's Son)

PS. Deanna cant really remember names at the moment so I have essentially guessed who to send this to. If you know someone who should really have been included please let them know and extend them my apologies.
Many thanks

sending positive thoughts for Deanna

(((((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))

Gill

was shocked to read about deanna my thoughts are with you deanna please get well soon we miss you thinking of you love elaine xx

Sending my best wishes to Deanna's son too.If he needs a shoulder or a bit of support I've been there and am still there.