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hi all im a bit fed up at the moment i have found some living relatives on my mam's sides of the family and some on my dad's side i have asked them for info about the family i have given them my address phone number and email address but not one as written to me or phoned me this is making me upset because when i was a child no one ever acnoleged me my aunt's and uncle's never talked to me or gave me anything for my birthday they only got gifts for my brother and sisters im not asking for them to be apart of my life just some family info is that to much to ask

love and hugs to all

carolina xx

Hi Ann I have not spoken (e-mailed) yet she sent me a one line message to say that she was feeling bad and would get to me later.

Eileen has asked me to let you all know that she is having a tough time and is exhausted, but will be back.
Babies to care for and and we all know how tiring that can be???

I'll be back later, been out today with number one son, and now having dinner.
He is one sick man my boy.... I just wish doctors would be more careful with men's health. They complain enough on TV about men NOT going to their doctors..... when they go, no one is listening!!
I know , I know Ann, I worry about them.... I'm going to end up going to the doctors myself and DEMANDING some help!!

The only thing is.... I can't go alone!!
So frustrating.

I am such a *talking machine*... I only came on to give you Eileen's message.

Deanna XXX

Rooting for you Wednesday,Carole.Kind of hoping your psychologist has been taking time to look into NPD.

Carolina how disappointing for you, but they're still family, regardless of whether they are as nice as you!! One day hopefully they will come around.
We have the same issue with second cousins of my daughters, on their paternal side. They do not wish to be associated with Colleen's children who have autism. They are an embarrasment.apparently.
we are doing fine without thm in our lives, but we have all their info for the tree . . .
take care, sending a hug,
Love
Mary

Carolina, I am in full agreement with Mary.
If they cause you any pain, or feelings of inadequacy.... then you should stay away from them. Would you take it from *so-called-friends*? Of course not, well don't suffer it from family.

I say this from experience, not just an empty thought.

Elaine I agree with you too, Carole gives us a lot of support... you would swear she hadn't a problem in the world! Bless you Carole, I love being spoiled... keep it up girl. ;-0)

And Caz.... Did you get a rest? I know you need it, and you should rest more than you do.
AND... I was out today with Tony... and forgot my wrist band. To be perfectly honest, I didn't need it... until after my dinner, when I started to suffer for not wearing it out!!

Ann I have missed your part 7.... so if you could nudge it up for me please??

I am feeling quite good today.
Allan did not feel well, had a bad night, so I went shopping (with Tony) in his stead.
I put a wash on before I went and when I came home.. Allan had put in the next load, and dried the first load. Where did I get this man??
Don't get me wrong.... could kill him sometimes ;-0) but he is a good un!

Dave decided to hire a skip and clean out this dump of a *cubby*.
We keep the desk and the computer in here, also the hoover, the freezer, my sewing machine, and shelves of all sorts of stuff which I KNOW I will never use again!
Perhaps a Charity shop would like some of it, but I did hear that they will not take any electric items now. Is that right?
I have an electric type writer still in good condition. my Singer sewing machine... done a lot of work on that... when I was able!
Oh it would be so nice to get all the overflow of my stuff OUT!

Must speak to my friends and then get into my nightie.... in time for tea and Emmerdale.
I know what's good for my mind... anything my son calls *rubbish* on the TV.

Joyce will be back, she just sometimes needs to have time off.
In case she is looking in.... hello Joyce, hope you are well love. x

See you again tomorrow everyone.
Look after yourselves.
Has anyone heard of Malc, or any of the other men??

love,
Deanna XX

hi everyone ,deanna glad you feeling a little better today ,me and hubby had a potter in garden well he pottered and i gardened lol ive got my first counciling app tomorrow at 11 30 im a little nervious sis inlaw is picking me up and going for a coffee at hers first then she going to walk there with me i just no as soon as i start talking im gona end up in tears ,can chat on here but face to face talking about my problems i find i carnt help but cry just me feeling sorry for myself ,will let you all no how i get on many trips to the loo first though before i go .hugs too all have a lovley evening xxelainexx

Evening everyone.

Deanna, i will nudge up ch 7 and also 8 in case you have not seen that either. I hope the doctor finally listens to your son, maybe he doesn't tell the doctor what he should and the doctor is not good at guessing do you think? Your Alan is a treasure isn't he? (I think I have said that before)

elaine, Good luck with your councillor I am sure it will help you to talk to her.

I have the dreaded dentist tomorrow, only a check up and probably a scale and polish but I hate the dentist.

ann
Glos

Hi everyone.
What a morning! I was on and off the loo when my lift arrived. I should have been walking to an arranged place, but was still on the loo at the arranged time! Good job we weren't going too far. Tomorrow I am driving, so it helps take my mind off the loo a bit. I have two passengers one who doesn't "do" illness and has no sympathy. Not that I want it, but a bit of understanding would help. I have about an hour and 15 min's drive through countryside so no loo's to pop into! No imodium since September now, so would feel very reluctant to have to take it again. I keep telling myself it will get better. Thanks for all your good wishes. It means a lot. xx

Carolina I know you want approval and acceptance from your family. But really once you accept you are better and don't need them, you will feel stronger. I realised during a shopping trip with my sister, we had nothing to talk about, and why was I even out with her. Now I feel I have moved on and have friends
that I can talk to. My sister has her daughters and son and oh, she doesn't need me. We see one another occasionally but the conversation doesn't flow easily.

Deanna how are your oh and son? Hows you and your thumb ? xx

Elaine good luck tomorrow xx

Eileen sending you hugs (((xx))) I know you need them xx

Kathy how are you feeling? Sexy and gorgeous after being chatted up! xx

Joyce sending you hugs (((xx))) and wish you better soon. I miss your cheery stories. You know you should post some of your down side too, that's what we are here for, to listen and talk. xx

Mary (my disciple) sending much love to you and your lovely family. Sorry to hear some cannot accept your Coleen's children because of their problems. Their loss hey!!xx

Janet haven't seen you much are you okay? xx

Ben you are right just not worth going on such a web site. It won't help you to read their crap about you, so stay away!! xx You know you are a good person.

Anyone heard how Malc is?

Anyone heard from Dave?

Ann G ~~~~~ xx

Anyone seen Ann GG about?

Gill ~~~~xx

Easter Bunny thanks for thoughts of us all xx

Jules hope all is going well for you xx

Sharron thanks for rooting!! xx

Caz how have you been keeping? Any signs of healing? xx

Thinking of our Gale down under, and all her family whether pregnant, shingles or other problem !! xxx

Bed time, have to get up early!! xxx Sleep well all see you soon xx

Elaine good luck for today and don't worry about tears it's normal, everyone does. Please stop saying you are feeling sorry for yourself because tears are part of the healing process. You have so much going on in your life you need an outlet.
Let us know how you go on.

Carole, my feet are slowly healing and toes not so purple now but I think looking at them it will take a long time. It's my back and hips that are worse now, think I'm falling to bits lol.

Caz xx

Good morning from a wet Gloucester.

Carole, I know your tummy problems are related to nerves but is there any chance that diet can also play a part. would it be worth keeping a diary of what you eat to see if the problem is worse on some days that you eat certain things the day before? With me it is wholemeal bread, too much veg and fruit. (so too much roughage I suppose)

YCaz, glad the feet are slowly getting better, hope the rest of you catches up soon!
Elaine, hope all goes well.
(((((hugs)))))) for everyone else.

Ann
Glos

I have an appointment for a mammagram next week
I havent been as far as the hosp for 18 yrs due to agoraphobia/panic attacks.In fact dont really leave the village.
I have been getting oh to take me out in the car each evening trying a little further each time.I managed to get about half way last night but felt dreadful.Felt as if we had been driving for hours when in fact was only out of the house half an hour
Still its more than I thought I could acheive.hope I am calmer on the day in question and tummy doesnt act up.I know from reading your posts that a lot of you will understand what its like.
((((((((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
to anyone who is having a tough time today xxxxxx

EB that is going to be a hard task for you. Please post on here just before you go and we will all will you there with positive thoughts. Maybe think when you are over halfway there that you are then closer to coming back again.
Can you get anything from the doctor to calm your nerves (and tummy)?

It is important that you have the mammogram so do try extra hard.

Will be thinking of you.

Ann
Glos

hi everyone well i made it just got back from seing counciler for first time ,i of loadad a bit but found it realy hard as every time i started talking about my problems i started crying so hato keep having time out and tissues at hand ive come home with a rotten headache now so im of to try and get a sleep as was up and awake at 5 this morning dont no weather i feel better or worse for going and talking to her she want me to go back next week bye for now catch you all later after headache gone hugs to all xxxelainexx

aww elaine (((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))

don't worry I cried all through my session with councellor as well.

Take care

Gill

Elaine, don't be upset about crying in front of your counselor.... it is just part pf the 'healing' process.
Think about how many times we cry alone, we do eventually stop.
It took me years to stop crying, and I fixed myself..... but at a cost.

Just you keep going back... and good luck to you...x

We are fine at the moment Carole, thank you.
I read your message with interest. I too don't bother with my sister. To say what happened would take forever, but suffice to say that *I had had enough*.... I like my relationships healthy and easy. If I have to work TOO hard at keeping a relationship, then it is not worth it.
I like Trust and Loyalty, and a little comfort from my relationships... not a high price I don't think.... or am I wrong?

Thank you Ann.... and as for the doctors!
They are not worth the time my men spend with them!!!

see you later... coffee ready now!
Want one???

Love Deanna XX

Dear All,
Everyone is asleep,and i have clicked on for my evening read as i very often do.
How lovely and caring so many of you are.

Ester Bunny what a good husband to help you like this. I know the feeling of sitting in a car with dread of going somewhere. Wanting to cry and go home.
To be safe in the home you have. But life is going on all round and you should be a part of it. It's wonderful what you are doing. Very brave. But you know once you can over come the panic attacks you will be half way there. In your mind you think something is going to happen while you are out. It's very unlikely and you will get home safely. As for the mammogram I have had several lumps thankfully all found to be cysts from the mammograms. The
knowing that is much better than the worry of what it could be. Take some rescue remedy out with you on your trips with oh. Keep it in your hand and use as often as you need to. A trick I also use is a little laundry tablet bag with small items in. Fiddle with it feeling the items and thinking about them. Keep it in a pocket out of sight and try to find the button, thimble, penny, stone, bead, or what ever else you have in it. Are you on anti depressants, if so which ones? xx

Ann I had lots of tests done, and know it's not my diet. Haven't got coeliac disease, thyroid, or goodness knows what else. Nothing found during colonoscopy. If I am not going out or having visitors I'm okay! As soon as someone says lets go....I start going!!!

Deanna I spent too long wanting my sister! Now I realise it's because as kids we only had each other due to not being allowed friends at our house. So she was my only friend. Now I have moved on and am trying to keep relationships with other women as friends, took a long time !! Is that skip there yet? Love to you and yours xx

Christine hello x

~~~~~to you all xx

Well have to get ready to go see counsellor this morning 9:30. Wonder if it'll be cancelled again!!

Be back later love to you all xxx

Good Morning all....

Just thought I'd pop in n show my face.

Hope everyone is ok. All ok(ish) with me, had to come off tablets because of unexplained bruising but only lasted a few weeks without them so now back on 50mg of a different one.

Love, Hugs n thinking of you all.

Jules:o)xxxxxxxxxxx

thankyou for the encouragement and support

Paula xx

been to counselling. It was okay. I didn't get so worked up at home before appointment today. She gave me a leaflet about assertiveness. It lists 10 negative thoughts and asks which I identify with. 9 of them! So plenty to work on!

Kathy will you send me your address I need to send you a letter!! Joking apart, congratulations on your lovely big win. Will you treat yourself? xx

Jules !!!! Hello, how nice to see you.

What rotten weather yesterday. Hope it was better for Liz. Sun is through today, so maybe she will be on the beach, slapping on the sun cream. Eating ice cream, and watching the men!!!

Ann hope you don't need any other work doing at the dentist. But if you do, I know a woman with a big win to pay!!! xx

Malc and Dave pm'ed me they are okay.

Love to Joyce who isn't feeling too well xxxx