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Mum has taken a turn for the worse. She was 91 on 14th January and permanently hospitalized due to Dementia. She had a very serious chest infection following a dose of this flu and things do not look good. She keeps shouting for her Mam!

LW

Hi LW

How distressing for you all,hope things settle down soon.

Take care.X

Thinking of you and your Mum. Look after yourself.

So sorry to hear about your Mum. Its very hard to see them suffering and to know you cant help.
Sending her ,and you ,healing thoughts.
Shirley

LW.
I really feel for you, , we lost Mum to Cancer in 1992 she did not want to go into hospital and thanks to two of my sisters who moved in with her she had her wish, It was so difficult to see her suffering, she would say strange things like you can send them away I am not going with them, and near the end she called for her Mum.

It still makes me cry to think about it, but I believe her Mum did come for her so that helps.

God Bless
Patx

Thanks for your thoughts, folk.

Pat, the Staff said she was shouting for her Mam last night.

LW

LW so sorry to hear that your Mum is so poorly, hope that the chest infection clears up very soon. It is not easy to see someone you love deteriorating and not being able to help them in any way. Keeping you both in my thoughts.
Joxx
Sorry for some reason it posted twice so deleted one!!

LW Sending positive thoughts for your mum, and hoping she can rally from this horrid infection.

Thinking of you both.

Am thinking of you and your lovely mum.

How sad, I do hope the chest infection clears up soon and your Mum is calmer. It is so sad to see loved ones disturbed and unhappy.
Lizx

sending positive thoughts for your mom, for you to as your not well yourself ...

it is a cruel illness in itself hope they can help with the chest infection..

Joan.. take care xx

Thanks for good wishes. No change. Mum very aggesive towards nursing staff during the night. She whispered in my ear 'Fed up! Want to Go!' What else can I do but hug her (very gently - skin & bone).

Thanks Joan for pm.

LW

Thinking of your Mum and of you, such a terrible illness.

Ann
Glos

Sorry to hear about your Mum, I know how hard it is when you can't do anything to help. I have heard it suggested that something soft, like a teddy bear, to cuddle might help.
Best wishes
Pam

No change overall, still aggressive towards Staff.

LW

Hello LW
l am so sorry your mum is suffering this way, its such a cruel disease and to have a chest infection as well,most unpleasant for her. l do hope the chest infection soon clears up and hopefully she won't feel so agetated.

Take care.

jude xx

Hi LW.I do know how you feel.Have had the same situation with my mum .She died almost 4 years ago on Feb 14th.
She was in hospital ,terribly confused,aggresive to the nurses,refusing to eat and drink.She took a liking to someones soft toy that she could see so I went back to the home and took in "Snowy" her white teddy .Her face lit up when she saw it and kept it with her in the bed or if she sat out it was in the chair.She died the next day and Snowy was there.Snowy travelled in the Hearse with mum to the Crem,and he now is here with me!
I hope your mum can settle and be comfortable.It is so distressing and you feel useless.
Lots of TLCxxx

Poor you LW..................my Mum has Alzheimers and will go searching for her Mum, I tell her she is at the shops and will be back soon, that usually does the trick.

Sometimes I think the persistent need to go "home" and calling for Mum or Dad is a need to feel safe and comfortable again as we all did as children when we were afraid.

All I can offer is my support and positive thoughts that you Mum will soon feel more settled, you need to look after yourself t the moment too....................it is horrible to see the ones we love suffer and know there is little we can do to make them feel better.

xx

Your kind thoughts and pm's are really helping me and Mum would appreciate were she able. Your support is invaluable.

Thanks
LW

I am trying to remember where I saw an excellent article by somebody about Alzeimers. It was by somebody whose parent (Mum or Dad( had had the disease and she had worked out a way to 'manage' it and ran a support group about it. All I can remember is that she said the simplest way to manage it was to 'go along' with whatever the sufferer said. No matter how strange to agree with them. That apparently takes the stress out of it for the carer and the sufferer. Wish I could remember more.