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I know I shouldn't be putting this on here but I have looked at the bereavement forums on the internet and everybody is just as sad as I am and they just made me cry. This is the only site that I have engaged with before and I feel as if I know you all and that I can share my pain with.

My daughter died on the 9th November (Remerance Sunday), she did not wake up. She was 41 years old. She was perfectly healthy and the post mortem was inconclusive, we are now awaiting 'skin tests' which could take upto two months. She was so beautiful, she had long fair curly hair and the lovliest smile, everybody loved her. 130 people attended her funeral in her villiage church which is approx 200 miles from where we live, she had only moved away about six years ago. Me and my husband loved her so much as did her two big brothers and we miss her so much, it is unbearable.

She has three sons, two with her first husband ages 15 and 11 and the other with her second, age 4. They will be seperated, the eldest with their father and the little one with his. Fortunately, both are good men and between us we will make sure that the boys stay close albiet with different accents.

The pain is so great, I have been crying all the time I have been typing this but it has helped to write it down so don't think you have to respond. If you want to say a prayer for her, her name was Wendy. Thanks for reading and sorry to make you sad. Pat

Oh Patricia.
I am so sorry you have lost your lovely daughter.Not knowing why must be very hard .I can't possibly imagine how you must be feeling.People here will be glad you have posted this as you will have lots of support.
Keep talking .
Thinking of you now
Helenx

All I can offer is {{{{HUGS}}}}

x

Pat my heart goes out to you I will say a prayer for Wendy, her sons and for you and your husband.

With lots of love

So sorry for your loss will keep you all in my prayers there is no greater loss than a child Valxxx

Aww Patricia,

I am glad you thought that it was ok to put your post here....it is.

God bless

Susan
x

My heart goes out to you and your family
God bless all of you and may he give you the strength to carry on
((((((((hug ))))))))))))

Jenxx

Pat, there are no words which we can say to ease the pain and sorrow, I lost my little grandson suddenly to sudden infant death syndrome. there were never any answers to our questions because they didn't have any.
At least her sons will be with their fathers who will love and cherish them like their mum did, and have vital contact with their mums parents.
Life seems so cruel and unfair and we can never fathom out why, we just have to keep going on for us and the other people who we keep so dear in our hearts.
Shirley.xx

What can I say Pat nothing but your pain must be unbearable and its so easy to take life for granted and the sudden departure of your daughter is dreadful. You can only help with the passing of time that you will be able to see joy again in the rest of the family especially with your grandsons. Take care, we are all thinking of you.

What a terrible, terrible time for you all.

To lose a child whatever age must be devastating.

Thinking of you all


(((Hugs))) Linda xx

Pat, Wendy's boys are the thing to focus on. Keep yourself busy by compiling a family history with lots of memories of Wendy and everything you can find about her ancestors. Do it for the lads, they need to know who their mum was and where she came from and you need to focus on something for her. To Wendy with love from all of us ancestor collectors
John

oh, i just don't know what to say

god bless and comfort all of you...xxx

Oh Pat!
what can I say to you but send you a ((hug)), your pain must be great,I can only Imagine how you feel.
xxxx

Pat so sorry to hear your sad news but you have picked the perfect board to put this on eveyone is so understanding no matter what your prolem they listen and all stand beside you at every turn and will not judge one !!sending love to you and those poor little ones ,..Jean

Pat, my love and prayers go out to you and your family,we are always here to listen, and support you,
Please dont be a stranger.

Love Jean x

the hardest thing is to lose your child god bless and comfort you and the family in this sad time .....xxx

So sorry for your loss Pat, I am thinking of you and your family.

Marilyn x

So sorry to hear of your loss Pat. I can't say that I know what you are going through, but as a mother myself, I can imagine.

Glad that you posted on here and hope that it helped. Feel free to keep posting, because there will always be a friendly ear for you on here.

Thinking of you and your family.

Maggy xx

Pat, it says a lot about the sort of person Wendy was judging by how much she is loved and missed.
She's gone to a better place now, I like to think. As has been said, concentrate on your boys now! (Grandchildren).
(((HUGS)))
x

So sorry Pat, your pain must be hard to bare.

My thoughts are with you and your family, give your grandsons a big hug, your lovely daughter lives on, in them.

Love and many hugs.

Libby xx