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All your family have suffered a devastating loss and I can only say a heartfelt sorry, inadequate though it is. I will pray for you all and light a candle for you and Wendy in church on Sunday. You will need every bit of your strength for the boys.

Bless you, Patricia, in this your worst of times xxx

Thanks, you have no idea how much support you have given me, I am so glad I posted my grief, I knew you wouldn't let me down.

Wendy was born (at home) just off the Old Kent Road in S.E.London. She was chuffed that the boxer Henry Cooper 'Chucked her Cheeks' outside the training pub 'The Thomas a Becketett' at the top of our road. She really was a darling and I loved her so much.

It's not fair you know, I have always smoked too much and drunk too much whisky, it should have been me. I feel so guilty. She was the youngest of my three children and my boys spoilt her something awful when she was young. She had the most beautiful nature and was really a lovely person. I don't know how to accept it.

Toby and Ben are staying with their step-dad until end on term and then they will go to their natural father in London and Archie will stay with his dad in Stafford. It does mean that we will see more of Toby and Ben and they love coming to our house bec ause they like my Nintendo and playing board games with Grandad. Between us all, we will keep this family together, we are all strong but how on earth do you accept losing a precious part of it.

I loved my baby so much and she loved me.

I feel a little bit guilty about burdening you all with all this I had nowhere else to go. Thankyou for all your help and suppiort,

Sending lots of love and hugs to you.

Dianne xx

You are not burdening us at all Pat ,just keep talking ,telling us about Wendy.We are all hear to listen.
Love helenx

oh pat luv, i cried when i read this post,no -one can really-fully understand the pain your heart is suffering,lot's of luv and hug's to you and your family.
god bless,

gwen xx

Patricia,

why did you think you shouldn't post this on here? I'm so glad you did, and see what a response you've had.

You sound like a very loving mum and grandma. My mum lost her only son, Stephen in 1963, 7 days before his 3rd birthday. (I wish she could have talked to someone about it but at the time she couldn't/didn't.) There's no good time to lose a child, and they'll always be your baby.

The pain must be so so difficult to bear. I'm sure that Wendy will still be with you and will know that you love her and are keeping her boys safe and cared for.

I don't know what to say really, but I know we will be here for you and will do all we can (maybe only listening will be a help) to make such a difficult time a tiny bit more bearable.

Much love from

Maria xxx

I am so sorry to hear of your pain Pat.

I am thinking of you and your family and you have my very best wishes.

With love
Sue

I, too, am sorry to hear of your loss. I am sure there are many peeps on this site that can give you help and support. God Bless you and your family.
Love Mary xx

My deepest sympathy Pat
Mau (xxxx)

Please accept my sincere sympathies Pat.
I've sent up my prayers for all concerned.xx

So sorry to hear your sad news Pat. As a mum my heart goes out to you, I was devastated when I lost my first grandchild. We all deal with bereavement in different ways and I hope this post is a comfort to you (((((((hugs)))))))

Chris x

I can truly understand how devestated you feel, the grief you'r feeling is because we love them so much. try and take care of yourself although I know at the moment you feel that nothing is important. x

Pat, please don't feel guilty or that you shouldn't have posted. you will always get support on this board and I hope the response has helped you. I am so sorry for your loss, there can be nothing worse than the loss of a child, it goes against the natural order of things. as a Mother I can only imagine what you are going through, daughters are very special, well sons are too of course but Mums can get very close to their daughters as you obviously were. i hope the memories you have of Wendy will give you comfort and I am sure her sons will too.

That was a very good idea by whoever suggested that you make family history memories of Wendy for her sons. you can keep her memory alive for them.

Please feel that you can come on here and rant and/or cry at any time, we will cry with you.

((((hugs))))
Ann
Glos

Oh Pat,cant even imagine the pain your feeling to lose a child,my thoughts are with you and your family,god bless you all, Gill x

My heart goes out to you, i can only imagine the pain you are feeling at loosing your lovely daughter.
there are no words of comfort at this present time i know. You have three lovely grandchildren that are part of your daughter i hope they bring you some kind of comfort at this very sad time.

my thoughts are with you.

Shirley Ann.

Pat.

I am so sorry to hear your sad news. No words left I can say, as they have already been said.
But my thoughts are with you.
Love to you and your family.
Pat xx

Oh Patricia I am so sorry for your loss my thoughts are with you
Rachxxxx

Hi Pat,

I'm so sad to hear your news, my heart goes out to you and your family, may all your memories of Wendy be treasured.

Amanda x

Pat,

I remember the pain you are feeling, and the shock of sudden death without warning only compounds the grief you are feeling right now. I lost my eldest son 17 years ago and not a day goes by that I don't still long to have him back. All I can say is that the first few months are the most unbearable, so just hang on. You can survive this, although you may not believe it right now! The pain will subside, but the sorrow of losing a child lasts a lifetime.

You will eventually be able to laugh and live again, (although it is impossible just now) but it does take time and your loss will change you forever. Your precious daughter knew how much you loved her and has taken your love with her. Meanwhile you may need help from your doctor to sleep at night and if you have a sympathetic friend you can go and talk to and cry with, it will help on the worst days. You cannot do it alone.

It will eventually get easier to bear, I can promise you that, if you just hold on. There are many kind and caring people on this site who will help you to cope in this terrible tragedy, so please keep coming back here.You are in my thoughts,

May God give you strength,
Kathy x

Pat,

Your pain is felt by so many. No words can ease or take away that pain, but take heart from the many messages of sympathy.

Wendy will stay with you in your heart and in those grandchildren. Your love will enfold them and keep the memory of their mother in their minds.

Until we lose a child, the heartache can only be imagined.

My thoughts are with you all.

Elisabeth
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