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You will never believe how much you have all helped me, I don't feel so alone. You have sent so much love to my Wendy and so many prayers that it really does help but of course it dosen't bring her back.

I spoke to my son Paul last night and asked him to see if he could acess your responses which he did and joined GR so that he could repond to your kindness, he did and found your messages very comforting He is phoning my other son Tony as I write. He has also told my son-in-law and I will tell the other son in law, I am very fond of them both.

The help and strength you have all given me is something I will never forget. Two weeks later, the pain is unbelievable but I will never forget all of you who have said prayers for my baby and me, Dave and her brothers and her sons and husband. Thankyou and may God Bless you all.

I want you to know my family, my Tony is in the top section of MENSA my Paul could pass if he applied - my Wendy's favourite expression was 'you 'reap what you grow', she got everything wrong but she was a darling and I loved her millions.

You know, there is a video of her walking Toby when he was little around on a horse (I don't know where they were) and she walked him riht into a tree, although he laughe and laughed, she did feel for Toby.

. I am goimg to shut-up now, God Bless you and Iam alright now.......................love Pat

I'm sorry Pat and Paul, I just saw this thread, I also send you big hugs and the knowledge that your sorrow is shared.
Pat, nothing can replace your precious daughter, nor Paul your sister, but time will allow the preservation of memories, memories in boxes orphotos or books or scrapbooks - or minds, will be valuable for many years to come.
sending you love, remembering Wendy and her legacy of her precious sons.
Mary XXX

So sorry for your loss Patricia.my heart goes out to you.There are no words to ease the pain but when i have faced loss of loved 1's in the past i have always held onto the good memories of them and always rested in knowing they are looking down at me from a better place.Wendy lives on through your Grandchildren as they are a part of her,take comfort from that.


Michelle xxx

Patricia, it is lovely to share some of your memories of Wendy, please if you want add more I am sure we would love to hear them if it helps you a bit, holding you close gentle hugs,((((((( x )))))) .....


Jean x

Thankyou all of you for letting me talk to you, blimey, it really does help.

Two weeks, two lightbulbs. I switched the outside porch-light on tonight and it blew, I heard Wendy laughing and saw her laughing (the little sod) last monday it was the landing. I had better get a supply of bulbs in.

My friend came round today and I found I could actually talk to people and not 'hide behind the pen' so to speak, if you understand what I mean.

My other son Tony (he will hate me for this but I call him Tiggy - I don't know why) has read this thread and he is as impressed with your generosity of streangth.

Thankyou so much for letting me talk to you, it is a bit weird, I told my son that I have some really good virtually friends, he said welcome to the 21st century. Shit, you have helpd me so much, in fact I think you have actually saved me.

For all you lovely people who have PM'd me, I will be writing to you (If you don't mind), I have so many questions, which probably don't have any answers but I have to ask them.

My Wendy, she picked strawberries but she didn't wash them before she served them. She cooked the best jacket potatoes in the world but she didn't scrub them first and although she liked cooking, she didn't likr using onions and lets be honest, you can't cook withoug onions.

I willl go now, Dave is home and I guess I have to feed him, although to be honest, he will do most of it (he just told me that ther roast spuds are rock hard)

Thankyou for everything,..........................Pat

Funny that you should mention light-bulbs Pat. A few weeks after my dad died, I switched a light on and the bulb exploded ( I was finding glass for weeks). The replacement bulb lasted a week and then that one packed in too. The third one has been in for about 6 months now, so fingers crossed...lol..

Please feel free to pm me if you think it will help.

Maggy
xx

Hi again Pat, and Paul if you're there too.

The suggestions from everyone for a memory box/book all sound fantastic to me. If I remember correctly, when I first read this thread you mentioned a picture of Wendy with her sons (and you Pat?)...I'm sure the boys will treasure that. I can imagine that perhaps the older boys will not yet be ready to open up such a box or book yet but knowing it is there when they are ready for it will be a great comfort.
Hope you are both OK.
LittleEm

Hello Pat,

just popped by to say hello. Very glad this thread is helping you. I'm with your Wendy on the jacket potatoes, I don't scrub mine either :0)

Maria x

Morning Pat, just a quick hello to you and your family. Thinking of you all XX..