General Chat

Keeping your Mum in my thoughts and hoping she will keep free of pain and have a peaceful passing.

Take care of yourself too and your husband.

Like Jean I can't put into words what I think of your sil, how could she be so insensitive and thoughtless.

Regards Linda :o)

bigggggggggggggggggggggg hug 4 your mum x

I am feeling more like writing this tonight.
Tonight mum was pain free and more lucid than she has been for days.

As you are saying she is ready for her passing, she wanted me to tidy her locker and said not to take her washing, as I should do it all together "later" . She also talked to me about donations she wanted to make,and what she wanted to do for the nurse who so often get forgotten. These are hard conversations to have, but I think I am at last growing up She also loved my puppy playing on her bed with an ice cube and licking her to say thank you. these are memories I shall hold close.
God Bless
Ann
Having said that, I think she may have more time left than she thinks ( or is that just my wishfull thinking) Mum is completley at peace with the situation and at last i think I am coming round to it. ( it is difficult when you are an only child ( even at my age ))
Please keep the pain free prayers coming. Each night i ring at least 5 members of her church who are desperate for news on her, and tonight I have said she is able to see more than just close friends, as she seems to be enjoying her visitors now, even though they have to waken her up!!!!
thank you al so much

Ann

Ann, am glad your Mum has rallied a little and was able to talk with you and enjoy the puppy visiting as well as other visitors. Things may go up and down like this but it is good that you can talk with her and sort things out now so she feels she has done everything she wants, or planned for it.
Please try not to be too sad, you have a wonderful Mum who will always be with you even if not bodily and she is teaching you all the time on the ways of the world, life and death. You are also able to show each other how much you love one another.

Lizxx

N for Ann and mum

I wish you strength for the days ahead.
Brian(i)

Special thoughts for you and your Mum, Ann.

Lizx

Holding you and your mum close in my prayers.
Brian(i)

Today, I went and she was very sleepy and when she woke she was very confused, what was going on and possibly what she had been dreaming, it is all down to the strength of her meds bless her.
As i was about to leave, they came with a wheel chair and asked her if she was still up for the carol service, she suddenly perked up and almost leapt out of bed ( well for her ) so I wheeled her to the chapel and we spent a loveley hour at the carol service then had tea and mince pie, it was lovely, mum slept through most of it, but did manage to sing 2 carols. A very special moment for me.
Bless you all
Ann

Thinkig of you and you mum.((( X)))

So pleased you and your mum had such a lovely time together.Ann.

More memories for you, Bless you both.....


Jean x.

I have so many happy memories oof mum, but one more wont go amiss,it was quality time spent together

The carol service must have been lovely and to share with your Mum too was magical I am sure.
I hope there will be yet more treasured moments to come Ann and your Mum can find some more pleasures to share with you.
Lizxx

Thinking of you and your Mum.
Brian(i)

Mum was very down yesterday when we saw her, she was for the first time weepy and said she wanted it to come soon, as she didnt want to spoil everyones Christmas!!!!!!!

Will my lovely mum every stop putting others before herself. suppose that is what makes her who she is.
She has no pain, so the prayers are working ( along with the wonderful nurses.
We took a bottle of wine in for the nursing staff yesterday as a Christmas present from mum. all 36 bottles, she was pleased we had thought oof the staff, as so many people remember the hospice and give a legacy but the staff can get forgotten.

Hope she is brighter today
Ann

Gentle hugs for your lovely mum and you also......

(((((((((((((((((( x ))))))))))))))))

always in my prayers. Jean x

Oh dear, she wasnt good tonight, she didnt recognise her sister, but did recognise her brother in law ans wanted to know who he had brought to see her, she cannot string together more than 6words which make a sentence, half is maybe what has been in her dream and half is what is going on, it is heartbreaking, but this is what we have exchanged for pain free.....She has also started to twitch very severley, almost as if her body is shutting down. I have never been in this situation before and do not know what to expect next, the hospice staff say they will get the doc. to check her meds again tomorrow in case it is the dosage that nneeds adjusting but i hope not at the cost of her being in pain.
I have spoekn to her minister tonight he said he willl go and see her 1st thing in the morning,

i just feel so helpless, i did how-ever manage to force-feed her today as she doesnt even have the strenght to hold her fork to eat, and the staff cannot o this for her as it is seen as force feeding and they are not allowed to do this, why didnt they tell us this before>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

keep the prayers coming, pleasse
Ann

It must be very hard for the whole family. My prayers to you all.
Brian(i)

Ann. Thinking of you all.

xx

Oh Whisky soda,
Reading this remines me of when my mum was at this stage. Its very up setting to see them like it. I feel for you so much.

Keep in there you will find ways of coping with it. Yes the hospice are so good workers there are like angles.

a very big (((((((((((((((((((((((HUG))))))))))))))))FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY