General Chat

Hello all, just a quick drop in before I go to bed (been on a night shift).
Hello David, nice to have yet another bloke on the board. I think I can empathise- having your brother sick is taking it out of you. Bowel cancer is not nice; my 62 yo brother in law has had a colostomy and is having chemo. The thing that outrages me is that as he lives in a small country town he has to go to a large centre each week. Almost two hours drive each way for someone to take him!!!!
Reading some of the posts it is interesting the triggers of depression. SAD- well, I think it is a form of reactive depression. Ditto the weather. None of us likes cold, wet, drizzly, misty, foggy, gloomy days do we.
Thyroid. We know an underactive one makes us sluggish; worse when doctors try to balance doses of the throid hormone. Blood pressure medication is one I haven't come across. Perhaps when it is too high or too low we just feel like cr...
Gail, sorry to hear you're struggling a little. Not sure of the weather where you are but I rather like autumn. Cool but not cold, although its a bit miserable on the east coast of Oz at the moment.
Caz in Yshire, hope all goes well on Monday. I think moving is stressful; that's why I don't do it much (I have been here 21 years).
Treehunter, can you find anything positive about MK (at least it's not the end of the world)? I am a boy from the city, well at least metro area. I think I would miss it if I moved away.
Deanna, Claddagh and LW, so many of us experience the deep owns taht maybe we are the normal ones. Maybe. Colin XXX

Deanna, that was impressive, my love! You put me to shame.

I am feeling so sluggish, wish I could find someone who needs a housesitter for a week so I could disappear and just sleep as and when i want instead of having to consider o.h. etc. Just can't raise any enthusiasm for anything at the mo, should have called lots of people these evenings while he is at work but haven't got round to it, and only Thursday evening then he is around for over a week, booooo! I get so fed up with having to think what to cook when he is here, when he is at work I can do what I fancy, when I want it and eat things I like, which he doesn't and I can have the tv on in one room and the computer left on to pop back to and he can't see so he isn't moaning at me lol

Suppose I should be grateful I have a roof over my head, and food in the cupboard etc but there should be more to life than this and I feel time is running away from me, my health is not improving and my head still has so much going on inside that I would love to do, just the old body and finances hold me back!

Even tho the weather has been quite nice and bright it isn't doing it for me at the mo.
Never mind, will keep on trying, apologies if I owe any of you pm replies, I am getting snowed under again....
take care
love to all
Lizxxx

Have just popped on to give suppoert to my friends on here some i no and some i dont no,but i wish you all better days Y/Caz my frend only few more days and you,ll be in your new place,Deanna my friend your doing so well,Mary hope you have better days ahead,Eileen sorry to here your going thru abad time will email you
Gail hope your abit better,and Liz my friend i enjoy our little chats
Tinkerbell always thinking of you and the family and thank you for the photo of your Das birthday,Vicky hope your getting less pain now
and for everyone else i wish you better times ahead
Dutchxx

Thinking of you all this day. Possie thoughts.

LWx

My thanks to you who have sent me their kind words either in an e-mail or p.m or on this thread.Hazel, Caz,Deanna & Joyce, and Liz especially.

Have had some very bad news this morning, am still reeling.My closest friend received bad news herself, and the worst thing was, she could have had a tiny op. a year ago, but due to some VERY careless, sloppy' work by the g.p's secretary, it seems pretty bleak now.

Am beginning to feel I have the Midas touch lately.My aunty died in feb. 2006, an old friend a month later, then my other close friend in september of that year......

Sorry for not being cheerful, wish I could shake this dreadful feeling off.

Eileen xx

Ohh I am still in my dressing gown. I could have fallen asleep at work yesterday afternoon, so when I got home (worked local) I went to bed, and had a good deep sleep before the phone woke me, I was too tired to get up and answer it, so didn't! Three times it went, finally I got up. Number to return call not available. ( Turns out it was daughter). Come bed time I wasn't tired so stayed up late. This morning I got up late!! I look a wreck!!

Deanna do you take notes? !! You are doing great.

Caz not too long now. Are you stressed or excited?

Colin good to see you.

David hope you decide to see your doctor

Liz you do sound low.

Mrs Blue eyes how are you feeling now the tablets are in your system? Hope you feel a lot better than when we first spoke

Gail I had acupuncture for sciatica too. My oh recons when I came out after first lot I practically ran. Slight exageration but it did help a lot.

Eileen I'm sorry I must have let your hand slip! Now I think I have a better hold, lets try get you up out that hole again.
Push yourself to get out of this and it will get better xxx

Dutch how is Jan? Is he feeling any better? Hope so he has been poorly too long xx

Tree Hunter hope you soon get the move you so badly want.

Kathy nice to see you here again xx

Hazel are you feeling any better ?

My friend A at work is depressed, the cause is she wants to leave her husband. She works 16/24 hours a week with a bit of over time if available. How can she leave him and afford to get a home on her own on that? She is 58, so not much chance of another job. She has tried to get one!! Anyone know of any helpfull sugestions please Pm me. They own their own home so after a divorce and her share of their property and savings she would have money. Her daughter said she could go stay with her, but she lives out in the wilds so A couldn't get to work with no car.

Carole, have just noticed your post.Made me smile again for a while.

It will take a bulldozer to get me out of this hole at the moment.

Am doing my best to help myself. This bad news from my close friend has really knocked me for six. Wonder where this experession comes from.

I wish all of you peace of mind and bodies free of pain.

Eileen xx

Have just heard frm my ex. that he is eating with me after visiting our daughter Sarah in Amsterdam. I was rather suprised to hear that one of my s.i.l was also planning on eating here. I don;t mind in the least. but am pleased to know up front. Lucky I phoned. !!!!

Phew!!!

Eileen xx

Bless you hun, I am feeling much much better, I didn't realize just how bad I felt until I started to feel better.
I've been back to Docs and she says stay on the pretty little blue & white tablets for at least 3 months, then we'll see how things are with a view to weaning me off of them. I've been getting out lots and doing exercise and gardening and I think that is helping too.

I hope this weather is helping you guys to feel a little better.

((((((((((((((((((((((( hugs for those in need of them ))))))))))))))))))))))

Carole of course I took notes... you know what my mind is like since the stroke.
I could be in the middle of a sentence and forget what I was talking about ... so a wee note helps.
Just a small 'pin point' to get me going... you know that talking is my hobby!! ;-0)
BUT, I have to admit a huge feeling of pride on my big message yesterday, and it took me ages.
Had my hair cut today, and Suzann was so pleased at the improvement in me.
all she knew was what Allan and Tony told her when they met or sent her in e-mails, and it has taken all this time for me to recover enough to WANT my hair cutting.... Well, I was standing on it... ha ha ha
She gave me the time to recover and ASK HER . She knew that I needed the 'space' bless her.


David do make notes when you go to the doctors... especially consultants.
Remember they can only work with what you give them and you ARE THE EXPERT on you!

Blue eyes, your eyes even SOUND blue today.... so you are feeling better? Good. X
I have been on those 'pretty blue pills' too... amazingly friendly little things... I am not allowed to take them just now because of the 'kidney' problem I now have.
Never mind, perhpas I will recover and all will be well again.


Eileen... a quick sandwich should do for uninvited guests.
Oh boy can I be a bitch sometimes... sorry.
But I have an excuse.... I'm a sick woman...
okay okay I'm just a bitch. ;-0(
Still, the way you are feeling just now, could he cheer you up?
He still makes you laugh doesn't he?
Good medicine laughter.

Well I have had enough now so O will have to say sorry to those I have missed but not forgotten.
Be well and I will be back.. a little stronger? I hope so.
Deanna XXXX

Colin... I forgot to say....
WE ARE THE NORMAL ONES.
I am certain of that.
Have you ever noticed how nice troubled people are?
Well there you are then.;-0)
Deanna XXX

Hi Everyone, 37 years of wedded bliss? or prison sentence to-day.
Talk later as i hope to be going into town soon.
Bless,
Lily.

Its my birthday tomoro and its not going to be the same as will not get a card from my mum


It hurts so much.

Thank you all for your concern, its greatly appreciated.
It isn't easy at all for a grown man to admit to his doctor that he has a "problem" that cannot be seen and demonstrated.
A man would rather present a nasty rash than emotional problems.

It is cathartic to admit it on the boards

I went to the doctors, but she just looked in my ear and felt my neck, why ? because they were the only two symptoms I presented.

It didn't help that I was 15 minutes late either :(

Hi all

Thought I had better pop on here ans say I am back, such a lot of posts I have missed. I have read some of them but not all, too tired.
We got home at 2am this morning the morning was taken up with shopping and washing - unpacked the cases this afternoon.!! got home at 2am this morning and I am shattered. The flight home was quite good until we landed. Boarded and took off half an hour ahead of schedule, landed early, then had to wait 20 minutes for an 'escort' as we were not up to a walkway and had to cross a short bit of road. In the end the pilot got frustrated with trying to contact someone and went off in search of somebody. In the end the co-pilot shepherded us across. Tony said to him 'all that training to be a lollipop man!!' He thought that was funny. then there was a long queue at customs. But by the time we had done all that the luggage was off. then we boarded a car park bus, only to all having to get off (unloading cases etc) and get the bus behind (poorly bus apparently). car started OK, then the gate out was congested, two people had not pre-paid on their tickets so had to leave their cars blocking the exit while they went to the office. Then the microphone didn't seem to work properly (tony has to quote his ref number as it is pre- paid), so then people were stuck behind us. Eventually got out and then the junction 1 of the M42 (the M5 link) was closed for resurfacing so we had to detour, we went down the A38 and rejoined the M5 at Droitwich. Eventually got home, but the car alarm decided to go off on the M5, (it has been doing this lately as we are driving and we can't solve it, most embarrassing!), we ignored it and it switched off again.

We had a great time anyway, the weather was mixed, a couple of quite chilly days but still a lot of sun and we have a good tan. Just got to lose a few pounds now before we go to Tenerife at the beginning of May.

Had the result of my mammogram, all OK thank goodness.

No point in trying to answer your posts so I will just say how very impressed I am to see your long posts Deanna!! and sorry that so many of you seem to be more down than usual at the moment.

Speak tomorrow.

Ann
Glos

Treehunter

Happy Birthday xxxxx I am sure your mum is watching over you

That 3 days of sunshine was great .I borrowed my neighbours machine that pulls up the moss .Now I have done my back in !!!!!!!

Been thinking of changing my name to fogi ( full of good intentions !! ) Sorry for not replying to pm's , not coming back on this thread for days etc etc .I really did mean to . So if I say in the future I have been fogi you will know what I mean .

So many of you seem down recently I hope the black clouds start to lift

love

kathy xxx

Deanna,

A sandwich would not be a good idea. Have bought a lot of veg, to cook a nice 'stir-fry' meal, which I do most days. It is soooo very easy and quick. Made a mistake, it will be a s.i.l plus ex. eating here tomorrow evening/late afternoon. I don't mind in the least, to be honest. I love cooking, not too keen on just for myself, but do most days.

It has been very sunny nearly all week, only today was it misty, should be the same tomorrow. Hope it stays dry for my daugher Sarah;s youngest child's birthday 'party', tomorrow.Anna was born on Easter Sunday last year, as some of you may remember.

Must get something ready for tomorrow.

Eileen xx

Thistledown, Tree hunter, congratulations to you both.

Everyone else I am not going to manage a long one today.

David... You MUST talk to your doctor and if you find it difficult then ask to see a man.
Sometimes the practice nurse is easier to talk to.
But David DO talk. You are a VIP and you must remember that.
I do agree that men are treated differently by the medical profession.
Good luck and try again. X

Eileen a stir fry is easy... once you have done all the prep work... and so very tasty too. I hope they all appreciated it.
and of course I have ordered a sunny day for Anna's birthday... enjoy it.
O.M.G... don't blame me if it rains... I did ask. ha ha ha

Ann, so glad you enjoyed your holiday, now all the work starts, as you found out. The washing ironing, putting away... but it is worth it isn't it after you had a good time??

my son will be home on Good Friday.... I will be so pleased to see him home.
I constantly hope and pray that he will make a full recovery. He has suffered enough bless him.
Men often do get a raw deal from doctors... then they say things like. .. "men do not go to the doctor enough."
In the experience of my husband and son... perhaps if doctors LISTENED to them properly..

Right. I have done enough moaning today.
See you all tomorrow, hopefully, so look after yourselves and I will be back.... O.M.G.... tonight I'm Rambo (?) or is it someone else?
Goodnight all.
Deanna XXX

Happy Birthday to Anna, hope a lovely day is had by all.

David now you have broken the ice by seeing the doctor get back to him and tell him the real reason you went last time! One person can only take so much. My oh saw our dr when he had tried to deal with too much and is now so much better. Change of job getting help for me and time to get over the death of both his parents. It all adds to the stress we carry.If you are tearfull tell your dr. Mine has a short questionaire to fill in which helps them diagnose depression. Easy!

Caz not long now hope it is all going smoothly xx

Deanna Tony will soon be home. Bet he has had a wonderfull time.

Tree Hunter glad you had a good day for your birthday

Colin it's good to see another man here isn't it? How are you?

Liz hope you are okay I haven't seen you much latley xx

Gail how are you? Hows the baby, when is his birthday?

Mrs Blue Eyes hope you are feeling a lot better than when you first come on here xx

Kathy Fogi that sounds a good name for me too xx

Thistledown love to you xx

Going grave hunting again! How lucky am I xxx

Yes birthday was ok, was baby sitting Caitlin got her today as well while her mum is doing a boot sale.

Thinking of all of you who are having a bad time of it.
(((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))

I am hoping to hear about flat by end of next week. Forms are being sent off monday hopfully. So if my housing is happy with them, could be moving by end of the month.

Have a good day all of you see you soon

Hazel xx