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Hi all, well I am joining the club cos I am feeling a bit sad at the mo, had a few words with my son and he said some things that upset me a bit, from the past - I know he is very stressed cos his company are messing them all about and not paying their bonus which he was relying on so hard up, and then he showed me my spoiled nephew's facebook page with photos of his house which my brother and sister in law helped him get (brother has his own business and nephew has always had everything handed to him on a plate) It is so obvious my sister in law has designed everything in there or told him what to get, they were all out in a local furniture store, expensive one, recently and my son saw them. He can't afford to buy a place, struggles to pay his rent now it has gone up and can't afford new furniture and desperately needs a nice carpet, the old one the previous tenant left is awful, but what can I do, I can't afford to help him. I did say the photos screamed Burglars come in - nephew has even shown a picture of the doors open on the unit holding a ginormous tv, with all the other electrical equipment in there. He is so like my sis.i.l., a show off and not a nice person, but it doesn't make my son feel any better about being the poor relation.
To all of you feeling low at the mo, hope things look better soon,

love and hugs to all
Lizxxxx


Deanna, thanks for news of Ray - I must try to call him one evening soon.
So wish I could win the lottery and help him out.

Liz, do not worry about your boy, all will be well.
My son started out with the world at his feet.... and then the 'floor disappeared' from under him.
He has his house which he bought when he was working.
Since then we have had so many problems, you would not believe.
The top of the pile was Him nearly dying.... BUT, he didn't so we have to be grateful for that.
What your son says to you in an argument, especially in the state he is in, means nothing Liz.
Don't for one minute think that my son and I never have cross words, because we do.
We have a very close relationship which includes *arguments*.... ha ha ha

It is my birthday today and I have not seen him yet, but Lisa (his best friend) has just been down with my pressies...
Chocs, book, fancy soap.. is she trying to tell me something? ;-0)
lots of little bits, but the * piece d'resistance*
(excuse the spelling if it is wrong.... ) was a fantastic piece of kit for my computer.
A 'Via Voice'.
I hope it works with my computer.
I can talk into it and the computer will type what I say.
How cool is that?
I don't know if it will work on the threads, but I am doing okay with them now, with the aid of my beloved ABC check, but when I want to write a letter it would be such a boon.
I can delete the expletives when I'm finished.... ha ha ha

I had a lovely bouquet from you lot..... gotta go now as I have my son and DIL here... see yah all later.
Deanna XXX

Happy Birthday Deanna

You must be a great person cause it is my birthday too !!!!!

Have a great day

Hugs to all who are feeling low xxxx

and thanks Liz for the lovely card xx

Kathy

Happy birthday to you Kathy.
I hope you had many nice pressies too.
ALL the best people were born on April 18th.... am I right Kathy, or am I right? ;-0)

now it is dinner time... no peace in this house today..... ha ha ha
Deanna XXX

Hello everyone. How I wish I had known about this thread before. I take Citalopram for depression/anxiety. I think I have had it since my twenties, but its worse since the hormones decided to ebb away. The last few years have been terrible. My lovely son got cancer, and had his colon removed, his wife left him, then he got it again. Had unmentionable bit removed, and has been deeply depressed ever since. At least he gets out of bed and goes to college now though. Five years ago, we lost everything we had. House, car, the lot. Wont go into why, but not down to us. We moved, and now live near husbands parents . I never lived out of Hampshire till now. We have to rent. Kitchen is awful, cracks in the walls, noisy at night, but a tiny patch of garden I am allowed to use when the offices downstairs are closed, and at least the place has character. Its a bit like an elegant old lady who has seen better days, but that doesnt make up for the draughts and the noise. My little daughter (15) is desperate about school, she hates it so much. Exams are looming, she does her best, but stress levels.......... I work in the mornings, and if I am honest, I wouldnt employ me! I dont know how to drag myself out of the door. Sorry,didnt mean to go on and on, but yiou feel so ashamed and so alone when you feel like this, well, I think I gather most of you know that. Thanks for the thread, sorry to just butt in and go on and on. Hope some of you feel better soon. Sunlight sometimes helps they say.

Mummycoll,
So pleased you felt able to write on our thread. Please do feel welcome to visit any time, I can assure you nobody is judgemental on here, say what you like and I hope it makes you feel better. You have obviously had a bad time in the past few years, and your poor son too, I hope that things will start to improve for you and that your son will feel more able to face the world. Is there a support group for people who have had similar operations to your son. It must be very depressing for him.

Ann
Glos

Deanna,

There are no excuses left under the sun which will allow me to pass this day by without acknowledging the birthday of one very feisty lady who I hold dear to my heart.
It is many moons ago since I took up the mighty pen and challenged the strength and might of such a lady... we took it in turns to defeat the other with words, dares and other sneaky actions and we ended up becoming equals.... such times I remember well and with love......

Today Deanna you have found a niche in my armour and enticed me out of my 'black hole' which is one up on you lass, I must remember that if I decide to post again?

I want to send you all my love and greetings on this your birthday and your continued improvement on the health front, just take good care and carrying on posting the zany way you do and always did.....yes lass I do read our thread, contents of which are always brightened by your input, bless you.

My love and regards to old friends who are not forgotten...

JEPage

Yes, Deanna, I do habe your e-mail address, as I do several other great peoples's on this thread, it is just ME who is being diffficult here. Problems as big as a house, that is how they look now. Breaks my spirit and heart, that's what it feels like.....

Love to all of you who REALLY try to lesson my (our) burden, you are all wonderful, unselfish people. Thanks a million to all of you. xxx

Love from Eileen xxx

JOYCE..................HOW IS YAH?

So happy to hear from you darling.
Hope you will feel well enough now to com,e on and have a chat once in a while.
Miss you a lot.... don't we girls?

How is the dog, still dragging you around for HIS walks?
Lovely to hear from you, a very nice birthday pressie ... thank you.

Mummycool, this is the one place on this board where you can chat, moan, have a scream if you want... even at us, so do come on again.
We all know what it is like to feel like 'hiding away' so you are certainly not alone.
moan about kids
moan about friends...
even if we are the friends you want to moan about.... this is the place to come.

Eileen, do e-mail me the minute you feel a little better.
I know what you feel like, been there done that and you know it because I've told yah....
cheer up love, we all get up again after a down don't we?

AND.... I am not allowed to take any anti depressants now. Not since they messed up my kidneys when I was in hospital... so I just have to struggle on these days.
But, I manage.. most days.
The other days? I just cry all day.... ha ha ha

lots of love to all.
Deanna XXXXX

AND JOYCE..... you win this one darling... I read it to Allan.... and I cried.
So you are the winner this time.... but beware, I will be back.;-0)
Deanna XXX

Hi
claire, nothing to forgive him for really, he said my hair looked great as soon as I came in, it was just so funny that he had forgotten about the hairdressers yet was quite content that I had disappeared for almost two hours!!

I think Carol must still have computer trouble which is why she is not around.

Joyce love, how wonderful to see you. Good to know you read even if you don't post, we do miss you a lot.

Deanna and Kathy, hope you have both had a lovely day.

Gail hope you are getting over the flu, miss seeing you on here.
Eileen as I have said and as you know, you can PM me any time. Maybe you would feel better for a chat.
Mummycool, are you OK? Come back to us.

Ann
Glos

I am still up set but at least i know once he is ok to move we can, no more forms or anything to do, just got to sign them.

Its is housing association place his cancil, But they said if he told them they would have sorrted it out quicker, But they you go, I am just looking at it as something is telling me not to move yet,

So got another few weeks of living out of a suit case.But will be going home for a week from the 25th. So will have sometime to myself and do rest of packing. Then be back at Teri with Caitlin until i get a date to move.

Lucky i ddnt stop my lec,gas and phone.

Sorry some of you are having bad time still

(((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))to all that need them

Thanks everyone
Hazel

Hi again everyone. Thanks for the message. Really good to know someone is out there. Everything just gets too much sometimes, and I just want to hide, but I cant do that because other people need me and I dont get paid if I dont work, so I have to try. Probably a good thing. Here I am, and its 11pm, and I am wide awake, even though I only got about four hours sleep last night. Just wish I could get a really good night. The doc wont give me pills. Probably rightly,and I dare not drink alchohol, I get a really bad reaction. It really helped tonight when I could get back to the site to see someone had mailed me. You think you are the only one in the world with this problem sometimes, dont you? All I want is to be happy. Just sometimes.

Hi mummycool.

Yes somethime you feel as you are the only one in the world that even about sometimes.

I have sleep problems as well. I could full asleep now, but as soon as i get in bed thats it i am wide awake.

As i am not in my own place at the mo staying with my daugther, i cant sit on pc all the time to have some thing and someone to talk to. So have to just lay there. I try to read but only so much you can do with that.

Hope things get better for you.

Hazel

Thanks Hazel. Its really difficult staying with someone else if you want to do your own thing isnt it? I hate staying with anyone except my son. He lives in a bit of a mess and just lets me get on with whatever I want to do. I read earlier it was really tough for you at the moment. Hope everything sorts out.x

Hi again, and hello to Mummy cool, I can empathise sort of because I have housing problems too... mine are mostly of my own making tho through depression and family problems.

Thanks for all the kind words re me and my lad, we haven't fallen out, it was things that he said about stuff that happened when he was in his teens and I was starting this relationship I now regret so much, and they are things I can't do anything about, can't go back and make them right, however much I would love to turn back the clock and dew different, as the Norfolk saying goes. I broke all my own rules and will regret it to the day I die and will never be able to make it up to my son, which is why I feel so bad about it.
But then, there are worse problems for so many people and we will come through it all, just wish the rest of my family and o.h.'s lot didn't smell so much of roses, when they have had things handed to them on a plate and don't appreciate it, and my lad has to struggle as I had to and will continue to do.
Oh for a lottery win, I wouldn't be selfish with it once I had sorted my lad out and changed my own situation, nothing flashy, just contentment and peace and stressfree times. I'll keep hanging on to my dream.....

take care all
love
Lizxxx



Btw I could have sworn I added a hello post to Joyce, but maybe I put it on Deanna's birthday thread instead, so will just say Hi my love, and hope you keep reading the threads and staying up to date, and can come and let us know how you are sometimes.
xxx

Oh and I did put up a thread, Carole's computer is playing up so don't know when we will see her back.

Hi to Mummycool and welcome to the family.

Still not well and now have infected sinus. At least I am out of bed and trying to get back to normal. Best thing is OH has escaped so his flu jab has worked.

Deanna, sorry I missed your birthday, so belated wishes and hope you had a nice day.

Love and hugs to all

Gail

Deana, Have to say Mea Culpa for not congratulating you on your birthday yesterday.Hope you had a lovely day?
Thanks to you, Claire & Anna for your kind words. As soon as I feel that I am getting a grip on myself, I certainly will either p.m or mail you.

It is beautiful sunny weather here, so I should be be able to climb out of this hole.........

My closest friend goes in for her op. on wedsnesday afternoon.Am dreading the outcome.

Peace and happiness to all of you.

Eileen xx

Hello,
Sorry you're still not well, Gail. Thank you to those who sent wishes about my trip. Commeriserations to you Hazel, you had your heart set on moving and are thwarted. It's not fair, but life seldom is.
I am not that well at the moment. Trouble is, I'm not as invulnerable as I think. I have fallen into a hole these last few days, almost unable to get out of bed but I've read three books ... At least I'm up, now.
Not sure of the cause, it may be just a bit of SAD (it's autumn here) or a reaction to the highs of last week. The other possibility is the big Australian news story of the moment. It brings back horrible memories of when my mother died nearly 34 years ago. I know medical treatment for burns was much more primitive then, but I am hurting because of all the news of the heroic measures to treat the refugees burnt in the explosion of their boat. Then again, we can't just let them die, can we?
My TV died last night. May be nothing more than a blown fuse, but it will take time to sort out and I will miss it.
Anyway, I am off to see my doctor for other reasons, so may mention my mood.

Hi everyone. Getting better slowly, so on the mend finally.

Colin, our medical system is a shambles, just getting basic care is very difficult. I know we cannot leave these people in pain, but when do we as citizens of this country get the same care that available to these people. The answer is we do not.

When I had my accident, the medical profession were more concerned with harvesting my organs than keeping me alive. It was only my pigheadness that allowed me to survive. I was basically shoved in a corner with no intervention while they waited for me to die. It then took 18 moths for our so call medical profession to find my neck had been broken. We were also fully covered by private health insurance at the time.

We just want the same care that is offered to others, I paid tax for 40 odd years. Yet, I still cannot get the health care I feel is deserved.

Gail