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I have 3 daughters all with the same man but we only married after the eldest two were born. I was 24 when I had my eldest - so not that young. Both my parents were married but never to each other. My Step-mother told me never marry a man you haven't slept and lived with first - How would you know if you were compatible? Tammy :~)

hmm will rebute all your criticisms later... Paul, I'm 17 *wink wink* lol :-)

I had loads of sex before I was married & it was GREAT!!!! What's the problem?

Vanessa!!really!!p.m.s.l Im only jealouslol

Hi Lucia I see you are in good debating form at the moment ;-) There isn't so many debates on this board recently. As for this question I don't see it as 'believe in ' !!! but if you ask do I agree with it well yes I do. I actually do not really 'believe' in marriage and wouldn't be Married now only at the time of my second child's birth I was told I had no choice, (15years ago which was not totally correct & was the wrong advice anyway). Your views may or may not change as you get older most of my main views haven't changed much from when I was your age, (I like to believe i have become wiser though, which I know you will (not saying you are not wise now lol you couldn't be accused of not having wisdom thats for sure). :-) Pat x

Do I believe in sex before marriage? As a teenager, no, I didn't use to, but that was before a special man came into my life. Then my views changed. Jay

Variety is the spice of life,,,get stuck in there..

Lucia, My aplogies then, I was misinformed *searches for Bec to tell her off* Paul

Lynda.... I believe Lucia has every right to believe that and we have no right to presume that they will change! I still believe there is someone out there waiting for me to come into their lives that is meant purely for me..... I still stand by that!! At 10 i told my friends i would never have children without being married..... it turned out to be true for reasons unknown to me!! I still believe children should have 2 loving parents, but as previously stated that doesn't always happen!! I also at 10 said I would adopt..... and I may still do so!! Not all little girls want the same thing these days!! Lucia..... you stick to your opinions babe!!

Hi Roxanne Thank you for understanding! Such wonderful memories! lol

What is wrong with sex before marriage anyway? there has always been sex, long before the marriage part came into it. I find the second part of Lucia's thread interesting ..' I read the Bible once and it really influenced me' (or word to that effect). Now are we to believe from this that Lucia actually read the good book only once, and did she read it all? And who at the tender age of 16 can honestly say that they understand the Bible in its entirety? Who at the age of 70 could say that? I think Lucia is a little cracker and has a very enquiring intelligent mind - no doubt as she matures and sees a little more of life then her views will change - she'll meet Mr Wonderful and things will perhaps take a different twist. I do hope so - sex in a meaningful relationship is wonderful, and it's not necessary to have a piece of paper just so that you can experience it. My opinion, and mine only. Jacqui

Jacqui - I totally agree!

Jacqui - I totally agree!

I was joking Jacqui lol I have some reasons why I have these views. There is a lot a people my age who seem to be very promiscuous. I definetely don't agree with that. Someone I knew lost her virginity at 14 and she wasn't with the guy for long after. I feel that is a waste. A friend of mine got wasted by her parents because it happened. I just think it's a good thing because then you know for certain that you are in a loving relationship - you won't pop a baby out and then they'll just leave you. And if they really respect they'll allow you to wait. And about illegitimacy I just think that it makes you look really common if you get pregnant out of wedlock - just my view.

Jeez Lucia as someone who is illegitimite with two illegitimite children it's a good job I know you (at least on these boards) and won't take offence lol Having said that, I don't believe in casual sex with lots of different men. Juliexx *the er..... common one lol

er no didn't mean it like that...:-( I'm not very good at giving opinion without implying offence..

I can't say that I either believed or didn't! What I mean is I never felt it was the right thing to do for me but I thought it would mean being loved so I did it anyway! I often wonder how many of us felt that way! In a perfect world we would wait but who's to say we should be married anyway? My first attempt at marriage was little more than having my personality taken apart piece by piece and reassembled into someone who needed Prozac to get out of bed in the morning! Julie xxx

Lucia - Just because you have a piece of paper (Marriage Certificate) don't mean he ain't gonna leave you anyway! xx

Lucia Having read alot of the replies to this thread and enjoyed it I think you have very good views on life so carry on the way you think and to stir it up my veiw are Its a pity a lot more youngsters dont think the way you do well done girl XXXX Howiexx

Well Lucia...............you've done it again girl!!! lol As a person who did have sex before marriage, and who only just got to the church in time I dont think I 'looked common'.................as a matter of fact I looked radiant (or so I was told by many at the time). I actually think that body piercing and tattoos look unfeminine on women, but that being said I have friends who have both and provided they dont try to tie me down and get me tattood (tattoed? tattooed???? you know what I mean) and get my nipples pierced, then so be it - it's their bodies, their rights. And it wasnt obvious to me that you were joking about reading the Bible once (and once only) I rather summised from the title of the thread and the view you expressed that you had only read it once! lol lol.