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I see nothing wrong in sex with or without marriage only that it can be harmful, particularly for the female, to start too young. Like going to war, people under 18 should not get involved as, not being fully mature, they may suffer long-lasting emotional and physical damage. len

So Because I fell In love the first time around with a man who was shall we say a liar, womaniser and generally cruel and yes I was very INNOCENT!! who I divorced because of those reasons and now have remarried to a wonderful careing man,I am a sinner!! well if thats the case GOOD!! Im glad Im a sinner!lol

Lucia I was the same as you at 17 - believed no sex before marriage - one friend who did not have the same beliefs as me asked if I would still be her friend if she slept with her boyfriend! (We are still friends now) Anyway stuck to my beliefs & got married at 28 - was so grateful that I had. Penny Keep it up !!!

Definitely believe in sex before marriage! lol I might be on my own here but I think it's a healthy thing to experiment sexually whether yr in love with someone or not - casual sex isn't for everyone but it's not soul-destroying and doesn't make anyone less than anyone else. Perhaps a lifetime of casual sex isn't good for the soul but what's wrong with protected enjoyment of the bodies we were given? As most people know (I assume) there is a difference between sex with someone you love and who yr in a long-term relationship with and sex with someone you're not - there's a place for both of them and I'm very glad I've experienced both:)

Hi - I've just discovered this thread. Sounds interesting - and it has certainly stirred some people up! May I suggest something? I believe that having sex (the first time) IS marriage in God's eyes. Sex with anyone else after that is adultery. Someone commented in an earlier thread that 'if we read the Bible at face value then it seems we're all sinners' (I've paraphrased what they said). I'm glad that someone has realised that! - we are indeed. Sexual sin is considered worse - for some reason - than pretty much any other sin. God detests all sin. And we are all sinners. Denying the fact doesn't make the fact false. Acknowledging it means that there's a chance of getting it sorted out. William

Roxanne, I meant like casual sex..and anyway I've read that there's been an increase in STDs so if all teenagers shared my opinion..

Paul, lol Probably!!!!he he

Bec, to me marriage is worth more than a piece of paper...oh dear yes that sounds really corny... Paul, yep that's what I meant...hmm I'm not saying everyone's like that. It's just a belief I have and I can't help it. I've not been influenced by anyone else as far as I know.

ooooooooo bad example Roxanne lol

Sorry Lucia, but being a 'virgin' does not make anyone whiter than white!! Just because a woman chooses to sleep with someone she loves,it makes her common?? Princess Diana had sexual relations with men, was she common,I think not!!

Paul PMSL

Julie... yeah, but, no but ... shut UP, I can't believe you just said that lol

Lucia I'm not offended, just teasing you lol. Sorry couldn't resist :0). Juliexx

omg - common ?!?!!? I think I know where you're coming from... you're thinking of the Vicky Pollards of this world I imagine ?

Well Lucia...............you've done it again girl!!! lol As a person who did have sex before marriage, and who only just got to the church in time I dont think I 'looked common'.................as a matter of fact I looked radiant (or so I was told by many at the time). I actually think that body piercing and tattoos look unfeminine on women, but that being said I have friends who have both and provided they dont try to tie me down and get me tattood (tattoed? tattooed???? you know what I mean) and get my nipples pierced, then so be it - it's their bodies, their rights. And it wasnt obvious to me that you were joking about reading the Bible once (and once only) I rather summised from the title of the thread and the view you expressed that you had only read it once! lol lol.

Lucia Having read alot of the replies to this thread and enjoyed it I think you have very good views on life so carry on the way you think and to stir it up my veiw are Its a pity a lot more youngsters dont think the way you do well done girl XXXX Howiexx

Lucia - Just because you have a piece of paper (Marriage Certificate) don't mean he ain't gonna leave you anyway! xx

I can't say that I either believed or didn't! What I mean is I never felt it was the right thing to do for me but I thought it would mean being loved so I did it anyway! I often wonder how many of us felt that way! In a perfect world we would wait but who's to say we should be married anyway? My first attempt at marriage was little more than having my personality taken apart piece by piece and reassembled into someone who needed Prozac to get out of bed in the morning! Julie xxx

er no didn't mean it like that...:-( I'm not very good at giving opinion without implying offence..

Jeez Lucia as someone who is illegitimite with two illegitimite children it's a good job I know you (at least on these boards) and won't take offence lol Having said that, I don't believe in casual sex with lots of different men. Juliexx *the er..... common one lol