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Seeing Nyneve's thread made me wonder - do you worry about offending others on here with your opinions? Can't say I do and I often get pms from people who have taken issue with something I've said. I wouldn't want to hurt anyone's feelings but as long as you're happy with what you've posted I can't see the problem - there are always going to be people (including me) who feel the opposite to what you've said and take umbrage:)

Nope. I dont worry about offending people with my opinion. It's my opinion, and i'm entitled to it.

I rarely take myself very seriously, so I don't expect others to either. I have occasionally caused offence, but unintentionally, and it's usualy cleared up, privately, fairly quickly. I do think some set out to be contraversial though

Used to really worry about it....but not anymore. You can't please all the peeps all the time.

I put accross my opinon and try to do it so as not to offend, but if I do I am sorry and open to people challenging the fact! Thats how I am.

David, have to admit that sometimes I really watch what I say. Growing up in Canada sometimes our expressions etc are a little different. That being said sometimes others might say something that means something totally different here. I try not to offend and don't get offended when someone says something on here. Figure it's all part of the purpose of these connections. I like learning about other cultures etc. Best way to explain is in the English language there are a few foul words that people don't usually like to say unless really mad but I have several French friends who use these words all the time - so even thou sometimes they make me cringe I accept and understand to them they mean something different. As far as my opinion goes usually like to keep them to myself but will listen to what others have to say. Debs

You're getting there Jean:) I think I probably come across as trying to be contraversial Paul - not on here so much but in life - but I have this habit of feeling the opposite to what someone says:) Personally, I wish people wouldn't pm me of I've offended them (don't mean the one I had tonight as he explained his reason) - I'd rather it was all kept politely in the open.

I feel that if I am offended by other people's opinions, then I in turn should take care not to offend others. Disagreeing with someone is not (or shouldn't be ) offensive - whilst calling them names or making rude comments because of the opinion they hold is. Jay

No, David, I don't worry about offending people. Nothing I've ever said on here has ever been intended to offend or upset anyone. However, on the odd occasion that something I've said has unwittingly caused offence, I've been as swift as I can to explain, apologise and put things right if it's possible. If my views offend someone, there's not a lot I can do about that - it would be a dull old world if we all thought the same about everything. There's a difference between having an opinion that upsets someone and saying something hurtful or offensive to someone. The former is more about the person offended than me and the latter - well, I've said on other threads what I think about discussions that get personal. It's just 'not cricket!' :-)

I've never seen you be offensive. Strong opinions, yes, but offensive ? no. I'm like Mags.. if I'm adding to a serious thread, I try to get my point across without causing offence. If I think there's any danger of that I just resort to sarcasm instead lol

Debs, you never have to worry about foul language with me;)) Mags - but if you've posted something you believe to be right, it's hard to be sorry for it isn't it? That's the way I feel.

Yes, I do worry in case I upset others...I know my opinion is as valid as the next person's...I know I shouldn't let it bother me but it does...

My worry David is when it affects other people. Cazxxx

Yeh, I agree with that Jay:) Felicity:) Think we were typing at the same time. As I said to Mags, if it's my opinion I can't do much about it except perhaps learn from the way I've expressed myself.

In what way affect others Caz? That ain't a bad thing Woody:) But it must be terrifying on here if you feel like that sometimes Sarcasm is my best mate Paul :)

a mutual friend, I think lol

No, most of the threads that I would post on would not call for people to be offensive in any way to each other. I would be mortified if I thought that I had inadvertently upset someone. I do not easily take offence, most things said on here are said in a light-hearted way. I take politics fairly seriously, and hold certain views, not necessarily set in stone, and I am interested in other people's points of view. On the whole, I am here to enjoy myself, and to watch the witty toing and froing on the board........

I think you've hit the nail on the head David - It's the way the opinon's expressed. I may disagree with someone, but don't take it as a reason to get personal. If I think what I may say may be seen as controversial, I tend to think about how I express it, and use 'formal' language. Rather like the above - then the thread tends to die! lol maggie

David you need to ask Caherine cos she got the flack. I joined these boards for friendship but dont know whats happened over peeps bein offended. Cazxxx

I try not to offend others and am sorry when I do and will say sorry if the offence is justified.. But as it's almost inevitable when only the written word is being used, to worry about it would be futile. There are always super-sensitive folk who will read into a message something that is not intended.....but that is their problem. len