General Chat

I didn't 'know' any of the people at either of the first two meets, Susan... only to speak to on here not off the board....so it was an 'ordeal' lol to psyche myself up to meet 'strangers' en masse....especially as a lot had been here years before I joined

Susan when I first started reading the gen board I thought they very clicky it was just before Jan and Ricks wedding, but I just joined i didnt get an invite to the wedding it was about 3 days away......I have met loads of people and sometime people take their friends along who are not connected to GR at all, Jo you used to post very rarely was agood friend of Catherines from manchester and she used to bring her MIL, Jo and Maz were great company I met them a couple of times, hardly spoke to Jo on here, as I said in my other posts about sandra and Jimmy, and of course the lovely May and her OH whom we spent most of the evening with, so even if your best of pals on here it doesnt mean they all stick together at meets.

If that is so, Susan, what is the answer? That we all stop *speaking* with each other, and only reply to threads by people we don't know, so that we are on a level playing field, everyone knows no-one?

I think it boils down to the type of person you are, and not so much whether you are a newby or not.

Each one of us was a newbie once, but we went out there and met people, we answered threads and posts, and we made friends... that is what people do. Many of us took it a step further and met *in the real world* as well....

Now, there will be some Newbies reading this, I am sure, who will be up for a challenge... might be nervous etc, but will go for it, as many of us did once.... others will not... either because they are shyer, or because they have no wish to meet cyber folk for real, or whatever... but they do not wish to, and that is ok.

In the *real* world, people go into pubs, clubs, dance groups, evening classes, gyms.... wherever... for the first time, as Newbies, and they might be put off, anxious, nervous by the fact that everyone else appears to know each other... but that is life.

They have two choices to change the status quo.... get on, introduce, meet and find new friends, or go away, and miss that opportunity to become a part of that group.

Maybe we have a responsibility to be friendly, and acknowledge and welcome Newbies onto threads, to our meets.... but the Newbie still has to take that step towards becoming a friend, as well. We can't do that for them. They have to do it themselves.

I think my brain is all befuddled now... it is well past my bedtime, lol

Nite all

Love

Daff xxxx

Don't think I'm 'known' to anyone on here judging from responses to my earlier thread, but I've been here a bloody long time - so not sure what I should say?!!
Should I respond as a 'newbie' or an 'old hand' who is, apparently 'Billy no-mates'?
Or just carry on as usual replying to the odd thread, take nothing personal, say very little that is controversial and kill many threads?

Why does everything have to be pigeonholed?

eh Maggie?

I don't really understand about ' pigeon holed'. I have seen you about many a time on GR but haven't seen your 'earlier thread so cannot comment on it':-).

There was no offence meant in my post, but I am sorry if you feel there was. Just one of my ponderings :-)

Talking of Billy no mates........I am afraid that title has already been taken by moi Lol.....

Susan who has paranoid-itis with numbersX

No offence taken Sue, just one of my 'ponderings'!!! LOL

The name is S-U-S-A-N, Margaret :-)

Sorry Susan - you can call call me Bill!! LOL

I can call you Betty and betty if you call me.....You can call me Al :0)

Sorry Muffy - call Betty in my house you get a very furry midget cat!!

............may talk more sense than me though!

lololololol xx

anybody can come to any of the meets in Liverpool
if they dont want to talk to some members well thats up to them
But they can still come and talk to WHO they like
As they say if you come to a meet and you dont like it you can always leave

I think a MEET should be just that - a meet, ie a way of people meeting each other.
I don't think anyone should be excluded.

As in any other social situation where someone present is someone with whom you don't get along, well, then just don't speak to them.

Simples!

K

Wow, look at this - a thread entitled "A controversial thread", containing 187 replies and not one argument!

We're a nice friendly lot on here, aren't we lovely!!!!. LOL

K

Must be a first, Karen;)

contradictory lot on this here chat board, aren't they? lolol

Morning both...... beautiful day here, lovely sunshine, cold though.... oops..... sorry, gone off topic!

Love

Daff xxxxx

Thank you everyone for your replies and a trouble free thread :-)))))

Interesting thread. I enjoy meets but I tend to stick to those over this side, we had three good ones in Bristol and two at Droitwich. But I don't think anyone on this thread came to any of those. And, of course the Swansea one was excellent and great fun.

Maggie, I almost came to the Winchester one you went to and also the Portsmouth one, but I think in the end I must have been on holiday. Colin and Jim were at those weren't they?

I met you at a Bristol one, Ann.

Gwynne