General Chat

Afternnon all,

Hav to mention my grandson Douglas, (the one who was operated on for appendicitis a couple of months ago) has passed his driving exam today, first go.We are in tow minds about this.One part is very pleased for him, the other a bit scared, because youngsters who just have their licence are the most reckless....

Ann, am very gradually getting there. it's going to be a VERY long haul, tht is clear as mud now.
I nearly always off to help with washing and other household things, when I see that my daughter is getting overwhelmed by it all. This is the one who suffered VERY bad PND after her last child. i will do anything humanly possible to help her avoid stress, as I would for my other children. How can you possibly think you are "rubbing salt into the wound", but mentioning walking.I am certain that no-one thinks that !!!!
Liz: Sleep and me don't go hand-in-hand, I have no idea what it's like to actually sleep more than about 3-4 hours per night.
What a lovely gesture of that woman to send you all those cards! My hair is a REAL mess. It has always been naturally light blond, so is turning a silver grey colour. Trouble is, it is as straight as dye.Had a daughter chop a lot off a couple of months ago, which was a success, asked her to do it again two weeks ago, but it looks a proper mess now, more like a t.v character (children's animation), Catweazel or such a name. Far too short and has great chunks out of it. I have never been any good at doing something with my hair, because it was always waist-length yonks ago.Now I wish I had gone to the hairdresser's to have it professionally cut.
Caz.: As I said in a p.m to you, Moving is one of the most stressful things in someone's life. Sorry to ask, but what is a "fire blanket".

Carole: I am still as nervous as a cat on hot coals, Stomach still heaving al the time, and fingernails getting sorter from trying to scratch my way up out of the black hole.Thanks for holding on to my fingers, which are continually slipping back down....

I also wish I would keep getting messages from GR and another site, asking if my father was a war hero. As IF, The b****R was a complete waste of space, and this is putting it lightly....I am still rather angry that I was never given the chance to confront him... still, I must concentrate on what i CAN do, not the past, which is beyond all of us.

Wishing you all a lovely few days of sunshine, as long as it lasts/

Love to all from Eileen xx

Well done Ben, how exciting to see a name that's "yours",.

Carole, Em is better thanks, made me laugh this morning, she came down to my flat to say good morning (which usually means she wants something), when I went in the bathroom a few minutes later, here was a plastic glass on the counter, with a small label stuck on the side, reading "TIPS". Apparently we should all put a few pennies in the glass when we use the bathroom. Novel way to raise funds for an I-Pod LOL.

I'm disappointed that one of my African violet leaves which I've been attempting to propagate (named 'Black Magic') has succumbed. Small issue, but I loved my previous AV collection and was devastated when 200 were lost, I treasure the process of watching them develop life. it's a sanity break for me LOL.

It's still pretty chilly but the sun is out today so I will get everyone outside this afternoon to pick up sticks and other oddments left from the winter, then fill the van and head to the "dump" aka 'tip'. Once the weather is nice I must refrain from spending hours on here !!

have a good day all,
Mary

Well done Douglas. Nothing like having a drivers license to give you a nice bit of freedom.
Nice new car for EASTER Eileen...
Instead of a chocolate egg??? ha ha ha

Just dropped in and will be back later.
Sun has disappeared this afternoon.
Deanna XXXX

Eileen I am with you about passing first time. My son went off to take his road test age 18, and I was convinced he wouldn't pass first time, but he came home pleased with himself he had passed! I was kinda hoping he wouldn't, and he would have a bit more time to understand the responsibility of driving. He wasn't too long before he ended up in a ditch, thankfully no one hurt. It was a good wake up call though. Best wishes to G for many years of sate driving xx

Deanna, a new car instead of an Easter egg!! pmsl xx

Oh yeh, well I took the two lads to pick up the third passenger and should have had some stools. But no. So she started ringing lady who is day off to see why she didn't bring them to me as arranged yesterday. I said I'd go back and get them as by now I was needing the loo! No Need they decided. So I pulled in at a side street near one of our shops and went into use their loo! So the day went okay. Must start to look in freezer and see whats to eat tonight xxx

Have to laugh at both Deanna & Carole's comment about the choc.egg and (new) car. So, the old ad. is still alive and kicking, 'go to work on an egg'? Douglas already has a car which his dad bought some time back.It's only an old banger which both have been doing up themselves. I have to say that I am nervous about him driving everywhere from now on. Still, it may be a bit safer than his scooter.

Paula, I have just read your post about your brother. What a terrible dilemma!! You are really between a rock and a hard place.I feel for you, having to make more or less the same choice, but not so drastic.It keeps you awake at night , worried sick, doesn't it? Will keep you in my thoughts and all of you who need some support in one way or another.

Sleep well.

Eileen xx

Thirty-five years ago today, March 20,1974, my Dad gave up his fight with the Big C. I still miss him - his big burly, teddy bear huggable frame, his gentleness with my tiny children, his unconditional caring. I was, at the time, quite dependent on his wisdom to guide me through difficult experiences, but didn't ask enough questions about his part of the family tree, he gave me just enough info to whet my appetite for genealogy, which still pushes me along.
Thanks for the memories dear Dad, much loved 'Taid' to your grandchildren, now there are 8 great grandchildren for you to love. We keep your memory alive for them.
Bless you.
mary

Well last night I made a right twit of myself. I waited for 2 hours on my computer for my lesson in handwriting. They were going to send an email with the link. The time was for 8 pm. When email did not turn up thought, well we are still on daylight savings, thought maybe 9 pm, again email did not arrive. I gave up and went to bed. The email arrived this morning after 9 am to say the lessons were starting soon. Well it was too late as do not get on computer until after OH goes to work at 2 pm.

I did not allow for the time difference, but then did not know which part of USA it was streaming from either. Most disappointed to say the least.

Gail

I've not been on GR much lately, I didn't what was wrong with me after 3-4months I went to the Doc and I have been given some pretty white and blue pills to take.
They are prozac only the 20mg as it's the first time I've had them, it's day 11 since I started them and I stil feel like I'm drowning, how long before I start to feel better, I'm walking and trying to keep myself occupied so I don't sit and feel sorry for myself, I feel so wretched and lonely I don't want to burden my family with it.

Mrs Blue Eyes.....I was on the *little blue pills* and I loved them.
the hospital took them off me after I suffered the renal failure.
I now have to be careful what I take and how often.
AND BOY DO I MISS THEM.
I had an immediate result with my Prozac.
I was better from the first day.
They were amazing.
I had been in such a bad state when I went to the doctor.
I told him ( my old doctor) that I had my husband destroyed within 5 minutes of getting up in the mornings. He said that I was just too sick to cope and gave me the little miracle pills.
I could do with them now, but I cannot have them.
Yours will kick in and you will see the difference. IF YOU DON'T... the doctor will try you on something else.
Good luck love and I hope all goes well very soon.

To everyone else... I am thinking of you and hope you are all doing well.
Deanna XXX

PS.............Eileen, buy the boy a car, even Carole agrees with me! ;-0)
Deanna XXXX

Thank you Claire that was kind of you x

Deanna & Carole,

Buy the boy a car? What with, shirt buttons? I am walking on my gums, so to speak, as it is.....money or the lack of it being a BIG problem.Doug. has a car, albeit an old banger.I would rather see him in a Volvo, old or not, they are far safer....

Sunyy & spring-like here again today. Am still trying to pull myself up by the old boot laces.

Take care everyone.

Eileen xx

Mrs Blue eyes have sent you a pm. Welcome to our little club.
Hope you will join in. x

Eileen I went to cadburys world, and they have little cars like cream eggs. Now there is an idea for Doug. Not very good for his street cred!!

Mary sending you a big hug. Your dad sounds lovely.xx

Liz Paula Gail Sharron Treehunter Ben Clairejo love to you all

Elaine hasn't been on for ages, I do hope that her, and her oh are okay

Hello to Mrs Blue Eyes. I have also sent you a personal message. The first time I took anti-depressants I was better BEFORE I took the first capsule. To know that it was a real, medical illness with a treatment available was in itself helpful. Later episodes were much worse, and sometimes it was two weeks before I really felt any better. In 23 years, I can relate to how you feel in the depths of depression, but it does pass. I also had one hypomanic episode in 1997 and I can tell you that was frightening. Not a pleasant experience at all, unlike the experience of some people with manic-depression (now usually called bipolar illness).

Warm wishes to all
Colin

Bit short of time at the mo, lots to do, but I am ok and thinking of you all, just feel sorry I can't respond to everyone,
Chin up, brighter longer days ahead.

Love
Lizxxxxx

Thank you for your lovely pms, there was 4 waiting for me, it was a bit scary as it's the first time I've had to go to the Docs. about it, I suffer from SAD to a certain degree and just thought it was that to start off with.
In a way it was almost a relief to be diagnosed with depression at least I know I'm not going nuts, (well no more than usual)

Thank you for all your advice, I had a lovely new bike now and am walking as well, I know it will help.. xx

Mrs Blue Eyes I was also told I had SAD's I think I was being fobbed off now! I think it was the begining of depression for me.

The doctor probably didn't want to lable me a yourng woman (then) with depression. But I think it was the start of it. I was in my mid twenties and had a nice house, a good husband and two young children etc......... But depression isn't about what you have or don't have any more than mumps or the flu! I believe it's something in your head an inballance of something.
Or deep memories that we don't want to think about.
Are you having panic attacks? It will pass but at it's own speed,
try to relax and give yourself time to heal.

Now about that new bike. Is it a replacement or have you not had one for a long time? Hope you enjoy your rides in the fresh air!! xx

H said last night she is over him. She also has been thinking like me that he used her to pay half the rent while he was working part time, while studying. Now he has his new job he can afford to pay the bills himself. Oh well life moves on. She is going out with her friends and chearful again. xx

Hope you are all okay xx

I have both - depression & SADD, ie the depression escalates in the winter months. The SADD light has really helped, 20 mins each morning, above my computer, while I'm checking my email.
Wishing you well Mrs Blue Eyes, walk with us . . .
I'm going away overnight , leaving in a few minutes, so may not be back till the end of the weekend. Stay well, absorb some sunshine, believe in yourself.
Mary

I have brought up my narcissism thread and let rip on it.There is a lovely thread for the lucky ones to leave messages for their late mothers.I felt that we,the forgotten minority should also be represented without spoiling their sentiments.

Good luck to all of you who are still struggling with the confusion and misery that being the victim of narcissism brings and Happy Mother's Day to those of you who are not.

Thanks again, it feels comforting to know I have some lovely people to talk to about it..xx

The bike is a new one because my old one was difficult to ride, this one is a dream it has a lovely little basket on the front.

I'll take a step at a time take your good advice and see what happens.