General Chat

morning all well as you can see its 5.05 and still wide awake i managed to get two hours sleep ,and am now wide awake .so i thought id pop on and wish you all a lovly day and hope it is a good one for all hugs elaine xx

Another b***dy frustration.There is a community mini-bus in the village. The man who organizes it knows better than me in all things,ask him.He likes to tell you about all the good he does in the village and all the old people he looks after.

Twice a month the mini-bus goes to the next village for an hour or so.It was taking a couple of the old people to the post office and the shops,our village only has a garage and no post office.

It has been a big psychological step to get my dad out for that hour twice a month,he is now going to go to the village lunch. He is not ill any more,he is becoming independant.

The man insists on my dad having a carer with him on the bus.We get up very early and go into town to collect his mate.The man was whining about how hard it was to get the seat out for the wheelchair to go in.We get up even earlier to get his mate to the man's house to help him take the seat out and put it back in when they come back.

Now one of the old people has left the village and the other has had a fall and can't get out so the man doesn't want to go to the next village any more.He moaned about taking the seat out so that my dad could hear and I know he will do the same about taking him on his own.

Yes,I could drive the mini-bus but that is not what it's about.That is me taking him somewhere,he needs to go out independantly.

My dad has made such great strides forward that I really don't want this man,who will be trumpeting it about the village how much he has put himself out,knocking him back.

I keep telling myself I am coping but sometimes I think it might be easier to organize a coronation!

Hi all and hope you have a pain free day ((hugs))
Vods how did it go yesterday and the council? and hope you get your knee gets looked at
Eileen, yes you have to think about the good helpers otherwise it eats you up
Sharron glad your dad is getting more independent, such shame about the village driver they don't realise the harm they do, they just moan about everything.
Love and Peace to all hurting
xxxx
CarolB

Ohhhhh Sharron, not another I am person.

Your dad need this independence, do not let this bloke get to you. Sounds like a complete idiot. Sound like my Brother. I know Brother is overseas but do not think he is in UK. It may be his twin though.

Any one any news about Deanna?

Liz you sound like things are a bit on top at the moment, are you okay?

I have the most awful hay fever. This has been the best spring in about 15 years. Blossom and flower everywhere. And, I have to stick my nose is every single flower, wonder why the hay fever?

My roses are just starting to bloom, so more things to smell. My older brother is just as bad and smells every flower around.

Vods, I know what you mean about pensions, we were saving whatever we could for superannuation and so fare a quarter of it has gone in the last 2 months. We are now not contributing as cannot see the point.

Carole, you did not pack me to go with you, promise I will be good.

Love and hugs

Gail

Must button my lip when they get home.You think I shoot from the hip on here where I have chance to edit.Can you imagine what my mouth is like?

Have had to think up things I need to get him in the shops.

Just to match Gails flowers.As I sit here savouring my little bit of time alone,from the window I can see a holly tree absolutely laden with berries.Don't think I have ever seen so many on that tree before.There is an apple tree too and it is full of apples but nobody can reach it.It will feed the birds though won't it?

Sharron, your echo reaches to OZ :)))))

I got to do shopping by myself today, while OH was at the dentist. It feels good to be able to do things on your own, so I bet Sharron's 'he of the left hand wheels' feels the same when he can do errands. Plus just that little amount of time by yourself, Sharron, must be good for you as well.

Hi CarolB, missed you up there before and Elaine, was not intentional. My hay fever is so bad my eyes are swollen and now starting to have problem seeing without blur. Have had to bump up my script to make it larger so I can read the screen. Off now to get an ice pack.

Gail

Hi every one

Sorry not been on for a while .Don't know where the time goes .

Had a pm from liz worried that she hadn't seen me around .Thanks liz I am fine just trying to keep busy and not think about next week !!!!

As you all know I work at a history society every friday but I am also part of the research team and I have been bogged under with requests recently .

Can anyone tell me how joe bloggs born 1690 is related to joe bloggs born 100 miles away 1720 ?? This request comes from a member who has found he shares a 36/37 dna result with another member of the society !!!!! ( names changed to with hold privacy !!!) seriously though some people must think we have a crystal ball .

Well every thing is white here today snow and frost .The cat was not too keen to go out but a little tap on the bum gave him encouragement.Some one will have to do better than that to get me out today !!!!

Well hope those in pain have a better day and love and hugs to you all.

Kathy xxxx

well hubby coming home thank god am sitting here with a smile on my face hospital have aranged transport to bring him home am so exited ,i will sleep tonight thank you for all your support over the last few months dont no what id have done with out you all hugs to everyone xxxx elaine

CarolB. Council took machine away and I just have to wait and see what they hear on it, but not holding my breath. It was sooo cold I didn't get til the afternoon, but gotta be out early this morning so gonn pop in to make an appt. Gonna demand they take a look this time.
Rang hospital re my op and left a message for consultants secretary saying I would like to be able to arrange something for Xmas this year, so can someone contact me to let me know what's happening. I'm just gonna have to bug them every week I think lol

Hope you are all well and managing to keep on top of it all, if that's possible

Take Care

xx

Hi Gail, thanks love, am ok, just feel a bit snowed under with everything at the mo, and not keeping up with mails or messages, much less the dreaded h*******k which makes misery guts moan a bit more! No point now as he is on diy leave again next week, heaven help me, so my excuse will be, I am waiting til he has finished making a mess lol
Nlp again today, Weds, not convinced it will help but must give it a go.

Love to all and hope things come out in the wash lol

Lizxxxx

News of Deanna is, no news. Tony said the hospital is still closed to non essential visitors so they haven't been able to see Deanna.

Just read up to date and will have to go to work!
Thinking of you all xx

Thought I would just pop in before going to the Drs
Liz..take care 'sis' and take it easy
Vods...guess they will have to measure the decibels now, hope it goes in your favour
Twinkle...brill news
((Hugs)) for everyone else
xxxx
CarolB

Morning Everyone, I hope you're all coping and managing to keep warm, it's freezing here, although the house is getting warmer now I've turned some storage heaters on, wish to god I had gas but no gas to our village, so we are electric.
No snow as yet but it looks like a lot of you have it white outside, take care if you do.

I have a painful knee at the moment on top of my usual aches and pains, it's causing me a bit of a problem but I'm sure it will go soon.

Love and hugs to everyone that needs one, positive thoughts to everyone thats unwell for what ever reason.
Thinking of you all.

Love Gillie XXXX

Evening gang.

We had a huge snake in the yard yesterday, was a red belly black snake. Yes they are poisonous, but also shy and will get away if you leave them alone. Biggest problem is my lovely dog Huck, he is terrified of snakes and it took ages to calm him down. I ended up having to bring him inside for a while. When I took him back to his kennel he was looking everywhere, spotted the hose and raced back inside. It took some time to convince him the hose was not after him. The hose is green.

Huck is the first dog I have had who does not go after them, so is a blessing he is so scared. All the cats were asleep, as usual so was lucky there. We lost one cat from snake bite last year.

Red belly black snakes give birth to live young, 20 to 50 at a pop. I would say this one was on its way to the river for a dip. This snake was 1.5 metres long, about 59 inches.

Shy or not I stay clear.

Love and hugs

Gail

goodmorning all
im having battle within myself was going to visit my g,children ad g,granchildren,but my g,daughter who i stay with has split up from her boyfriend so at the moment shes staying at her sisters,but thw worrying part is my g,daughter is so trusting sees know ad in anyone,theres afriends of her,s and shes going to get mortage with them but the her friend is due to have ababy,her sister has told her be careful as if they start getting into debt you,ll end up getting all,but the main reason im so upset about is she has been going to see her mother and the other day she said come i,ll take you shopping and buy you some new clothes,well shes saying o this is nice so is this and when they get to the till,my grandaughter had to pay for the lot,this is my so called daughter who told her she was dying of cancer and had two years to live she never even had it,i dont want any part of her at all and my other g.daughter has told her sister dont bring her near my house,and my g,grandaughterADHD shes only 7yrs old but is now on medication,im so stress out about all this and now not been able to go and visit them,as i was going to just before xmas but i cant afford to go into hotel as the airfares have gone up quite abit,so feeling abit low at the moment sorry for going on as most of you know its not me,ake care all
Dutchxx

Joyce, sometimes the hardest things we do as parents is step back and watch them make their own mistakes. Your grand daughters are adults and it would not matter what you say about their mother or buying a house, they will still do it. I know how difficult it is for you, but also know that when things go wrong that we are there to pick up the pieces. They have to make their own mistakes, it is how we learn.

When they are growing up we tell them repeatedly, do not touch that bee it will sting, first chance they get they touch it and guess what, it does sting, but they do not touch again.

I know how much you were looking forward to visiting, but the way it looks it will not be on for this year. Save your money till next year and then you will be able to afford to stay somewhere else. Not much help I know, I just do not know what to say that will help just now. So here is a ((((((((hug)))))) just for you.

Gail

thanks Gail shes only going on 20 in november and when she was with her boyfriend,hardly went near her mother,you would,nt believe the things shes done ,and my g,daughter dosnt mention her to me as ,one of my friends asked how i was and said my mother is dead,so to me it works both ways i have refused to have anything to do with her,she also messed up her son life my g,son and for that i will never forgive her sad to say but true
Dutchxx

Joyce I have picked up a few things about your daughter through various threads. Sorry but you got a bad one there. On the other hand you have wonderful grandchildren and great grandchildren.

I know she is only going on twenty, but legally she is an adult. Also with banks and lending as they are with the recession, they may find it very difficult to get access to a loan. At the moment they are talking only. It may fall apart before they get anywhere with purchasing a house.

Hopefully, g/daughter will see sense soon. I bet she does not go shopping again with her mother though.

Gail

Gail,she probly will but at least shes got asteady job and she works hard,have just told my hubby when he phoned and hes worried about her with nobody to look after her,but ive just told my friend i will try to get to Liverpool thats were my friend lives and she puts me up,but she said dont go doing that trip in one day as it realy took it out of me last time ,as they all live in yorkshire getting to old for this ,and jan dosnt like me worrying but hes never had children and has,nt been married brfore but i know were hes coming from,but we never stop worrying about them,how are you going on hope things are abit better for you take care
Dutchxx

Dear Dutch/Joyce, I feel for you, my daughter's ex- husband is a bad 'un too, despite a loving family while growing up. I see the pain he's caused his father, let alone his wife and children, sometimes we just have to let go. I figure it takes too much emotional energy to spend our time worrying about someone like this.
Yes she'll always be your child, you will always love her, but you are under no obligation to LIKE her actions or words. She's an adult and is responsible for herself. You did your very best, you gave her her wings, and taught her how to fly, she's chosen her own flight path. I know it's hard not to worry, and it's easy for someone else to say, but please look after yourself first.
Lots of Hugs, you send so much caring to others.
Love
Mary