General Chat

Hi all, sorry if I owe anyone a reply to a mail or pm!
O.h threw a hissy fit on Thursday early evening, upended the coffee table with all my make up and papers etc on, and dashed a pile of newspapers and magazines and paperwork to the floor then trampled over it all tearing it. This kind of thing reduces me to hysterics due to the ocd. It took me a while to clear it all up. He stormed upstairs and proceeded to throw down some of my clothes, snapping the hangers as he trampled on them, he really is like a madman when he goes like that. All the time screaming abuse at me. I hit him with the coffee table, had to restrain myself from really going at it or would be on remand now for murder. Didn't realise he had done something to the computer, his usual punishment when I have upset him, he went off to bed with no dinner at 7pm and left me to clear up. I did manage to sort it all out and got rid of a big bag of papers but can't cope with the hassle of him. All because I was trying to sort out the holiday he wants to take and suggested a slight variation on the dates, so we could go to a show at the theatre near the cottage we were going to rent. Won't be doing any more about that at the mo. He is still waiting to hear from dvla so altho I have booked my car that he drives in for mot next Thurs he won't pay for it if he hasn't heard back from them re permission to continue driving! Means the mot will have to be cancelled and therefore he won't be able to drive the car, so will take the one I use and I will be stranded! Such a charming man NOT!
I tried to get on line after I had cleared things up and found he had done something so I couldn't make contact with anyone, luckily I persuaded him Fri evening to sort it out before he went to bed.
Am trying to catch up with everything going on here and in other parts of my life, so many emails to reply to and I expect some of you got yours returned lol
Next week will be lovely, he is on late shift so I don't have to spend much time with him at all lol

Can I send hugs to you all, my head just can't cope with individual messages at the mo.
Love and hugs
Lizxxx

Hi Liz,

VIRTUAL ((((HUGS))))

Betty

thanks Betty, off to bed now as he will be getting up in a mo.
Have a good weekend,
Lizxxx

LIZ, you don't deserve this, wouldn't it be more of a holiday to send him somewhere and you stay home?????
sending hugs across the pond.
Mary

Hello Liz

(((((((((lots of hugs))))))))))

wish I had a magic wand - I would move you to a place of your own.

Take care

Gill

No Kathleen?

Liz I'm so sorry you had to suffer that abuse. He really knows which buttons to press to make you panic like that. He is torturing you! You need to get your head together and look at ways of getting your own house sorted out, so you don't depend on him. He'll see he does not pull all the strings then! I hope for you that the counselling can help you enough, to be able to do something that you really want. In the mean time roll on next week so you don't see him so much! xx

Hi Sally, we all try not to let others see how sad or poorly we feel. It's not doing any favors to ourselves by holding it in though. That only makes the problem deeper, and so then harder to treat when we hit rock bottom. Do something now, before you
hit that bottom. Talk to us, it's as good as a virtual counselling sesion! We all accept pm's or group
messages! It's better to share than carry on alone. xxx

Betty is your life sorted now! You are very quiet lately! xxx

Gill what have you been doing, anything fun? xx

Joyce don't do that again! Staying on the computer during a storm! Honest, ours got hit and we had to claim on insurance for a new one. But lost all our files, work we had worked on for ever! You need to turn it off and unplug it, also the internet cable should be unattatched, thats where our problem happened. Now say sorry and be a good girl xx

Mary, omg! $900, can't do with out a vehicle though!
Poor Colleen she has so much to cope with. I'm sorry the little lad has no longer a place at the school. My son had speech problems and went to a special school we had to fight for a place at! I know how much it means to have that place. Does he get speech therapy anywhere else? How can they do that to the kid. It's alright having them tell you what to do but it's another job and the kids don't want to sit at home and work all the time. They seem to know it's different at school. Special schools are so few and far between here. Do you have the same problem? xx

Rach lovely to see you looking in at us! xx How are you and oh settling in with your news? xx

Caz Y hope you don't have to wait too long to get moved. I'm sure it will be lovely xx

Gail you look like a lobster! You must have had the water too hot! xx

Right, Deanna is coming for you, unless you get back here by tonight!!

Deanna I'm going to get you some stilts! When I send you off looking for missing folks off here, it will keep your feet off the ground and height to see farther! No need to wear them slippers, your curling foot will grab the stilts foot rest! xxxx Now I'm going to have to run fast to get away before you hit me!
xxx

Hello all

Hope today will be a bit better for everyone.

I am not really having fun Carole I am arguing with Housing Association over a payment 2 years ago from previous property, I still have the letter stating it was an ocersight on their behalf and the rent was paid, now I get a debt recovery letter.

Not too happy but neither are they now I have rang them and told them off.

take care all

Gill

Gill, we had a couple in our area this week who were sent a bill for an outstanding council tax from 1994-5.....

The bill was for 2pence.............I kid you not!

Carole thanks for that, but I have to have a day off..... after boasting that I slept so well the other night..... I slept not one wink last night.
suffice to say, I was in the bathroom the whole night!!
The image is yours to paint! ;-0)

Mary, I have not forgotten you love, and I will be e-mailing you... I promise.
Give Colleen a hug for me. That girl is having a tough time... bless her.

Joyce P.... I also quit 'cold turkey'... I genuinely think it is the only way.
I stopped 198....something and Allan stopped soon after.
What a difference it made to us... in every way. Good luck with it love however you do it.

I have to go folks.... sorry but I am too bad to stay on today....
love to all,
Deanna XX

Hi all, what a beautiful day today - sun is shining, sky blue, and I have been asleep most of it lol
I must alter my sleep pattern a bit so I don't miss summer - it might be blink and you miss it like last summer lol
Thanks for hugs and pms etc. Gill, I have been searching every where for my magic wand and or the magic carpet lol
One of these days I will walk away and he can whistle lol

At least I have been productive, after he had gone to work at 6 am I got up again and stuck a couple of throws in the wash, and got them out on the line before getting back to bed! They will be dry and back on before he gets home, and I now have another load of stuff in the machine. I am taking advantage of being able to dry things outside.
Hope you are all having a good day today and getting the sun too.
love
Lizxxx

hi all love to everyone of you. Ive been to anxiety class on thursday. I cant believe how many symptoms they showed us and I have them all. Still near the and of the sesion the lady makes the group lay on the floor and makes us tense our muscles and then relax them she talks in such a soothing way. This week I hadnt had much sleep so when I got to her class I felt tired. I said to the girl next to me if I fall asleep wake me up .You will hear me because my husbands says I snore. . My husband always worries though when I snore because sometimes I hold my breath and stop breathing he has to elbow me in the ribs. I told my mums mate about this shes a nurse and says you are suffering with sleep apnoea. Anyway enough about me. love to you all and you will all be in my prayers.

evening everyone hope everyone having a nice weekend carole ,gill,deanna how you all doing today ?and everyone whos names ive forgot today having a forgetfull day i even forgot who i was lol i may forget your names but be asured thinking of everyone on here glad to report im having a good day today been busy me and hubby sorted shead and packed away a small room to turn into a computer room so that will keep me busy painting over the next few days im finding if i keep busy it takes my mind of things and worrying over next week and what the surgion is going to say .so im of to do some more at this rate ill wear myself out hugs to all xxxelaine xxx

Evening to everyone. Oh! Liz. Hope you got all the washing dried, and I will ring you as arranged on Monday night. At least we can get a blether lol
Can't you just get out of it to a place of your own?

My daughter who split from her OH in January, said that a man can get your self esteem so low, that you think no-one else will want you, or even look at you, and you just resign yourself to living your life like that for the sake of the kids.
Thank God she saw the light of day, but still don't know why she married him in the first place, cos she lived with him for 6 1/2 years before marrying him, and he was the same then.

Hope everyone is having a good day today, and please enjoy your evening.

Take Care

V XX

Hi

My OCD has gone down at the moment as I am learning to control the rituals as well. Hope it can last.

I did mention about other sites and ignorant members. I just ignore them now. I did have one who said "Go away please" when I tried to say hello which i found was rude and the please was sarcastic as she was chatting with other members. Having looked at her posts, her typing was over the place, grammer not right and abbreviated with the odd swear words. Another one had a pic of herself in her undies as her main photo.

I think they go on there to get attention and maybe to ignore certain members as well. I use the site less and only speak to the ones who speak to me now. I think the ignorant ones are immature.

But, because of that it made my ocd tell me that I am unwanted.

Ben

hi just thought id pop as having trouble sleeping again its horable when everyone around you are snoring and your tired but carnt sleep so im of to grab a book to read till my eyes start dropping sleep well everyone catch you all tomorrow x elaine xx

let's face it Ben, would you really want to be "wanted" by people like that!!!! Of course you wouldn't - people like that are not worth the time of day, whereas on here everyone is wanted and cared for so just don't go there any more - it is they who have the problem, certainly not you!!

Ann XX

Sorry to hear Ben that some people have been rude and sarcastic towards you. They dont sound very caring. On this site everyones very understanding. Well done with trying to control your ocd.

Ben, for goodness sakes, don't spend any time an ANY thread where they are rude to you.
They may one day find that THEY NEED YOU.....
We are none of us strong enough to stand alone.
Glad to see you back Ben... and remember please that the first time you came on this board, you taught me that I had also suffered fro OCD.... and even doctors didn't tell me that.
That Ben is why we are all here! To help each other.
SO stay away from the rude people.... you will soon learn to recognise them, have a good day.

Elaine ... Allan and I are doing fine just now thank you, hope you and your Oh are too.

Vod.... your daughter is quite right, but she will be strong again. I can say this from experience...
They can drag you down so far that you really BELIEVE that you are no good.
She will find out herself after a while that she is well rid of him, and begin to realize that there are others out there who think she is wonderful... starting with friends.

And all you others who are around, have a nice day all of you, and I will be back after the LONDON MARATHON!

I could WATCH exercise all day. ;-0)
love Deanna XX

sadly I got up too late to join in the Marathon!!!! never mind, next year??

Oh Ann.... how disappointing darling..... perhaps next year hey?

You could knock me up too!

I could WATCH YAH! ha ha ha ha.

Deanna XX

hi everyone. Yesterday I went to visit Dad, took Mum and my sister. Dad seemed a lot brighter
and even tried to joke a little with the tea lady!

Today I have been waited on, oh cooked dinner. Then I set about tidying the utility room. I've been having nightmares about the mountain of ironing,
( which I'll do soon) and was suprised it wasn't that bad when I acually saw it in the morning!

Ben you are doing really well to reduce the rituals, well done x

Vods I agree a man can give your self confidence a real knock. It's usually because they have a problem
and try to make them self look better, by making those nearest to them look bad.xxx

How is everyone?