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I am thankful I havent but I feel so sorry for people who's child has died. I have a couple of friends whose children have died or been in accidents and died.It is not the correct order of things is it? It must be a really bad thing to get over .My eldest brother died 5 years ago at 51 I know he was not a child but my Mum found it hard to get past it.But for somebody to lose a young child must be the worst thing in the world? Davex

My brother's son died recently. It is one of the worst times we have ever been through as a family.

Wendy I feel so sorry for your brother and your family God bless you all Dx

I have miscarried recently. So yes lost a child and whole family,friends were and still are devastated. However, have had loads of support and kind words from the people on here and we are slowing plodding along!!! I feel for everyone that has lost a child! xxxx

Sorry about your loss wendy! Thoughts are with you hun xxxx

I know about your loss Kerry hope you are feeling a lot better in yourself now! Davex

Since doing my research i have found that i would have had 4 brothers and 1 sister if they had survived! My parents never mentioned them to me???? I would have loved to know about them and been 1 of 8 instead of 1 of 3! Different generation i suppose! Karen So sorry to those who have lost children recently!!!

My father lost a child me.... My mother would not let him near her when she had me... He has never seen me at all... Im 35 now and he has a grandson of 10.... Is that the same...? I think it is he knows he has a daughter but he doesnt know my name as my mother changed hers.. This is heartbreaking for me read my Finding my Biological father...

my god daughter and my friends only grandaughter had her life taken away at 18 monthes old.the loss of a child is something you can never fully get over. luv deb.x

I cant get my head round how people must feel when burying a child it is so unfair isnt it?people should be born grow up get married have children and grandchildren if they are lucky. Not bury a child before they die themself, their children should bury them that is the proper order of things isnt it?

My aunty lost her daughter aged 6months this was about 35 yrsago she had the main chamber of her heart missing and had a heart attack everyday for 6months only mild ones till the final massive one which killed her she then got pregnant 2 more times and they died inside her she finally had a son who is 30 now and she is very protective of him if not to over ,but to her he is the most prescious thng on earth like everybodys child my grandmother remembers Amandas death like it was yesterday how my aunty kept her at home and knitted for her and dressed her in her coffin telling my nan look she is so warm but it was her hand that my aunt had held the whole week she was lieing at home

thank god,it has'nt happened to me. but i see young children die,in my job,and its something you never really get over,your thoughts are always with the parents...sooo sad. bryan.

Yes, I should have a grown up daughter now. Thirtyone years ago my Zoe was born when I was only 30 weeks pregnant and she weighed just 1 lb 10 oz. and lived for only 3 days. Things were not like today, where so much more can be done for little scraps like her, and I was so shellshocked I didn't even think of taking a photograph so have nothing to remember her by, except a tiny grave to visit. Nowadays at least, the nurses take photos, footprints, and such which must help a little. It was so hard to tell anyone when they saw my bump had gone. I was in a daze for at least a year or more but gradually life goes on and you think of them a little less than constantly. Time truly does ease the pain a little. I do have my lovely son now, but still envy mums who have daughters to share the girly things with. Harder still must be the loss of children whatever age when the death is needless, as in stupid accidents and so on. I know several people who have lost older sons or daughters and I never know what to say to comfort them. Treasure your kids, however much they drive you up the wall, just always remember to tell them you love them when you part.

My Heart goes OUT to all... I have had 4 miscarriages 3 at the early stage and 1 at 7 months.... I have a son now who is 10 and I still wont let him play out. Am i being fair or over protecting... I am getting a lump in my throat as I wish all my love to those who have suffered or who are Suffering now

Kimberley my daughter had a miscarriage 6 years ago and it took her a long time to get over,She has a lovely little girl now Neve who is 4. Davex

cant reply all this is heartbraking .... bringing back my past and my future with cancer.. God I hope if the worst ever came My Husband will look after him... I hate all this talk I am not replying no more Sorry Kim

Kerry if you read this, I know how you feel, I miscarried into double figures, so could say I'm an expert, but that makes my daughter all the more special, she survived, and our son so special by the way he came to us. Don't give up hope. Josie

Kimberley - don't put your son in a glass case - let him be like his friends, and play out where it is safe to do so, just teach him to be sensible, safety conscious and responsible. You will be doing him an injustice by holding him to your apron strings, one day he will have to do things by himself and it is better for him to know the pitfalls than be totally naive. He is far more likely to come to harm if you don't let him learn for himself. I lived in fear when my son was born, after losing Zoe, I couldn't believe I finally had a live baby at home. I used always to be checking he was breathing etc but as he grew I realised he was entitled to live a normal life and he was not responsble for my happiness or peace of mind so I had to let him go free. I taught him how to cross the road safely and what was o.k. and what was not, and he survived it all and had a great time. He went to Beavers,and Cubs etc, and I can remember once going to a meeting at the Cub campsite, where he had been for the weekend, and he pointed to a tall wooden structure and told me he'd abseiled down it the day before!! I was just glad I knew afterwards and not before. Let your boy be a boy and cross your fingers my love - he'll thank you for it later.

Thank you Joseanne! I guess we are lucky in the fact that we know we can have children together as we have Kian who is 6months old. Guess it just wasn`t mean to be right now!!!

We lost our first grandchild, he only lived 6 hours, and it was the most painful time of our lives, there is not a day goes by without my thinking of him, and the look of absolute hurt in my sons eyes will haunt me all my days, and it's been over 7 years now. Belle.