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Teri my brother died aged 51, 4 days after the millenium he was buried on 17th January 2000 on my 50th Birthday I will never forget that day for sad reasons not happy ones! Dave

I found out yesterday that my grans sister died at 5 months, my husband also lost a brother to cot death in 1969 and his other brother died on his birthday (also my daughter birthday) 6 years ago...... its heart breaking. i feel for everyone on this thread... Teri

Sylvia you are lovely Mum any child would have been proud to call you that! Davexx

Thank you for the thread and also thank you Bev for your wonderful poems, especially the first one, altough I could hardly read it for my tears. I lost my first and only baby. He was premature and it was a breach birth, although he weighed nearly 5 pounds and I am sure, if it had happened nowadays, he could have been saved. It was in 1950 and not a day goes by without me thinking of him. He was never shown to me or given to me to hold and I don't even know what he looked like. The burial was arranged by the hospital and, until recently, I didn't even know where he was buried. Wanting desperately to know where his grave is, I contacted the local cemetery board and a very kind lady found all the details for me and even took a photograph of the place where he was buried and sent to me. She also put some flowers on the site for me and I now have something, after 55 years. You might wonder why it has taken me so long to do this but we have lived in Australia for 40 years and I just did not know how to go about it until I got my Computer. Although we were not able to have any more children of our own, we adopted 2 wonderful baby boys who we are very proud of. But I still think of my first baby every day and it would have been his Birthday on April 17th. Love and best wishes to all other Mums and Dads from Sylvia XXXX

theres a family near to my mum who lost there 5 year old son last week was knocked down

Bev and now I am in tears reading your wonderful posting thank you so much for adding that to my thread! Davex

If I knew it would be the last time that I'd see you fall asleep, I would tuck you in more tightly and pray the Lord, your soul to keep. If I knew it would be the last time that I see you walk out the door, I would give you a hug and kiss call you back for one more. If I knew it would be the last time I'd hear your voice lifted up in praise, I would video tape each action and word, so I could play them back day after day. If I knew it would be the last time, I could spare an extra minute or two to stop and say 'I love you,' instead of assuming you would KNOW I do. If I knew it would be the last time I would be there to share your day, well I'm sure you'll have so many more, so I can let just this one slip away. For surely there's always tomorrow to make up for an oversight, and we always get a second chance to make everything right. There will always be another day to say our 'I love yous', And certainly there's another chance to say our 'Anything I can dos?' But just in case I might be wrong, and today is all I get, I'd like to say how much I love you and I hope we never forget, Tomorrow is not promised to anyone, young or old alike, And today may be the last chance you get to hold your loved one tight.. So if you're waiting for tomorrow, why not do it today? For if tomorrow never comes, you'll surely regret the day, That you didn't take that extra time for a smile, a hug, or a kiss and you were too busy to grant someone, what turned out to be their one last wish. So hold your loved ones close today, whisper in their ear, Tell them how much you love them and that you'll always hold them dear, Take time to say 'I'm sorry,' 'please forgive me,' 'thank you' or 'it's okay.' And if tomorrow never comes, you'll have no regrets about today. Have been reading all the threads in tears! My love and thoughts are with you all Bev

Sue feel so sorry for you losing your only child or any child, Victoria for a child to commit suicide how could they your friends start to deal with that! Dxx

a friend of the familiy recently lost thier child to suicide. i have never seen anyone as numb with grief and i pray to god that i never experience that kind of loss myself. victoria XX

I can empathise totally with those who have lost children. I lost my only child, a daughter, when she was just 27 days old. She was born 13 weeks early, with Down syndrome. This was almost 2 years ago. My daughter was conceived after years of infertility treatment, and we now live with the knowledge that we may not be able to have another child. I can honestly say the pain never goes away, but it does become easier to live with over time. Sue

cheers shaz, know how you feel, hugsxx

Most people on here already know about Charlotte but for those that don't then I'll add my bit. Yes I lost a child, My Daughter Charlotte would now be almost 14 she was the 4th of my 6 children sadly though she was born with a heart defect and died because of it. I have also had my share of miscarriage's. My 3rd pregnancy was twins but I lost one. My 5th Pregancy was twins and I lost both. My 6th Pregnancy.... Twins again and again I lost one. My 7th Pregnancy ended in Miscarriage. My 9th Pregnancy (in January) ended in another miscarriage. So in my 9 pregnancies I concieved 12 babies, gave birth to 6 yet I only have 5..... I'm sending (((BIG HUGS))) out to everyone (mothers,fathers, aunts, uncles, brothers,sisters etc.) out there who has lost a child, whether that child was just concieved or was a fully grown adult. Shaz xxx

I was born a twin. But she died shortly after she was born. So my parents have lost a child. I feel funny though. I never knew her really, but I still wonder. She's not even on my tree. She was never given a name. :-( I think it was too difficult for my mum.

My niece had two miscarriages. My brother-in-law died suddenly in his mid-40s. His father was distraught at the funeral. My sister-in-law lost her baby when nearly 9 months pregnant. Joy

lost a grandaughter 10 years ago, she was two weeks old and had a heart problem, doctor said no problem i have not lost one yet but there is always a first time and nicole was it, we were totally devastated its the worst feeling you could imagine, but there was some good came of it , mydaughter had a boy one year later and he is a gift from god to say sorry, he is a great wee footballer and i watch him play everyweek for the local boys club , but nicole is always in our thoughts.

On Thursday, 7th April, it will be a year since 8 yr old Harley died of Cancer. His Mum, due to be married shortly afterward and heavily pregnant was so strong ... I cried for her. They knew that Harleys health was deteriating, but whilst and when he was strong enough, they brought him to school. The last time we saw him, my son was running along the pavement, racing Harley and his Mum in the car to the end of the road, as they had done since starting school together. I'd spoken to Harley's Mum on the way out of the school gates, as Harley raced past us ... I remarked how lovely it was to see Harley so lively and energetic!. She replied ... he goes into The Queens tomorrow for more Cemo, could Curtis come and visit ? it would really cheer Harley up. 'Of course' I said and then reportred to Curtis that we would go and visit during the Easter hols. We never got to the hospital .... Harley died 7th April 2004 aged 8 yrs. Harley's Mum keeps going for the sake of the Baby girl she gave birth to ... just 4 weeks after Harley died. I feel bad enough ... God knows if its your own. You just can't imagine. My heart goes out to all parents who have loved and lost children. Elaine xxxx ((((( HUGS))))))

Brian you must not blame yourself for your sons friends accident it is what you say it was an accident! take care Dave

Brian you can't stop people from doing things it was just an accident just like we can't tell them how to live so please don't feel guilty

My son's best friend was killed in a motorcycle accident when he was 19, about 10 years ago. I blame myself because I motorcycle, my children and my wife ride, but why, oh why didn't I stop him before it was too late! I work next door to his mother and feel guilty every time I see her.

I think this is a good thread also I had a miscarriage he would have been 13yr end march but then I think he would have had same condition that my eldest boy has which would not have been fair and John who is 12yr would not have been here I can't change the past only look to the future