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Thankyou all so much for your advice. I made an appointment for my daughters friend to go to the Doctors, a late appointment knowing that her mother would be around at this time of the day. This scared her friend, so she found out where in the small town, (very small town) that we live, she could go, to seek other advice. She manage to get a morning after pill and got a pack of pills that she can take so she can go out and have more sex!!! This place is a teenage drop in centre. The Mother was very matter of fact about it all and thanked me for my help. - What more can I say? This I guess will cause a heated debate. I know where I stand in all of this. Thanks again janey x

Oh CJ that is so sad but times haven't changed as kids were doing just that when i was young!! Hard one to judge but what would you want someone to do if it was your daughter?

Can you get her the Morning After pill?

Practically speaking can she get the morning after pill asap?. I know it's too late in terms of sexually transmitted diseases etc Good for her that she has your daughter and you to help her out xx

Well at least she's got someone to talk to, but her mother will need to know. Perhaps this scare will put her off or seek some medical advice, which she is going to need. All the best Heather x

I would certainly be questioning my own child's judgement if she had such friends as you describe.

Oh dear that is a tough one. If it was my daughter, I would want to be told. In a year from know she could have a baby in tow. By taking the time to talk to her and help her out this morning you have done a wonderful thing. Pen x

Yes have got her appointment with her doctor this afternoon. Its a difficult one, I am very close to my daughter so therefore would hope she would tell me. But I feel sad yet angry as her friends Mum should be doing this. And also how far do I go with this?

Perhaps you could have a word with the Dr on your own after she's been seen and ask what they advise you to do. X

Yes Daniel I do understand what you are saying. But you cant choose there friends for them. You just hope you have done a good job as a parent and they know what is wrong and what is right.

I'd be happy that she wants to talk. Keep her calm, discuss any consequences and if it were me I'd advise that she got the morning after pill just in case. Most areas have centres specifically for teenages who encounter this sort of thing, it may be worth checking one out (drs should know where they are)

I had to take the step a couple of years ago to 'remove' a friend who started to mix in with what I considered to be a bad crowd. Cannabis people and the like. I wasn't going to associate with him any more if he had decided to go down that route, and even possibly try and take me with them.I wasn't waiting to find out. You can tell a lot about a person by the company they keep. Keep a close eye on your daughter.

Hi, for what it is worth I dont think you should say anything to her Mum but you should encourage her to talk to her mum about it and why she is doing it, far better for her to have someone to trust that to go to no one at all. I bet she feels that sex and love are all mixed up together and her mother doesnt have time for her since the divorce or she blames her self just call me Dr Phil in a skirt LOL poor love, but well done you!!

Daniel - I disagree. I think Jane's daughter is obviously a very mature and responsible girl and the fact that she has helped her friend in such an adult way is an example of a young girl who won't be led astray!

Thanks all your all your advice. And Daniel, I hope my little boys turn out like you : > ) janey

I'm afraid her mum should be told I'm afraid she just may notice if her daughter is ill (as a friend of mine was) after taking the morning after pill Not only that if the girl has complications after taking it, help would be needed quickly, but if the mother is unawares, she may delay in getting help. Besides, If it was my daughter, I would be devestated and very angry about being kept in the dark. And if the girl has loose drawers as you say, she will, no doubt fall pregnant at some time (condoms not 100% reliable ) and will need the support of her mum. Elaine x

Not all of us who are misguided as teenagers turn out bad! The girl might be looking for affection in all the wrong places and should be encouraged to talk to her mum herself. Possibly with you there for moral suppport? Julie xxx

Jane knows her daughter best Bec, but even the best of people can be led off track. I'm not saying anything harsh, but with an issue like this I'm not going to mince my words. Jane, thank you ;-)

Be careful where her mum is concerned, remember that the 'fraser competence' rule should be taken into consideration, if she doesn't want her mum to know then realistically no-one else has the right to tell her, sucks I know but I come up against it a lot at work .

Calamity... being under tha age of consent, then I would, wether her mother is at work or not, make sure she knew of this. She is not your responsibility, her mother is, and therefore , I think by law you should not be taking this as your sole resposibility, just in case something comes up about it later... You may get yourself into a hole about it. I don't think I would welcome someone else taking my child to a doctor to get any sort of medication, however serious they think it could be. The mother must be told, just in case!!! Anne:)))