General Chat

Thank you Felicity for your kind words. I think I was in an impossible situation. Yes I could tell you about the father but that will if you like make the debate bigger. I just think it is all very sad and just hope and pray that she will be ok janey x

Oh my, what an outcome!! Liz, thanks. I was and am very proud of my son, in fact all of my children - and many of their friends. Young folk often get a bad press undeservedly and show maturity beyond their years. Daniel, I don't disagree with most of what you say and hope that you don't think I was getting at you. Please don't move to another planet!! Someone said that it's a pitty more young people aren't like you and I agree with that, but don't let your halo get too big! :-) I hope, too, that people didn't misunderstand what I said in my comment, or rather what I didn't say. I wasn't saying anything about the young girl's behaviour or commenting on the morality of the situation or anything like that. I only meant to say that everyone needs a friend at all times in their lives. I think Calamity Jane did the best she possibly could under the circumstances and handing out 'a pack of pills' to a 14-year-old on the face of it is monstrous. However, if the girl herself indicates that she will not stop her behaviour, what else is there to do (in the short term) besides help her ensure she doesn't become pregnant? Lock her up? Other things need to be done and I doubt that a manipulative teenager has told Jane the whole story. Of course, there are wider moral issues regarding legality, society, morality etc etc and I agree with most of the views expressed here, but there is still the question - how does one deal with the individual in the meantime? It strikes me that Calamity Jane did a fine job and the girl's mother may be at her wits end with her. No-one has mentioned where her father is in all this, apart from the fact her parents are divorced.

Good point Joanne. I spoke to my children and they always (?) came to me. Their friends did too, infact I had quite a good laugh with them. Nice memories for me. Deanna X

Jane, regardless of all other opinions, you did the right thing. And you should be proud of yourself! Her mother is probaly pleased that she is being protected. And no matter what we all THINK our children should do...... They are young and will do what they want. So we may as well protect them. I'm so very glad mine are all grown up. I would not like to have todays problems. Good luck to ALL you parents out there. Deanna X

My daughter and friends are 14/15 and sit and talk to me and their own parent about what they do or don't, what others do or don't, and to be honest it isn't that much different to when I was 14/15, and as parents we often sit and discuss what the kids do or don't do and have a laugh as the kids think they invented whatever they are doing, saying, etc. As someone rightly said it was all going on over 100 years ago, just look on the boards, the thing been now is that we talk more about it, society is more open and doesn't hide behind closed doors anymore. Sit and have a chat with people in their 70's and 80's and they will tell you not much has changed except that it is more widley discussed today than it ever has been. This is the way of the world and all we can do as parents is try and steer our kids in the right direction and point out the pitfalls along the way, and then hope and pray that we have done a good enough job and watch our kids grow into adults that we can be proud of Joanne

Now this is a difficult one as I think if the centres state that consenting adults are needed then there will be a rise in children having children!! :O( I do think tho that they are quite irresponsible not to consider STD's and the like that may cause more long term damage than any pregnancy would!!

Modest too Daniel ? Lol

No need to cheer me, it's just common sense. (well I think so :-(

Under 16s should have their parent or carer told. Be it that the child is Ill due to the tablets the parent can then be on the look out for adverse reactions Also they may have taken other medication that they wont think to mention to the prescribing doctor, medication which could affect the outcome of the pill or morning after pill. (such as antibiotics) Lets also not forget the emotional trauma the 14 year old may have to carry with her. At least she wont have the added burden of keeping a secret, rather than share it with her mum, and get it all over and done with.

I know Daniel and I'm and have always been 'for' I.D, but until the Government agrees we are stuck with it how it is. Yes totally agree with you Shadylady, good on ya Daniel x Heather x

Daniel should be commended for his views on morality,if more of the young people of today thought like him there would be less trouble in the world. Well done Daniel !

One thing to easily fix if they'd get round to it.

Because in the topsy-turvy legal system that is the age of consent. Anything over that age is not the parent's responsibility legally, although I hope that their moral judgement is kept for life.

Part of the problem.........No I.D required.

Then get I.D. No I.D = no help. It's called being resposible.

why 16 Dan? why not 14 or 18?

I agree with Daniel, but drop in centres only take the info the young ones provide, a lot may well say they are 16 and most look it. Heather - Who would be mortified if my 16yr old daughter didn't come and talk with me first.

Pink They gave her the morning after pill and THEN gave her a pack of the Pill!!! janey x

the pill will solved 1/3 of the problem wont stop her dropping her drawers wont stop STD but will stop her getting pregnant ( if she takes them) Not a lot else seems to matter to the young peoples centes. they have solved the problem that presented it self

Pre 16 of course parents should be told. If kids think they're old enough to do the act, then they are old enough to take the consequences.