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Sorry to hear this Brenda. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
You take care too
Love Mary xx

My thoughts are with you and Dan, Brenda, you have both been through so much and I can only hope Dan will be peaceful and painfree. You will have time to tell him how much he means to you all and he knows how well you have cared for him and fought his corner.

It must hurt you to know that he has been through so much more of late, with all the indignity and such but you can deal with that later as long as he is being cared for well now and you can spend time with him.

Take care of yourself too, altho it's hard to be selfish at such a time, you must get some rest when you can as whatever happens your road ahead is not going to be easy.

love and hugs,

Lizxx

Thinking of you, Brenda. BC XX

Hello Brenda,

So sorry to read your update. Sending a big hug to you at this difficult time,

Susan

Brenda, thinking of you and you husband,
wow what a wife you have been, you have done everything possible for Dan and l'm sure he is so proud of you,
now you take care, x

today's update.
Had more grandchildren to see him,tiring me out,but at the same time trying to be normal.s.i.l.is staying with me tonight as daughter and others have gone home.At least Mick will do a few jobs around the house and he is very quiet.
DAn was a bit feisty today when we went,but talking some rubbish and then lucid moments.did manage to get rhubarb and custard and quite a lot of drinks and some fruit salad tonight,but nothing substantial to get his sugar levels down.At least he is getting some fluids.
Will see what tomorrow brings.
Thank you everyone for your thoughts and prayers...much appreciated

So very sorry for you both Brenda.

Brenda - I have only just discovered your thread and have read it through from the first post. I see so much of what I went through with my OH and I can sympathise with you.
I'm not qualified to give advice, although I'm sure others here may be - but I agree with them that you must look after yourself so that you will be able to visit Dan and spend time with him. If he is on morphine, he should not be feeling any pain.
By all means have your say to the people who think they know best - but don't let it hastle you. Take care of yourself. You need all your strength.
God bless - we are all thinking of you.

my heart goes out to you both xx
be strong Brenda

Hope you have been able to sleep Brenda and having some company and someone to do little things for you will help a bit as you go through this difficult time.

Have been thinking about you and hoping Dan is comfortable and peaceful.

Lizx

Read all your support posts...thank you everyone.
Had a good nights sleep as I was exhausted with them all here.
S.i.l doing a bit of gardening and cleaning gutters out while I'm at the hospital.Dan had a peaceful night,but wonders where everyone has gone!!
going soon and maybe I can persuade him to eat and drink a little.

Brenda, so glad you managed to get some sleep, maybe when Dan see's you looking a little refreshed today on your visit, he will feel encouraged to have a cup of tea with you.
Thinking of you both. xx

Been all day at hospital...but...although he was refusing food and medication he ate a brioche roll i'd taken in,ate 1 sausage with half a scoop of potato and banana and custard.Drank some tea and later lucozade then for supper he had a small portion of soup 2 small portions of lasagne and a small tub of icecream.
Hard to believe when he's not eaten for over a week.The thing is though that he won't take it off the nurses,only me!!!!Where's my respite!!!

Seriously though I'm amazed and feel a bit happier tonight.He seems to be getting some fighting spirit back....watch this space.........

Brenda, that's great news, I hope your feisty man will continue to eat and gain some strength to fight on. I reckon you have spoiled him so he will only eat when you say so or maybe you just know what he likes best and how to encourage him.

Glad you got some rest and hope you will continue to get support and some good sleep knowing Dan is being cared for. I know it's hard that you have to go in and feed him but at least if you can sleep at night without listening out for him, it's a help, I expect.

Keep being positive and know how much we are all behind you both

love
Lizxx

Brenda, when my OH went into hospital to be assessed for permanent care he got it into his head that they were trying to poison him! He wanted to go home but I said I had only just arrived and it was lunchtime. We sat at the table and when they brought his meal he just looked at it. It was a pasta meal and I said that it looked nice. He kicked me under the table. I then reached over and took a piece of pasta and popped it in my mouth. He looked horrified but when I didnt drop dead on the spot he then started eating! Perhaps Dan's brain has gone a bit strange from the lack of oxygen and he is thinking they are trying to poison him, which is why he will only eat the things you provide. Perhaps you could try the meals that the hospital provides for him and comment on how lovely they are.

Just a thought.

Huia.

Dan was more sleepy today,I didn't go in till midday,but they told me that he had eaten some breakfast.I am now really tired and will have to leave it to the staff to feed him.Daughter and s.i.l are here tonight,and another son tomorrow,and the other flies in from OZ on Sunday.They will have to sort themselves out as I.m not here as I usually am to wait on them!!!
Still talking about palliative care....so fingers crossed.

Dan was more sleepy today,I didn't go in till midday,but they told me that he had eaten some breakfast.I am now really tired and will have to leave it to the staff to feed him.Daughter and s.i.l are here tonight,and another son tomorrow,and the other flies in from OZ on Sunday.They will have to sort themselves out as I.m not here as I usually am to wait on them!!!
Still talking about palliative care....so fingers crossed.

I am still thinking of you and Dan. Best wishes to you both, and to your family.

Huia.

Brenda, good to hear that he is eating something. Do you think he is refusing food because he doesn't want to be there and is sort of sulking to punish you? Maybe because he is not thinking straight. When you feed him he feels safe and in control. Hope the food builds up his strength now.

Brenda, i've been having a little think about your Dan, (whilst sending him comforting hugs and courageous strength), and i reckon he thinks that if he eats when you are with him then you will be more reassured that he is more settled when you go home.
I am pleased that your family are able to be with you at this time, and i am sure that they will not be expecting you to be waiting on them hand and foot.
Gentle comforting hugs for you xxxx