General Chat

Thankyou Supercrutch :-D

Hello Sally, welcome to the boards. We're all totally lala here, promise. :-D

Chrissie, I can't put it any planer than anyone else has here, but certainly nobody has said they would prefer to ask only their friends for help with their research. BUT, there are times when some details are best kept off the boards as they are in public view, and sometimes, some trees have so many complexities that it might be better to ask someone who has helped before, who would understand, rather than having to explain the whole store again to someone new. It's not being cliquey, nor is it giving anyone preferential treatment, but we all have our own ways of researching our family trees, and some of us may feel more comfortable doing it one way, while others may feel more comfortable doing it another.

I can categorically state that nobody has said they would only ask friends per se. :-)

I understand where Chrissiex is coming from, I hardly ever venture so far up the boards because originally I thought that everyone knew each other but I have always been made welcome whenever I have posted.

I have seen introduction threads on this board, there was one not too far back when a newbie introduced herself, perhaps this is something to be encouraged. However, I was very rude and just ploughed in there with my opinion.;-)

I disagree with Chrissie as to Facebook being used for the purpose of chat or asking for lookups from friends, I only joined Facebook last November to discuss with GR the folly of the introduction of the help clinic and a few other things since, for example being unable to speak to them on their own website, which thankfully they have now introduced.

I don't see any harm in asking for help via pm as a thread on here but do think that the essence of general chat should just be that and not for threads of lookups otherwise there is no point to having multiple boards

Hi Teresa

Thankyou for your welcome............Ive had some great help from people on GR, im so grateful for their info. Through them ive been able to get a great start with my Family Tree :-D

OMG :-S When you keep hitting brick walls, you are so glad of all advice you receive. :-)

hi Tooty

What about the chat on genealogy threads though? Surely if the rules are to adhered to they should be adhered to on all boards......a bit strict on this board don't you think.

Anyway. This subject is already being 'chatted' about on another thread. poor Rose asked for opinions on another subject entirely. :-) Sorry Rose for invading your thread :-)

Hi tooty,

Well, I have to differ slightly on the question of help requests. I'd said earlier on one of these threads, I see no harm in asking in general for some help, ie, 'I can't find an index no for Joe Blogg's birth cert, born 1876 in Bloggsville..and it's driving me mad!'

But...if there is a documentary look-up to further research, then obviously that belongs on the trying to find and not in general.

We can all help a little whatever board the question is on, it's what we all do and why we're all here, so people who mistakenly ask in here should not be intimidated into never posting here again by the sometimes rude way they have been reprimanded for doing so. Give us the chance to add a little too, and let us help them out, and if we can't, then at least a bit of gentle advice directing them to the right place rather than repeatedly quoting rules at them, as I've also seen done.

come on friends, don' t you see that when I say 'Facebook' I am just meaning somewhere _private_ where this is a 'public' place in that it is for all members of Genes and not just for people to talk to their friends ? :-)

I think it really is a little silly to talk about 'chat' on help threads as if people should not chat with the people who ask for help and with the other people helping ............. I thought we were supposed to be friendly with the people who ask for help ............

really am getting confused ........ shall proberly just stay with helping on the help boards .......

but I will recommend that newbies who ask for help remember to check out the 'chat' board and join in the chatter :-D

I think the majority of people on ALL the boards are very nice :) and very helpful in getting the newbies to the best place to find the info they need. ( I do usually direct newbies genealogy queries away from Chat as they tend to get 'lost' if the board's moving quickly lol not that it does that much these days).

I have seen a number of long-time members from the 'help' boards come over here of late and join in the chatter :-D (Tooty Fruity being one of them lol) and very welcome they are too.

Susan 'invade' all you like lol

Night ladies, sleep well all xx

Chrissie, every forum I belong to for my various interests and hobbies, ALL have a general chat board, for just that, and lets face it, it is through conversation that we make friends, be it online or in the real world.

General chat is precisely what it is, chit chat about anything.

On one forum I belong to, there is a section called 'The Flusher' where you can have a good rant about things too, the flush it once it's done by deleting the thread. Some of the rants on there are sooo funny they have me in stitches.

Chrissie, I don't think anyone on any of the boards ONLY wants to speak to their 'friends'... if that were the case they wouldn't pay the subs for the privilege of doing something they can do for free lol

Me, I'll talk to anyone and everyone, until and unless they give me good reason for not wanting to :-D

that' s ok Rose, I know what I mean :-)

So long, farewell, auf widersehn goodnight !

Sorry you think that my opinion is silly'......I am also sorry that you feel peeved at me enough to say so.

Now me.....I don't think your opinion is 'silly'. You had a valid point and expressed it......but I do wish you could have stuck to the same thread as where the subject started......sheesh.....my head is getting so in a word spin.

I will probably need to have a lay down.

by the way,

I have helped many a time on the trying to find boards, as have many of us.....tis not an elite club. Some comments tonight have made it look as if there is a split between board members. This isn't so.....not in my eyes anyway....There are lovely people on all the boards......It's just that now and then there is a difference of opinion......If that makes my opinion silly....Well....so be it! :-D

Teresa, totally irrelevant but I'm just having a little game with your 'research names'.. using the surname with a first name to make someone famous lol... eg

Jim Lovell
Inspector Morse
Tom Baker
Robert Duvall
Eric bristow

But are new/er members getting confused whats permissible on the boards,,,,,,we have a board that was intended to ask not to post about the same person more than once,,,,,,,yet 20+k posts later its a general chitchat thread.surely all that chitchat shouldnt be on the help board as thats not what its intended for,,,,,,,,,its just an observation on my part and theres no complaint,as said an observation...

Susan with numbers, I think the purpose of all the boards should be adhered to, but then again I do like order and structure. My boss would say practically OCD.

Sorry Chrissie I misunderstood your original facebook page comment but even if we all chatted in a private area on facebook then this board would be redundant. I quite like having a board where everyone can chat in an informal way.
I would say, don't give up on this board and continue to post. Although there are many opposing views it would be very boring if we all agreed. I think it only appears clique because everyone has been posting for a very long time and that what happens when you get to know each others quirkiness.

Sorry Rambling Rose for going off topic

Rose, you have too much time on your hands lol

(no relation to any of them BTW)

Kay

I think the object of that thread is that the title is seen by other members mainly newbies.

If no one posted on it, it would disapear off the board not to be seen

jax

No need for any apologies for going off topic :-D I do it all the time ...

I honestly think that any more comments on the subject would best be written on the other thread. I and others have already put our views on it and I find that many of the queries or points have already been addressed,especially those of Chrissies posts. Rose was asking a different question and it is only fair on her to be allowed to get the answers she was expecting. IMO


Tsk Rose........it took me ages to write that..... :-P

Hello TootyFruity :-) if you read Susan ( numbers) 's post 'what I miss' you will have a better idea of what I was talking about maybe, I did get quite muddled trying to keep track of two threads at once and that is my fault. I was talking particularly about people wanting to get help from 'friends'.

I don' t want to repeat myself ... again ... but I think that kind of thing does make the 'chat' board look cliquey to newbies .....