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Has this ever happened to you?

Was in a local supermarket yeaterday pm when all of a sudden a family (mother + 2 kids (13-15yrs) + 1 child approx 4-5) arrived at the check out.

The little 1 started screaming and shouting cos it wanted something and was told by mother to put it back. Child refused threw it onto floor and started running around shop screaming its head off.

At this point older kids started running around after aforementiond Brat also screaming and shouting at it and each other totally disrupting everybody else in shop.

What did mother do ................ Absolutley bugger all just went on to pay for stuff and left the shop.

This sort of behaviour really annoys me if parents cannot control thier kids when out shopping then they should leave them at home and let us decent folk get on with our lives.

People like this should not be allowed to have kids.
When I was younger and if I misbehaved like that then I was assured of a good hiding, not when I got home but there and then and was then dregged out of the shop by parents.

This is only my opinion so what are your thoughts on the matter.

Totally agree, I used to leave mine at home with OH if I could,but they've never behaved like that!! no means no!!
Carol

Hi Pablo
Bet the woman would have love to have left her children at home
I Can't stand kids running around screaming
But hey had 2 kids myself
so know how that poor woman felt

Jenxx

I don't like to see misbehaved children in public but I think you are being harsh to say people like this shouldn't have children. Not for us to be so judgmental.
Sue

thank you Carol,
I thought that this thread would get people talking, but maybe it is a contraversial subject I was hoping to get some sort of debate going here.

No I am not a cold hearted child hater but I would just like parents to take responsibility for thier offspring.

I little understanding might not go amiss as a mother with 2 children with Autisum did you stop to think there might have been another reason and not just the child being a brat as you so kindly put it .

If you put up a controversial thread you must expect people to disagree with you as well as agree. You have only thanked Carol who agreed. Tory you are right, there may be a reason why a child appears to be misbehaving.
Sue

Sue,
OK re they shouldnt have children but at least if you have them at least try to control them.

I know that government legislation gives all the rights etc to the child. But, when we were kids we were given discipline and had respect for our elders.
Thse days the younger generation gets away with "murder" because adults such as parents, teachers etc are not allowed to or are afraid to discipline them incase they end up in court accused of abuse.

I wondered that Tory but I would hope that Mum would not have left the shop in that case. However, maybe the teenagers were able to control little one better than Mum. I suppose we will never know. badly behaved children in shops are a problem but I am aware of children with problems like autism so do try not to judge. Sometimes though the child is just not controlled properly, so many Mothers these days scream at their children when they want them to do something, is it any wonder that they scream back?

Ann
Glos

I think you should read your own thread a know a little about what your saying and to be honest people like you Pablo get up my nose

.....one thing I would ask......was what the child wanted sweets by any chance.....only I thought that supermarkets had stopped the practice of having sweets at checkouts ........

Yes I agree Ann there are parents who don't act in what some of us discribe as the right way but then there are so many reasons why and who's to say that the mum wasn't at the end of her tether and maybe walking away and leaveing the teens there gave her the space needed to then deal with the situation ,My argument is that people jump to conclusions without the facts .

My nephew is severely autistic and I've taught children with autism so I know how difficult they can be but I do think the mother should have taken control of the situation and not ignored the child's behaviour left it to the other children to deal with.

We can't all be perfect parents and it's easy to criticise, I know, but the other children should not have had to take responsibility, they are children, too.

To walk out of the shop and leave them, in my view, is not the way to handle the situation.

Gwynne

No one is taught to be a Mum
We all do our best
Who are we to say that woman is wrong
Have a 2 year old grandson who think the word
No
is the signal for throwing a tantrum
Jenxx

Hello people,
Thanks to all that have replied to this thread. All of your opinions have been noted by myself, and I consider myself to be suitably chastised and taken down a peg or two.

As a number of you have said I do not know the individual circumstances of the poor mother and should not have jumped to conclusions about her and her abilities as a mother.

Not having had any children myself I do not know what it is like having to try and raise them properly.

I am sorry if I have offended anybody in this thread that was not the reason I put it on here.

no it isn't the ideal way to behave but rather that then see a parent repeatedly smacking a child as i have seen in the passed .i would rather a parent walked away to calm down and collect there thoughts to deal with the situation and while the other children should not have been left to deal with it at least it ment the child was safe

My electric fence keeps
my kids under control!

xxx mick

I agree with you all....

But also....if we DID give our children a good hiding there n then Pablo, in some people's eyes we'd be abusing the children. Honestly, being a parent n doing right in all eyes is a never ending battle n one that we can't win.

:o)

thank you for the honesty and the apology pablo it is most apreciated :-))

If you were to see my 5 year old in the shops you would see a normal looking boy who can talk, walk and act quite normally but you also might see him screaming, kicking and spitting because he is autistic and sometimes we never know when this is going to happen. His older sibs if they are there try to quieten him by calling his name and telling him to be quiet sometimes even chasing after him because they feel embarrassed. So that leaves me trying to quieten him and trying to speak over the top of his sibs voices to tell them to leave it to me. We always try and leave him at home as its too much hassle but then again somedays he is a little angel. Since he was known to be autistic we have all become more tolerant of other children's misbehaviour as these kids don't have a sticker on their foreheads with the word 'autistic' printed on it. Even so Pablo I understand what you are on about as I have seen some kiddies behaviour go unchecked where I knew there was no underlying problem except very relaxed parenting. shirley.x