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Deanna I am on Fluoxitine as well now, doctor changed me to them last week when he told me he thought I have FM. I got my appointment date through for rhumatologist, the 10 April. I could do without any more illnesses, soon there won't be room in my body for any more.

Caz xx

Hi everyone

It's moaning Kathy with the bad back .

Didn't make it to my unpaid job at the family history society yesterday as sitting is still painful so it was a long day .

I have to admit to being an addict .I am addicted to buying victorian photo albums from ebay !!! Got one yesterday and as usual very few names so that made me miserable .I like to try to pass photo's to living rellies I also enjoy the challenge of trying to trace the families . Never mind I keep telling son that they will be worth more than I paid for them after I die .
Weather pretty cold here in scotland today with gales predicted .Not that I go out much as you all know .
Got a phone call today from a friend I havent seen for ages .She asked me when was the last time I went out socially I said when was it your mum died she replied 3 years ago next week . Well that was the last time I went out socially !!
I have been reading all your posts but I am terrible at remembering who everyone is so can I wish you all health and happiness .

love
Kathy xxx

Good evening ladies and gentlemen..

tonight I have told my problems to b-----ger off and leave me in peace because I want to relate a true story to you, it is called the...... Housefly......

I had a visitor who decided to stay around for a while. It proved to be annoying to the ear and body, was eating my food and not paying any rent.
Initially it was a pesky intruder who decided that no one in its presence should nod off to sleep, hence the continual buzzing around and stroking of limbs; all I wanted was to rest but 'it' wanted my company.
I often approached this offending insect with a rolled up newspaper yet believe his/her hearing was better attuned than mine, it's reflexes far quicker because it always managed to elude me.
Over a period of days, with the windows wide open, fly spray to hand and squirted often, it was still in residence.
At one point I even attempted to lure it into the fridge with titbits hoping to cool it
off! Needless to say my ploy did not work.
Finally I sensed it had taken a liking to me and just maybe I had taken a liking to it also.
It had no intention whatever of moving on even whilst I was composing either a letter or poem on my computer, it would wander back and forth across the screen appearing to devour the contents, it even read my emails.
Whilst it enjoyed a somewhat peaceful existence it appeared mystified by the other occupant in my flat and questioned who this other form could be, a creature who was wearing a fur coat and in such sweltering heat.. it soon found out.
After being buzzed and tormented once too often, this creature, my dog went in for the kill. One big paw descended then silence; suffice to say I could now doze in peace yet at the same time felt I had lost a friend.

Alas my saga did not end there. I was later inundated with 'fruit flies' caused by nectarines being left on the window ledge to ripen. Have often wondered if 'flies' can pass on messages, in this instance to let their pals know that free bed and board was available to all.

From a seventy six year old great granny who still has her wits about her, except when it comes down to the elusive 'house and fruit fly'.

Hope my story has helped you to relax a little, sleep well xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx



JoycePxxxxxx

Ann in G, I asked the same question, he just didn't want me to have one thing more than him,and I was housing 3 children at the time.LOL
Well I broke down and went out to do some shovelling, meg and I and miniMary were out there 2 hours then I came in and Colleen went out and spent another hour with Meg to finish it.
I made mini-pizzas for lunch and they were hungry when they came in. then I heard myself suggesting that we should take the kids tobogganing (something I'd never attempt any more!!. ) We got all ready and found it was now freezing rain on top of the snow - it literally took us 15 minutes of wading through the snow in the back before we found the toboggan, by then we decided to just let them play in the backgarden. They've discovered that the back steps from Colleen's flat make a great bobsled run, they were "practising for the Olympics".
My mood has improved tremendously from this morning, being outside and having a good laugh . . . you know the pmsl routine . . . .
We came in when we heard a huge amount of thunder (I actually wondered if there was an explosion) and then the hail started, drenched in 2 minutes.
Colleen has taken some photos of our back garden and the front of the house to show the snow we have today (and more predicted tonight) The bottom half of the snow is frozen so it's deeper than it looks.(can we put photos on here?
I must say I have NEVER, literally for years, voluntarily gone out in the snow, even to watch them play, the increased Citalopram has certainly been a help, and being able to talk to others has been a huge blessing.
I think we go to Daylight saving time tonight, ie put the clocks an hour forward. I may be wrong, but I am so grateful to be safe and not heading for work,regardless of what time it is. I know it leaves them short-staffed but safety is an issue at my advanced age!!!!
Carole, Malc,Joyce, Carolina,Liz, Rachel, all the Caz', Betty,Jules, all the Ann's, Dave,Gail, Elaine, and anyone I've missed,love you all.
maxiMary

Turn my back and you all post!!!

Elaine, absolutely no need to apologise, we were worried about you. When OH asks if you are OK, why not admit that you are not. maybe his support will surprise you.

Deanna, Just go and get those blood tests done!!! No more prevaricating now.

sorry if I ahve not responded to everyone, brain dead this evening.

ann
Glos

thank you all for your messages tonight ann i have cryed infront of oh and he is so suportive but ive only told him so much as im trying to be strong for him as well, as he also goto go in hospital for open heart surgery within the next 6 months. and getting worked u over that as well as everything else that has happened at the moment it feels like everything coming all at once , elaine

I am sure Elaine that you will be able to be strong for each other. Bless you, no wonder you have panic attacks. you are worried for him. he will be in good hands. Hope you have a good nights sleep tonight.

Take care
Ann
Glos

Dear Elaine, we are in your corner, in fact I see it as a hug around the world,with you in the centre.
Love and hugs
maxiMary

Nite nite everyone sweet dreams
Rachxx

thank you all for your kind words they are so comforting im of to try to get some sleep now .sleep well everone sweet dreams thank you again elaine

for everyone
friend of mine
fear not dear friend sleep well be brave in peace of mind your strength to save lean on the one who understands trust in the skill of healing hands
then every hour of every day will help you farther on your way to health and vigour free from dread to live the happy life ahead


Author kathleen partridge

love and hugs to all

carolina xx

Hi everyone, had a day to shop for groceries yesterday, forgot my notes, why do I make them and forget them. I usually take full note pad but OH had ripped the page out and left it on the counter, I did pick up the pad got to the shops and not notes. Only forgot a few things.

My normally patient OH, for some reason was in a rush mood, so I ended up feeling overwhealmed, and rushing as well. We did not need to either, had plenty of time. At least I have some new things to cook.

I did drive for a while, about 30 klms, small steps, but I do not remember most of it just bits and pieces. OH said there were no other cars on the road for about 50 Klms. So glad about that. Very sore today as not used to it.

I spotted somebodies post about moaning, you are not moaning, none of us moan, it is a way for us to express out thoughts and feelings. That is a good thing, and that way do not hold them in.

Some of us are very isolated, sometimes I do not see anyone but OH for days or weeks on end. This way I can talk to other people and have a connection with the outside world without costing a fortune using the phone. Some times people are isolated in a room with a thousand others. This thread breaks that barrier.

Love and thoughts to you all.

Gail

Well here I am back again when everyone else is asleep except for those so far away in miles. O.h. was in a reasonable frame of mind this evening, and said it isn't me he wants to get rid of, just all my hoarded up stuff and clothes I have so many of etc. He said I am great! lol I felt like saying love me, love my stuff lol but didn't bother, I wasn't taken in. Amazingly, as he is not an animal person, never had a pet in his life, we were watching Crufts programme and he said he would get me a dog if I wanted one, so long as I cleared up some of my things around the house (it is so small there is no where to put anything lol) I wonder if he has an inkling of my plans? Maybe he has been looking at gr on the computer at work and reading my posts (hi K ! lol) Don't think he would tho. Just seems odd he is saying these things. Anyway I don't think I will have a dog now, wouldn't be able to walk it much or do all that is needed and he wouldn't be here as on shifts so would be out of the question, he has no idea of the commitment and work a dog or any pet needs.
More likely to get cats again when I get back to my house.

I know he won't be telling me things are worse than they are from the doc apptmt, he would be more likely to say things are less important so as not to worry his father, son etc but I think it is necessary to tell people the truth, in case of collapse or accident whatever, it needs to be known. Maybe I will get round him to go in and listen!

Was lucky tonight and won £10 on the lottery so will be able to treat myself to something nice at the Craft, Spirit and Mind fair which is on locally this Sunday (today)

Just want to say Hi to Kathy, and nice you had a call from your friend, maybe she will come and encourage you out socially even if only for a coffee.
Good luck with your photo collections. Talk to you again after this week of early shifts lol

Deanna, don't feel bad about things you said, they are long gone, words blown away in the wind now and I am sure your friend with the bag over her head has long forgotten it was you told her to wear it lol

Carolina, that was a lovely verse. Maybe we need to start an inspirational verse thread so all the nice words can be together, as well as having them on here. I think I saw one the other day, will have a look later.

Elaine, I am glad you opened up to your o.h., don't hid things from him, no matter you are trying to protect him, he will probably know you are troubled and would rather have things out in the open so you can talk freely about your worries. He may want to talk to you about his op and not want to worry you so why not be completely open with each other - you know the old saying, a trouble shared is a trouble halved, well it does work and we will all listen to your worries about yourself or your o.h., and give you cyber hugs to help you through your sadness.

JoyceP, I saw something the other day on tv that showed the humble fruit flies are being used to find out more about alzheimers I think it was - amazing that such a small thing can maybe be really useful. I ended up feeling sorry for 'your' fly in the end lol altho I do hate flies, they are so annoying as well as being yukky. Take care hon.

xxx

Carole, Ann, and Y.Caz, you are always here for others, what lovely ladies you are. Hope the rheumatologist doesn't find anything too dire Caz, tell him you have no more room in the medicine cabinet for pills and potions so not to find anything needing any.

Hi Gail, nice to see you, sorry you didn't enjoy the shopping as much as you expected, and left your list behind. Helpful Horace wasn't so helpful, leaving your list behind and rushing you but as you say, at least you have some nice things to cook, so enjoy! I always get stiff if I drive too much, I think it is the tension, we hold ourselves tense as we concentrate on the driving and don't realise how much it will hurt later. Try to keep the driving going tho, it is such an escape sometimes especially as you are so isolated.

Mary, hope you haven't hurt yourself doing all that snow clearing, will reply to your mail later. Nice that everyone had fun together tho, another memory for the family especially if you have pics too. I can remember the first time my dog went out in the snow, she was only about 6 months old and it came up to her belly altho she was tallish, being a lab cross. She couldn't quite make it out at first lol Son soon got her having fun trying to catch snowballs in her mouth, he was only 4 so it was lovely to see them together.

Going to see what has been happening on the boards and will be back here later maybe if I don't get too tired.
Bye for now,
will say Hi to everyone for the morrow (today but it isn't today til I have slept lol)
Lizxxxx

Morning Liz, thanks for your kind words. It was you who suggested my symptoms may be FM when I put them on board asking for opinions. Do you remember. I went up to see gp and he said I had described FM perfectly, he is almost sure but wants it confirming with consultant. We will see.

Caz xx

Anyone that want's to copy the poem is welcome my uncle sent it but I don't know if he wrote it. Been sleeping most of the day as I worked yesterday and my Iron level's are knocking me around I have to do everything in relay's and I'am shore the washing machine is doing one load and spitting two out I hate folding washing. A little parting wisdom left to me by my dad who wouldn't get out of bed to use the air rade shelter in the war and belived in it till the day he died. Your born on a day and you'll die on a day and no matter what happen's you do'nt go till your time's up so live life and you can worry about die'n when your dead and yes he was a yorkshire man who had some very near misses in his life but he alway's belived.HUGS to all . p.s mary you know what would cheer you up you need to hire a good looking man to shovel that snow. than you could sit in side by the window and say to yourself coor! if I were ten year's younger lol

hello everyone

I am in a bad depression, so I am going to try and stay away from here for a while, another friend have left the site and I am beginning to think it's me - someone on here seems to be chasing all my friends out and I don't like it.

Please don't ask questions as it will make me worse talking about it all, I will look in from time to time.

Good luck everyone
God bless

Gill/skwirrel

A very good morning Gail, Liz, Y Caz and Irene, hope you are feeling a little better today.

it would appear we are the early risers, that's if we have been to bed at all..lol.

I did? intend having a quiet day and reading my sunday newspapers but have second thoughts now... why you ask?

Well I was introduced to my 'soon to be' new neighbour, wow....she threw herself into my arms, hugged me, was bubbling over with such enthusiam I had to take a step back to catch my breathe..she went on to ask me what her neighbours were like and remarked that they had not made an appearance or even knocked at her door with a welcome cake! she wondered if they were 'queer' ?....

Bearing in mind that she and her hubby only got the keys for the house on Friday and will not be moving in for another fortnight, I'm wondering if she is expecting
us to party in the street every night..

Her parting words to me were...so pleased to meet you, will be knocking on your door for long chats...... anyone got a spare room where I can take cover. lol.

Living in Essex we are lucky to escape the worst of the weather conditions and what is forecast for the next few days sounds horrific..

Y Cazx.. I know you will have to take the brunt of some of it, so who else of our members are likely to be affected, many I guess..

Lizx.. glad you enjoyed my 'fly' writing, have a few ideas forming for a poem, dedicated to us of course...

Am away to do my ablutions, tidy up and wait for the newspapers....omg, what a busy life I lead, yawnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn.

Bye for now and love,

JoycePxxx

Gill, I don't like what I have just read, this is the time you need us, YOUR FRIENDS!! Even if you dont write, keep looking in, we are all here for you, you know that.
Ok I won't ask questions but I am wondering why you think it's you, maybe your depression has got to you like it has me. Lately I think everything is my fault, because I am so depressed and down I feel as if I am a drain on hubby, making me worse. It's a vicious circle I have to get out of I know, but it is hard, I'm so glad I have my friends on here who understand it and help.
Please don't stay away because now is the time you need us.

Caz xx

gill,
Please do not stay away. It is not you, of course it isn't and I am sure that deep down you know that. People leave for all sorts of reasons, often just because they have no interest any more.

Please, even if you just read, stay with us, even if it is only on this thread, nobody on here is leaving. You were a big help to me, keeping me going when I felt down after the op so please stay and let us help you.

Love
Ann
Glos