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i understand what your saying too Em...and too be honest no i dont if it made me any prettier or not...ive seen all the pics of me when i had them done, i just think it was because my mum had them done at that age...as did lots of girls in my family, and up until now ive never even thought badly of it. What i dont like is seeing all the kiddies around Grays (where i live) With the massive gold chains hanging round their necks and the big twisty earrings hanging from their ears.....although i will admit that when i was 15 i owned and loved those earrings....lol yuk! i think i will sit in the fence with this one though...cos i cant say i agree with getting them done but dont agree with certain earrings....good thread though....but please dont think my mum assaulted me lol! xxxxx

My friends daughter had to get her Mum to take the baby to have it's injections 'oh I can't stand to hurt her' and then went on the have her baby's ears pierced. I know you shouldn't judge a book my its cover but nine times out of ten look at a baby with pierced ears and then look at the parents. Enough said!!!! Linda

But is it ok if I come and live in your wonderful counry to do this to my daughter?

I don't even like it on adults. In my humble opinion any form of deliberate piercing is mutilation.

you are generalising too much Jules... I am a white person, born in Great Britian and uphold british law and its ethos. therefore, i have an opinion that i think it is wrong to have a baby's ears pierced, for reasons i have already stated. I do not live in Africa/Asia or any other continent or country where religious and traditions are different to mine. IF i moved to one of these countries i would not follow one of their traditions ie neck rings, because, i am not of that race or culture. i would follow and abide by their laws but not their secular traditions. Likewise if someone from one of those countries that practise such traditions came to live in britian, i would not critisise their right to uphold their traditions on foreign soil. But would in turn expect them to abide by the laws of this country.

I dont know if things have changed, but when my 2 daughters wanted their ears pierced at 8 and 10 ( they are 19 and 21 now). The youngest one was told she was too young by the place we went to get them done. Maybe it just depends where you go. Also, I didnt have mine pierced until just after I had the eldest was born and when I asked about it, they asked if it was for me or the baby as they didnt pierce babies ears. Margaret

Have to admit to being a late starter here, Didn't have mine pierced until i was in my 40s. And my Mum hated it even then. I hate to see babies with pierced ears especially when they are wearing little hoop earrings. I had a friend once who caught her (small) hoop in something and tore her ear lobe badly. Ugh! Imagine that happening to a baby or young childs sensitive ears. Ann Glos

my daughter had to wait until her 13th birthday before she got her ears peirced. she would nag & nag from about aged 9 years. last year she asked if she could have her belly button peirced. i told her she could do what she wanted when she was 16 years old. i hate seeing children under 13 years with peircings. lynnxx

Just so, But would this be permitted. Or should I say what has the higher authority?

It all depends on which country and which religion.... as i said, you cannot generalise.

Ah yes I'm with you now. I was meaning if a person went to England from a place where this was normal practice - and indeed if for some reason a native born Brit decided this was where fashion should be heading.

i'll probably get my wrists slapped now but we had limaras ears pierced when she 1 year old. it doesnt make me or hubby irrisponsible parents. nor are we a wayne or waynetta. we are normal hard working parents and have brought our 3 sons and 1 daughter up to be polite,well mannered and responsible adults. they were disciplined as children and werent street kids. just because limara and her brothers had their ears pierced it didnt make them yobs susie p.s hubby also wears an earing.

I was brought up in a strict household with old fashioned values and respect. My ears were pierced when I was three. I wanted them pierced and my Auntie paid for it as my birthday present. I wore little gold sleepers, as they were the 'norm' in those days (early 60's). My parents took me to have them pierced at a reputable jewellers, which was miles away from home. No stud guns then - your ear was frozen and a needle pushed through your ear into a cork. No pain whatsoever. Every night my ears would be bathed and covered in olive oil and the earrings twisted 'round. For birthday and christmas pressies I would occasionally get the odd pair of earrings - always gold (never allowed to wear anything else) and always small (studs or small creoles). I was taught to cherish and value my jewellery and take good care of it - which I do to this day. Am I glad I had my ears pierced then? - Yes. My elder sister (11 years older), didn't have hers pierced until her 30's. She had to have stud gun, which she said hurt her so much, that she nearly walked out after only having one ear done. She had to have studs, which were not as easy to move in the ear to allow for bathing, etc. She had infections. After hearing what she and other friends and family went through, I'm sure I wouldn't have had them done later in life. I can't say I like pierced earrings on babies, but I think they're fine of toddlers, so long as the earrings are small and discrete. The secret is to ensure the ears are looked after to avoid infections, etc. Obviously, at such a young age this is the responsibility of the parents. If the parents aren't prepared to put the effort into looking after their children's piercings, then they shouldn't get them done. I am not a slob. I have a good middleclass upbringing and I know my parents would never have done anything that would hurt me. Do I think they were bad parents for letting me have my ears pierced? - Certainly not. Would I let my daughters have their ears pierced at a young age? - Yes, if they really wanted it done. Would I make them have their ears pierced? - No. Not everyone and every situation is the same - you can't judge a book by its cover. Jan

No Suise, I think we all strayed too far from the point on this one... My origional gripe was that... having a baby's ear pierced does nort enhance the baby's appearance in any way, and considering the possible dangers, ie, baby getting ears caught on something, or ripping earings out etc.. was it really a necessity to do it?

As I said Susie Its a matter of personal choice, and doesnt make you or your kids bad people for wearing earings at a young age. Personally I wont have Connies pierced because knowing her luck, some other kid will pull them and scar her for life. oh .....and cos of school oh .....and cos its her choice (when shes older) lol. E x

thank gawd for that em and elaine lol i thought you were all gonna hate me now. susie

Dont be daft Susie! lol its just personal opinion of the act, not the person! :))

No offence intended to anybody - but I think earings on a small child or baby detract from their natural beauty. Makes me cringe. Oh, and Frogella is a horrible name ... Frogmella, on the other hand ... :)

I had my ears pierced at 7 years old, only cos my mum had her ears done. Mum said yes on one condition I dont complain about the pain when you first get them done. Which I didnt and I told her I would have millions of earrings which I have. I dont agree with having babies ears pierced so young, but everyone to their own thing. Ive got no children so wont have any problem with my kids will I. I would never pierce my belly either havent got the guts anyway, and its too late now at 48. Ive heard girls with strange names as well, such as porche or mercedes.. . I wonder if someone will name their baby KA or mini cooper. Why dont they just use normal names. Regards

u no its funny that u should mention children/babies having their ears pierced.... just the other week me and my partner were discussin weather or not to have our two girls done, shania 5 and jordan 2 and the only reason we decided against it was because it would have cost over £40 for it to be done properly . like my mum said she had mine done for my 1st birthday and i still have the same original hole to this day 23yrs later. it dint do me any harm infact i thank my parents for it . on little girls i believe it looks ok but on little boys i think it looks awful especially wen its accompanied by necklaces and rings etc. but this is my personal opinion if i wish to get my girls ears pierced i shall it doesnt make me any less of a parent , my children will still be bought up to be poilite and have respect an earring wont change that limmie xxx