General Chat

hello stranger Happy New Year Merlin

I won't get past that TW said so at the time......I'm afraid my time on here has served to make me more unforgiving. Got bitten TWICE by someone once and I'll never do that again.

The photos incident is one of the things that sticks in my mind also but worse than anything else was the public accusation that I was having an affair with a member on here !!!! The person that made the accusation had no idea at all whether or not that lie would cause problems in my marriage but decided to bandy it about to be spiteful regardless.

Luckily my OH and I are rock solid and it didn't cause the ructions the accuser had hoped for. BUT nasty snide LIES and personal insults intended to cause damage in real life are the limit for me I'm afraid.xx

Muffy I too have been accused of having an affair and laughted it off ,just shows the level of their minds, and one of the ones that has said has it has come on to or flirted with about every male who has ever posted on here...and then the scanner incident so laughable ... now if i really wanted to be nasty at the time of the flowers incident I could of really really been vile and put the cat amongts the pigeons but I still felt I was told inconfidenace and will that will die with me.. thats how I know I am the better person :)))

I could've done the same too Hayley .....but like you, decided that a confidence is a confidence regardless of whether I'm still friendly with the person who divulged the info in the first place xx

I live my real life not looking back or harbouring grudges, life is better without negativity.

However, I choose to block out anyone who has knowingly caused real hurt to me and mine and will continue to do so.

You can only turn the other cheek once and after that it's best to turn your back and walk away for good:)

Those who choose to cause unrest and hurt to others time and time again, whether ill or not, are too pathetic to waste time or energy on.

xx

Same here. If people knew some of the stuff I'm taking to my grave with me their hair would turn grey instantly LOL.

But if I was told a confidence, then that's how it remains, regardless. But there are some who feel that once you have fallen out with someone it gives them license to spill confidences all over the place, and I have had to remind someone who blabbed on the boards that they were told in confidence and shouldn't be spreading it about. Well they are the poorer for it, not me.

I'm not perfect, I'm only human, and make mistakes from time to time, same as we all do, but it's whether or not we learn from those mistakes that makes it matter, and makes you the better person. Some don't, some come back to do it again and again and again ad nauseum. Bleurghhh!

you promise not to tell about that thing you know that THING dont yer you know about me Teresa :)))

I promised at the time and that promise still stands Hayley, in spite of the large sums I'd get from News of the World for it. hehehe

Mildred, dont' beat about the bush love, say what you really think LOL

There is one person on here, that i will never be nice to

Sorry but i just cant xx

Don't worry Alko......I can take it PMSL

I decided not to post on a certain person's threads ever since she made a remark which, to me, was extremely offensive, repulsive and sickening. I find this much the best way of 'dealing' with troublemakers - ignore them. Having said that, such people are in a minority, and I would venture to say that most who post on here are happy to rub along together, despite individual differences and dislikes. It seems that many people who didn't 'get on' once, do so now, which is great!

Mildred i can see your point maybe i am wrong

maybe some are still best ignored
or just kept away from

Lol TW, your safe !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I not arguing with anyone on here no more, i done with all of that, except for that one person and you all know who it is xx

Same here Alko.
There is one person that I will not speak to..........................................even to be nasty too
I just wont even acknowledge they exist...........................................to me they are beneath contempt

oooh Hayley didnt see you there lol xx

Hi Hayley..............................cant be you !
Im talking to you
lol

Another thing we may want to ask ourselves as well is what sort of board do we want chat to be?

Is it one where at certain times most threads are dedicated to the same few individuals? Is it one where people goad one another or snipe at each other on a regular basis just because they can? Is it one where we let the trolls achieve their objective?

Someone said the other day not to feed the trolls. I thought it was good advice. You never know they may become bored and give up.

There are more interesting things to talk about but a few people always seem to get the limelight which I think is what they want all along.

Also, how did those that didn't get along on here finally come together? You don't need to answer that but perhaps (I don't know) those people have a solution.

I dont think i have a solution but, i didnt get on with a few on here, but someone close stopped me in my tracks and opened my eyes, sometimes its what goes on in our lives away from GR that makes us who we turn out to be on here,

An while im here, I apologise to all i have upset, except for 1 xx

To answer the last part of your question, Lesley, and this is merely an opinion. I think that those who took a view of certain transgressors and their actions, and thereafter ignored them on the boards, decided eventually that it would be in their best interest to 'forgive' them. The said transgressors were so grateful to be welcomd back into the fold, that they are all now jolly good friends. The luuuuurve is palpable:-)) lol

So the solution is, really, that there is safety in numbers and we must all forgive our enemies etc etc...

BC XXX