General Chat

Hello everyone - this thread is so good, such lovely people on here that have suffered so much.

with this sort of illness you have to remeber this:

1) you are not alone.

2) take one step at a time and by telling us all, that is the first step nearer to helping yourself more.

3) try and find something for you, not something that is too involved or is too difficult, nor with too much expectations from you.

4) don't be afraid to tell the doc if your symtoms change, no matter how silly they may seem

5) except that this is an illness.

6) if you have family who think different, show them evidence, take them with you to the docs.
l had a close friend who really thought my depression was something you could brush under the carpet and that l was being a wimp - years later she suffered with it and actually apologised. She was diagnosed with cancer of the breast and had part of one breast removed.

7) get out as much as possible, even if its only for a 10 min walk around the garden.

If you want to add to this please do.

jude sarf wales :o) xx

Carole, lol! :-)

Keep saying to yourselves AN INCH IS A CINCH, A YARD IS HARD and do that inch of a task first, then the next one, and before you know it you will have done the whole yard!
Didn't mean to shout but wanted it to stand out. I try really hard to use the above 'rule' and sometimes manage to and it helps. Breakdown any difficult task into little bits and concentrate on one bit, not the whole picture and sometimes it works.
Good luck, gotta go o.h. is complaining cos I am on here lol Well I have only just got up!

Lizx

I am on 10mg of Citalopram and have been since just before xmas.

Doc wanted me to take something some years ago but I turned him down. This time I decided I needed help.

Thank you for this thread

n

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This is a BRILLIANT thread. I read it every day, so much compassion and help, whatever has caused our depression, we can all help each other.


Caz xxxx

n

Depression unlike some ilnesses you cant see unlike a broken leg or bad back etc. we learn to struggle on and hide it i do sometimes wonder when struggling around a supermarket with hubby trudging behind just how many others feel the same going through the motions finding buying bread and milk more of a chore than some find xmas shopping. one thing being on here has helped with is the fact that next time im in the queue i will no im prob not alone in wishing the checkout would move faster b4 i can cope with the panics no longer and im not the only one desperatly seeking the solice of the car then home..

n

must be hard for those of you who work i cant even imagine holding down a job.
being a full time carer i get to avoid trips most days and struggle on a good day to get as much done as i can. but putting off the tasks does feel like im giving in to the problem stupid thing is when im in the car i love it im relaxed and glad to get out its just going out in itself and the task in hand once i get there the car is almost a safe haven like home

I'd like to say thank you to Ann of Green Gables for all her post's which make so much sense.

Thanks Ann xxx

well that really is so very kind of you Carole - I just like to try and help - ain't an expert by any means - just old so got a bit of experience of life!!

Ann XXXX

Hi Dave - well it was Carole who thought to start the thread after people came on the Greek Tragedy - Mental Illness one I started. I think this is a very valuable thread and has encouraged some "timid" people to speak out and hopefully have been encouraged to seek help

Ann XXX

n

Tina was asking about Fluoxetine - well it is in the same family as Citalopram, Sertraline and Paroxetine if that is any help. I have a BNF book which is the one doctors use to prescribe drugs

n

I had a complete breakdown 2004 after losing two brothers and a sister in 12 weeks. I still take antidepressants and have bouts of 'why am I bothering' days. My kids keep me going frankly and although I adore hubby he doesn't understand what depression is all about.

Most of my friends have also gone through something related to depression, some for no particular reason. I think that the lives we lead certainly don't help with the everyday stress. If I could afford to ditch work I would cos that gives me headaches every day...lol

Sue xx


Edited to add: my mother died when I was 8, I had 2 step mothers from hell (no joke). My father didn't like any of his children (no one actually grieved when he died) and all five children were left with one sort of compulsive disorder, alcholol, gambling, etc. and all of us suffered with mental problems at one time or other. I can't say he was to blame but he certainly didn't help!

Sue that is so sad.

I'd also give up work if I could. But on the other hand it does force me out of bed and I have to get motivated. I was on holiday last week and hardly moved out of the house. But I did talk to people on here! I was so ill five months ago I was like a zombie.

I was a very sensitive child ( still am) and took any comment to heart. My parents didn't notice this. My sister was always the one who was pretty, funny, cute, their rosebud! I was just there, never seemed to hear nice things about me except I was a good girl. I was too frightened to be anything other!! I was a nervouse wreck really. Now I'm scared of my own shadow!

The good days are getting more than the bad ones now.

But agree it's life style that is so stressful, never seem to get anything done to a high enough standard cos there is always so many other things need doing, and not enough time.

Carole xx

Ann I read what you put and think I wish I thought of that. Maybe when my head is clearer I will think faster, and be of more help to others. xx