General Chat

Ann in glos, I think you are seeing more ocd as people are coming out and saying that is what they have. There is still stigma about mental illness, and that is what ocd is. I did not tell anyone for years only my OH, it even took a lot for me to admit on here, because of peoples opinions. Now I do not care. Carole's is ocd but as I said at the lower end of ocd, though it is very different, ocd is different for each person. At times I get stuck like our Ben, but have also had years of practice to control it and can now stop it very quickly.

What I would like to know is, is there a connection with ocd and having a narcissistic parent?

Gail

maybe with the hoarding type there is Gail. maybe the start of somebody hoarding is treasuring something that is only theirs, a sort of replacement for love. not sure if that makes sense.

I try not to hoard things but have a bit of a problem with grocery shopping.My kitchen is full of tins,jars,dried fruit.It is mostly things I use but I will get an extra one,two,dozen "while they are this price".I think it is more meanness than ocd.

I don't think I am ocd,my mother certainly was,partners mother is and I think he may be too.If you grow up in a house full of heaps it is what you know.

We both approach things in a different way.I don't do top dressing.I find homes for things and,until I have done this,they lie about. Would sooner turn a room right out than go round with a duster,thus leaving the dust to be a foot thick.

He will clear a space into a heap at the side and cover the heap up.I am blatant about my heaps!

ann, makes loads of sense. I had my little treasures that were just mine, still have some of them too, 50 years on.

Sharron, I also hide my piles.

Maybe Carole's problem is, it was the only place she could be alone and have privacy?

Gail

Hello all, I have only just now, by reading Ann's answer, realised why I find it so hard to get rid of my books. I am still trying to clear out but can't for the life in me get rid of books. When I was with my first husband, he was very mean with money and I had to take some of my beloved books to the second hand book shop to get money for food for my three children. It's not a replacement for love with me but a forced loss of my personal possessions at that time. When I got remarried he bought me books and I bought whatever I wanted as if to make up for it, I have hundreds and none of them fiction, unless historical. I have taken what I could to the hospital book shop but dither about when I try and sort the others.

I hadn't realised how long it's been since I was last here, but there again I'm not sure what day it is anymore, all the days are the same running into one another. I am on my second lot of antibiotics, doctor wasn't very pleased when she saw me last week, my gland on left of neck was still swollen. When I showed her the little bottle with the two stones in she said phew that saved an operation by coming out themselves. I never even thought about that.

Hope you are all doing ok and I'm glad Gail is safe, I am so far behind with my emails and pms but I am slowly getting round to them.

Love and hugs to all
Caz xx

Oh God yes,books.I have far,far,far too many.I don't have many fiction books but far too many cookery books and reference books.It is something about the knowledge within,if I throw away or lose the book I also lose the knowledge.

I would not like my bookshelf on Through the Keyhole.There are too many on the Krays and Hitler,Fred West.There is even one with a picture of the Queen Mother on it! I keep meaning to get a few Mills and Boone to even things up a bit.

When I win the lottery I will buy the Encyclopaedia Brittannica and Complete Oxford Dictionary and have a week-end away in Bognor.

So Sharron is a collector as is Y/caz. More little treasures!!!

I also have loads of books. Have them stored under the bed and a very large cupboard chokkers full in our garage. Did give some to the charity shop 5 year ago though, was a full collection of Agutha Christie and all hard cover. Plus 200 more of various topics. I still have all my accounting and law books. Do not use them anymore so why keep them?

Y/Caz, I was never in any immediate danger as nearest fire was about 20 klms away, was worried though as the whole area was so very dry, it was almost like autumn as trees were loosing their leaves and dying off at an alarming rate. I have grown up with this danger and luckily know what to do, save my pets, photos, paperwork and just get out.

Gail

So who is deleting. Come on own up.

test

Hello Mary, can we be of assistance??

It there any way we can help your test????

Gail

Well this is a first and should brighten everyone's day.

I have gotten in the shower before with my glasses on and one time wearing a hat.

This time, I donned my shower cap, turned the water on, lovely and warm. Picked up the soap to wash myself and found, I HAD ALL MY CLOTHES STILL ON.

Think I am loosing the plot. They will at least be clean.

Gail

thank you gail for giving me a real laugh!!! I have done the glasses bit and nearly the hearing aid, but all your clothes!!!!


Who is deleting? If it is by accident no problem, if it is because you are not sure about putting something on here please bite the bullet and come on and chat.

ann
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Just come back and noticed all the deletes???. Gail you have given me my first laugh in weeks, I love it, I thought I did daft things.

Sharron my passion is cookery and bird books, I gave a lot to my grandson, cookery books, but still have a lot to get rid of. My problem now is family history and the history of places I and my ancestors lived, they will have to go with me. I have a book on Cononley in Yorkshire and there are quite a few photos of my mums family in mid 1800s, it's a lovely surprise when things like that happen.

Better go and get my afternoon rest now.

Caz xx

I have a copy of Cheshire and Fifoot,which,of course,I consult every day,Adam Smith,Tom Paine,Edward Burke,William Shirer,Mrs Beeton,Spike Milligan,welding textbooks,several Haynes manuals.It's not normal is it?

Think of the space if I got rid of them.Unfortunately they contain the knowledge that should be in the far greater space in my head.

I got in the bath with my slippers on once Gail and regularly have to ask why I am looking in the fridge.

I did take my shoes off, well flip flops as OH calls them. So I guess that is a plus. Did forget to tuck my hair in though so most of it got wet as well, and it is a cow to dry. I did remember to take my glasses off this time as well, so 2 pluses.

Gail

But we have not found out who deleted have we?Is it the person who added testcommunity? I see you said 'Mary' Gail, did you catch a name? I hope it is not somebody wanting to post but too shy.

So we are all book lovers then?
I have so many books and have great trouble getting rid of them.
I had Allan build me floor to ceiling book shelving in a very wide alcove we have. it is full and I regularly have to sort out and very reluctantly give some away. The *some * I gave away last time filled so many boxes. Allan and Tony took a few boxes down to the medical centre... they sell them there.
My SIL took two boxes, we put about four boxes up in the community centre... and god alone knows where the others went. I just can't remember.
Did that leave me any more room ??? Not at all, I just filled in the spaces with more books!
I have been like that since I was a tiny little girl. Al that has changed is that I am no longer tiny.... in any way. ;-0)

Busy at the moment thinking of the books I may ask for for my birthday.
I am one hopeless case!
Deanna XXX

Tony refuses to build me any more shelves now because he says i will only fill them with books. Well, what else are they for I ask?? And I have taken quite a lot to charity shops in the past few months too.

Ann
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Hi all, just a quick visit but oh dear my wee problem nearly returned with that laugh Gail, thank you for sharing your new way of laundering, I could have done that recently had o.h. finished the shower installation he started in November 07!!!!! That washing machine better turn up tomorrow, we paid extra to have an allocated slot as I want o.h. to check it in and install it and he goes to work at 1ish! Therefore the van will deliver between 7am and 10am lol, needless to say it will wake me but I will stay in bed out of the way as long as I can. Will start on the washing when I get up and should be caught up by the end of the week!

I have so many books, boxed up at my son's and in one of my garages I rent, and at home and here, no bookcases in this house, o.h. isn't a reader nor were his sons or wife, obviously, thick lot lol, so he doesn't understand the pleasure I get from them, read a lot of fiction mainly historical type rather than Mills and Boon or chick lit altho the odd chick lit is ok. I do have several to get rid of so will pass those on somewhere. I get at least two each week from the charity bookshelf in our local supermarket, you can leave books when you are finished with them and people take them and put 25p a book in the collection box.

Better get myself sorted out, didn't get up till 3 as I stayed on here so long last night/early this morning, catching up with some of the threads and other stuff I look at.

See you all later,
love
Lizxxxx

Gail, why oh why do I think of Kenny Evert or how ever you spell his name, when you mention getting under the shower with your clothes on?

Thank you Ann,now I know what the sort of gate-like thing is called.

I took my grandson for that interview at 14.30, but it was in vain. He is far too open, had told another pupil at the college where he studies about this prestigious restaurant, so the other lad made an apppointment for 12.00, Douglas made one for 14.30.The other was taken on, my grandson wasn't. Maybe he will be a bit harder in future.

Miserable weather again, grey and cold.

Love to all from Eileen xxx