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Sharon is your dad dirt tracking or doing wheelies in it!

Tickets come today for the ballet my daughter is taking me to for my 50th birthday in Feb. I'm excited now xx

Have been having visions of he of the left hand wheels and nearly 90, sneaking out at night and going for drag races, chucking wheelies and getting up to so much mischief while Sharron sleeps. Thanks for that Carole, have had the giggles so bad, with you starting me off.

So, they are shopping a nearly 90 year old for miss use of a motorised wheel chair. PLEASE!!!!!! Do these people have a pea for brains. Has it ever crossed their tiny minds that they are incompetent????? I agree, bit of a worry that this person even holds a license to drive.

Sharron, bit of your own advice, give it to them, do not sit back and take this rubbish. Fight them in the trenches, on the beaches. Fight them you will!!!!!! I realise you are already doing this and must be so frustrated after months of this nonsense. I hope you have reported them to the relevant authorities.

My wonderful mate (dog) has had a lump on his hind leg for a while and the vet has been keeping an eye on it. The vet has now decided the lump needs to be removed and sample analysed. Trouble is I have now found 4 more lumps on his tummy of different sizes. They cannot now treat him here and we have to take him 60 klms away and leave him overnight after the op. He is so funny and now wants to come inside when he hears the air con going, when I let him in he goes into the laundry and sleeps on the tile floor. He is my mate and great company. When I am out side he follows me everywhere and is with me when feeding the chickens. I am very worried about him just now and he is getting extra T & C.


Gail

Hi all, still got my wee problem lol driving me nuts, hope it clears up soon - last time it took about three or four days so only a couple of days yet .

I am sorry you are having such trouble with that engineer Sharron, can you not take some pictures of the buckled bit and send the companies concerned. The chap who is looking at sounds a real drip, let's hope he doesn't end up in a wheelchair some time - he might get back what he deserves, the dope!

Gail, I am sorry about Ruby and now your poor dog, plenty of tlc while you wait to get the ops and biopsy done and we will all be sending positive thoughts for you both.

Kathy, I keep getting rid of emails -it's the duplicated funnies that help clog things up but I do have lots of other stuff to get rid of, just not much time on here while dopey features is at home. He has just told me he probably won't be working Saturday, the company are messing him around, but it's probably cos he keeps arguing with his boss and being bolshie, so they are trying to teach him a lesson. All the others are allowed to go in on Sat but to be fair to them the boss said, it should be o.h. who doesn't get the overtime this week! Doesn't make sense as one lad doesn't usually want to do o/t as he plays rugby and when o.h. asked him, he said he doesn't know if he is playing yet so may or may not go in, will they ask o.h. at the last minute - I hope so lol.
I had to giggle at the story of the poor American chap and his cat, what a reputation you will have lol

I think I have read the Martine McCutcheon's mother's book - Behind closed doors? - it was dire wasn't it? There are so many books out like that now, so much cruelty and unhappiness those children and others suffered. Yet how much have we moved on? It still happens more than it should.

I am reading Paul OGrady's book at the mo, it is good and he did seem to have a pretty good childhood, compared to many. It interests me because around the time it is talking about, I had relatives in Birkenhead too but I can't find any of them now, sadly.

Eileeen, I am glad you are feeling better altho troubled over the letter and a little worried about looking after your family. Good thing you are stronger now and coping better.

Carole, what date is your birthday? I bet you are looking forward to the Ballet - o.h.'s bday is next Thursday 5th. We will have to have a natter next week if poss. he is on lates then except Thursday when he has taken a day off.

Ben, you keep up the good work with your tree and ignore the doubters.

Has anyone heard from Betty, it's been a few days now since I heard anything and hoping she is ok,

Ann and anyone else I have missed, take care and will catch you on another thread perhaps.

love and hugs
Lizxxxx

I haven't heard from Betty. Maybe she put herself on the naughty step for not coming here to talk!!
Do hope she and her family are all okay xxx

Gail the thought of 90 yr old man in electric chair speeding round had me laughing this morrning, I put my dog to bed some nights, then go in the kitchen later to find him lying there
on the tiled floor. He seems to do it to keep cool. Hope your dogs lumps are just cysts or something harmless. xx

Kathy I did a similar thing to my sil. I got something on facebook from her asking whats wrong. I couldn't work it out, so emailed her whats wrong? She phoned me asking how did I know? I asked what do I know? She had told her oh the night before she wanted a divorce and had told a friend she was going to tell him. She wonderd how I had found out so fast! I hadn't!!
Kathy I'm not poorly enough to stay in bed. Just had a good lay in this morning though. I also read that book by Martine Mc's mum. Awfull isn't it.
I have thought of writing a list of all your names to help me, but never got round to it!! Sometimes remember someone I haven't added so go back and edit. lol xxx

Ann, you have a sick sense of homour!! I like it xx

Eileen, that letter could be harmless, and you have worried about it for days. Open it !! With fingers crossed of course. xxx

Alison how are you? xx

Dutch how's your back today? xx

Deanna ~~~~~~ xxx

Liz I don't have time to think of my birthday! Feb is a nightmare.
6th uncle Albert, 11th niece Kerry, 17th Ann, 20th Jeff( two new relations found in USA). Then 23rd Mum, 24th daughter Hayleys,25th uncle Arthur and nephew Jamie, 28th uncle Alberts wife Lillian oh yea and mine!! 2nd was my uncle Jim (now dead), and grandma 13th (also dead now). Grandma had two other babies born Feb but sadly they died as toddlers. May the weather gets a bit warmer so nine months later along we all came!!

Eileen I am an expert on unopened envelopes, (and unchecked message machine).LOL. I hear you loud and clear.
When my intellectual self finally takes over from emotional self, the results are often not as bad as expected. In fact I heard myself say recently, 'now why did you spend so much energy worrying about opening this pile of envelopes, it only took 5 minutes". Yes one told me the hydro was due to be disconnected and I was stressed until got to the office in time, could have saved myself a lot of worrying if I'd just opened it in the first place.
Take a deep breath and do it, dear friend, I'll send over my letter opener which I forget to use anyway.
Love
Mary

My dearest Caz how sorry I am to read the message you allowed Clairejo to post from you. You do sound in a right
mess. How I wish I had a magic wand, I'd run it over you in a falsh. For now, I send you love, hugs and sympathy for your pain xxxxx

Thank you for posting that from caz Claire. How very frustrating for you caz, although good to know it wasn't cancer. I hope the doctor can solve the problem of the latest swelling which sounds like an infection of some sort making your glands swell. Lots of love (((hugs))) and thoughts inging their way to you.

Ann
Glos

Hi everyone, I'm taking a little break from family treeing as i've just realised I've been tracing the wrong family on my paternal grandmother's side so now I'm waiting for a birth cert so I can do it properly, that'll teach me to try to do it cheaply.

I've had a really good day today, we've had a week of pressure getting all our work sorted at school but today we could relax a bit.

Caz I'm so sorry to hear you're in so much pain, I know they can do nothing for your back but hopefully they can sort your throat out to relieve your pain there xx

Carole I live in Lincoln. I don't like to go out of site of the Cathedral if I can help it!

Wishing you all a peaceful and positive weekend xxx

Looking at the weather here yesterday we looked to see what it is like where we went to visit my cousin in Ohio last Nov. -17 feels like -25 !! No thank you we will put up with what we have.

Hope you are all ok, it's been quiet on here. I'm getting a bit better but still sniffing and sneezing x

Carole it's as cold here, as in ohio !!
Driving has been horrible the past few days, if it weren't for the necessity of driving to work and kids to school, I'd be holed up in a blanket with a mug of cocoa.
But today the sun is shining. I'm wondering when to start tomato seeds indoors. Bring on spring.
Have managed to fight off my cold, just left with a nagging cough, joys of little fresh air.
I am so glad to see some sun, improves the mood.
caz I'm thinking of you, hope you can get some decent pain relief soon,
Hugs all round, and gentle ones for Caz.
Mary XXX

Hello everyone from a very weak and wobbly old lady. At least that's what I feel like. Thank you Claire for putting post up for me. My doctor said it was a salivery stone and it had caused an infection, she said I would be poorly owing to my low immune system, so I wasn't worried. The two stones came out yesterday, what a relief inside my mouth, but I still have my big lump on swollen gland, side of neck. I must have lost a bit of weight because all I could eat was a little bit of chicken soup and tea, I've just had a yoghurt and even that hurt going down. I took doctors advise and stayed in bed so Philip took the day off work yesterday, (I had to ring him to come home early on Friday) and he is having tomorrow off as well. My mouth was so swollen I couldn't talk, even I couldn't understand what I was saying lol. My doctor said I might need to call them out over the weekend, luckily I didn't and I have started to feel better this afternoon.
They say it always comes in threes, my youngest son sent hubby a birthday card with some money in, he lives a long way away, and it hasn't arrived. May come tomorrow though. The biggest upset was when hubby went on to chemist for my antibiotics and mouthwash, he usually doesn't go in the car, but he did this time for speed. When he came out of chemist he noticed someone had bashed the back bumper and pushed it in. A brand new Nisson Note, straight out of factory in November. Something nice must happen soon surely.
Thank you to all of you who sent me pm's, I will answer them when I have a bit more energy.

Love to all
Caz xx

Hi Everyone,

I am hoping to have good news in few weeks, telling me i can exchange flats with someone to be near my daugther.

I do hope its not to long i have to wait, the hold up at moment is i got to get the person who i am swapping with to fill in my form as well, Dont know why doing like that. But i am going over to see him tomoro, lucky i am still staying with daugther.

Here is ((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))for anyonw who needs them

Thanks Clairjo,

Its will make me alot happier as it will get me near family i want to be with and away from family i dont want to be near.

Got to go back and pack but most of its done away, Wish i could go to sleep and wake up when i get the ok to move.

Hope everyone is ok,

I dont like this snow.

Hi everyone.
I have been off the site for a couple of weeks. Had an extended Australia Day weekend in Canberra, which was quite enjoyable. This time we drove down, which makes getting around a lot easier, but I think going from an air-conditioned car into Canberra's summer heat and into air conditioned buildings was rather enervating.
Still, we did get to see the Degas exhibition at the art gallery and visit the new permanent portrait gallery, also the national museums and archives. My OH, not into family history research, was quite impressed with the archives offices.
Canberra is a convenient excuse for a break away. Not much over 3 hours drive, so quite accessible. IThat's my good news and evidence of the ups.
I have been working night shifts since so struggle to sleep during the day.
Caz, I have not read your messages before, but a blocked, infected salivary gland would really make you feel awful. No wonder you got depressed. I smiled that all you could eat was some chicken soup. It's supposed to be the great cure-all.
Eileen, isn't it great to have a diagnosis you can live with, even if it means being on tablets possibly for the rest of your life. I know people with thyroid problems and they did feel half dead.
Gail, I have never walked out of a doctor's appointment, but good on you. I have walked out of shops. In dealing with my own GP I much prefer to deal with one particular receptionist. The other two are a bit trying, but I have 'known' Eileen (a cheerful Irish lass) for many years.
I guess I still have ups and downs. I was talking to a mate yesterday- he was I think doing a bit of a layman's diagnosis to see if I was depressed, and I probably am, mildly. He also asked if I ever got elated- quite perceptive of him.
I do have aches and pains that sometimes get me down, but nothing like what affects some of the people on this site. My kindest wishes go out to them.
It is funny what can upset you. It is the 30th anniversary today of my father's death, and I don't feel distressed by this. I did become fond of him in his last few years. He was too young, but I don't feel his death was tragic, unlike my mum's a few years earlier. Her's still does upset me. But his sister-in-law, my mother's sister, does suffer. Dad died on her birthday, and she feels this. I don't quite understand, but will ring her later to say happy birthday (and assure her that I care).

i have a dilemam and would welcome so advice. those people who no me will know that i found out a few months ago that my mother has a Narcissistic personality disorder and after the initial jubilation at realising that 40 years of being put down and ignored was not my fault, just before xmas i hit rock bottom. The old familiar black pit of despair was back again, so back on the medication which is making me feel lots better, i wanted to finally try to put all these negative thoughts and feeling i have about myself behind me and learn to properly deal with the realisation of my mothers problem. So i asked my GP for counselling which i have waited 3 months for but... and heres the snag they can only offer me daytime appointments and i work full time so it would mean having to take time of work. taking the odd hour off to go to doctor is one thing but but regularly have to take time out is another.

Given the appalling view of mental health issues (and my supervisor is particularly prejudiced) do you think i should try to explain the situation to my boss and hope he is ok with me having the time off to attend or just give it up as bad job and wait till i can find another counsellor who could see me in the evening?

Would it be legal for them to stop you going for any other kind of medical treatment regularly?

You are going for medical treatment and it is none of their bloody business what for!

I wonder what your supervisor is afraid of.

i know strictly speaking it none of their business but it is a small office only about 8 people so my absence would be noticed and commented on. I dont know about supervisor she is very prejudiced and intolerant full stop

Do they know it is for counselling? It could be something you might die of for all they know.Milk it,make them think it is.

Claire I told my supervisors why I wanted time off,... for visits to a psychologist. It's no different to any other health issue. These appointments are not easy to come by, and waiting lists are very long. Soon to be seeing CBT's I'll be having more time off.
I wouldn't tell them why I was having these sessions, in fact at first I didn't know it was the result of my upbringing. Just knew I needed help. It's up to you if you want to tell them why. Good luck.

Got to work today about half hour away (Newark), working closer to home tomorrow, but remember another year going to same place it took an hour to get out of Lincoln! Nearly had a crash on way home tonight I checked my mirrors before moving out to overtake a lorry that was throwing up so much spray it was making it difficult to see. I heard a car horn looked in mirror to see lights flashing me. He got along side me and gestured so I gave him a gesture back! He went off at high speed, which he must have been doing to appear so fast from nowhere. So he has to take some blame for driving so fast in those conditions.

Hope you are all keeping warm.
Nice to see Colin back x

This is the first time we have had these conditions for twentyish years.Many drivers are too young to ever have encountered them and others too old ever to remember what to do in them.

You were right and just be glad you don't have to pay his insurance.

As for the counselling.We were brought up to believe that any help we had with anything was pure self-indulgence and due entirely to our own shortcomings.IT IS NOT.

Good luck to you both.