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from a personal point of view,i preferred bridgit jones,when she was over weight. bryan

Bendy if you want some support with the diet will willingly help, Have lost 4stone 3lb to date but still a way to go. So we will all help lol Wendy.

Oh this is my sort of thread. I'm over-tall, overweight, over 60 and......over the moon that I'm not the person that old lady is relying on for company. Wendy you must have the patience of a saint. My Mum lived til she was 85 and my Nan til she was 95 and never once did I hear anything so hurtful - even though one of my Nan's favourite sayings was '....if you can't say what you like at my age when can you'. I'm trying to give her the benefit of the doubt, perhaps she had a bad day, like we all do sometimes. Jan

pleased to see you then was she wendy, id have asked her what got up her nose you cant diet a week before easter

Daisy, I’ll be company for you on this thread. I think people can be very cruel, and at the least thoughtless sometimes. I’m in need of a few pounds; I find it almost impossible to put weight on. When I am sick my weight drops very fast, I am a couple of stone underweight so I wish I could help anyone who wants to get rid, all offers of a few pounds gratefully received, especially the posterior it needs a bit of upholstery as it gets very sore sitting here on Genes. My mother-in-law is one of those people who doesn’t think before she speaks, I don’t see her as often these days (on purpose) because every time I would see her she has to make comments about how skinny I am, it makes me feel awful, no matter what her comments are I take them all to heart, so I would rather not hear them. Even when she has said I am lucky not to have to watch my weight it sounded insincere. Oh and I am not looking forward to being a tiny haggered old lady always being cold. Well my feet are perpetually cold now, bed socks needed in winter, but soon summer as well. Forget the comments Wendy people like that are not worth thinking about and always seem to find something wrong with people. Pat x Oh and I agree with the comments only diet if YOU want to not for anyone else, we cannot be what others want us to be only who we are, and to be honest being skinny at middle age isn't all what it's cracked up to be. X

I agree with what you are saing Pat, only slim for yourself. I started when i was taken ill and i knew it would not get any better, my doctor said it would help me if my mobility got worse, he was right. It has to be for you. lol

Pat, years ago, following an operation my weight dropped to 6 stone and I had to drink Guinness to try to put the weight on. Once I'd had the children it plumeted again but has now stabilized at around 7 and a half. I don't mind my friend's comments about being skinny, although I never tease them about being overweight as I think that would be hurtful. What I hate are the complete strangers, usually old ladies, who think it's ok to pinch and prod me and suggest I don't eat. I'm so polite I just smile and move on! On balance, I am glad I don't have to diet, having watched my mum struggle with her weight for years, but I would like to put a little on as I do feel scrawny. However, I don't believe anyone should be made to feel bad about their size. Why don't people say positive things instead to make people feel good? Wendy, do what makes you happy. The person is what counts, not the wrapping! Daisy

Daisy - I just stood on the scales - I need to lose more than you weigh - I wish a very large hole would open up and swallow me. I think I'm going for a cry. I've never weighed this much in my life - even when pregnant. Maybe the old girl had a point after all.

Daisy LOL I have my warm bottle of Guinness everyday, except of course when I am on the antibiotics which I was recently, grrr. Back on my warm bottle again though LOL I need it for the Iron. I think people forget some people are skinny due to health problems, I am lactose intolerant so cannot do comfort eating like chocolate (in my dreams) only Bourneville in small quanitities, like many other things I can only eat or drink in small quanitities. Yes I have had strangers pinch and prod me too, and say things such as 'do you ever eat proper food'???? I too ignore ignorance but I still don't like to hear it. Pat x

bendy ! i have just got in from work, switched on, filled my mouth with pea nuts- read this- now i dont know wether to spit em out or swallow em !!!pmsl, sue, about 1and a 1/2 stone overweight, if the charts at the doctors are right ...... sob.... sob....

Polite girls don't spit, Sue - lolol

lol.... i swallowed .....

Wendy If you want to lose some then everyone will be right behind you supporting you. It is very, very hard, I know. Just don't be bullied into it by someone who should learn to think before she opens her mouth. Daisy

Thanks, Daisy xx

Wendy, please don't get upset and let this old lady get to you. Do what you feel is right FOR YOU. All of us that are overweight know that we should lose a bit but it can't be achieved because someone else says so. It's like my smoking - see I'm fat and I smoke LOL - when the time is right for you, is the right time. I've already started Lindy's diet and I hope it works. The fags now, that'll take a lot more to achieve - I'm thinking of hypnosis hehehe. Jan :-))

wendy dont go off and have a cry , im sat here with tears in my eyes laughing at sue, had this vision of peanuts over the screen, in her guilt at the old lady making you feel so sad, the daft old bat probably sits in the house all day thinking of all the nasty things she can about people and forgets the good points like the fact you go to visit her, how many others do , i think she needs to remember that, just be yourself bendy , be how you want to be

Wendy How rude of this woman!!! Its whats inside a person that counts not how large or small they are, you were taking time out of your life to visit this lady and instead of being pleased to see you and grateful for your company she upsets you. Do not go on a diet unless you want to, just remember what a wonderful person you are,there are more important things in life , like having people who love you and friends who appreciate you. I am overweight and my mother in law once said to one of my daughters she remembered me when I was thin!! Some people think they can say what they like to people but my mum would go mad at me if had ever been so rude or personal to someone. Just carry on being the person you are. Take care and try not to be upset. Regards Margaret

I was thinking of starting my own Hippo Ballet..............