General Chat

Hi Jules, Buddy is looking good, but don't go spoiling him too much so he is difficult to leave later on when you have to go out or whatever, or make him too fat to be healthy.

I hope your luck will change soon and you get a nice place to lay your head and hang your hat and Buddy's lead too

Then you can put all this heartache and worry behind you and start a new chapter in your life. Just be careful what you wish for tho!

love and hugs
Lizxx

Hi Liz..

Buddy's doing ok....He does tend to bark when I go out though..After all the heartache I'm happy to be on my own...No more men for me.....

Love Jules x :D

Jules, I assume that your Ex was in the forces,If so,have you thought of contacting "The British Legion" they have and supply accomodation.Just a thought. **M**.

Hi Merlin..

Yes I contacted them but they weren't interested...They haven't got anything for a disabled person!! He's still in the army but retires in Oct, with lots of money and a pension...I know I am entitled to some of it but knowing him he will fight it all the way....

Jules x

Get settled Jules and then fight - he owes you bigtime.

Seconding Chris ;-)

Take care Jules and hope something comes along soon:o))

jude xxxx

I'll agree with that Chris. Jules, not added on here for a while, but not forgotten about you, and hope that you get settled soon.

xx

Jules, you have not posted recently, so trusting that you are OK and coping with your situation.
Re your separation and your husbands pension, I understand that it is your responsibility to inform the army personel, in writing, that he has left you, and provide details of where you live etc and any change in circumstance in including, change of address, divorce or legal separation etc. Now I expect that you know this alreadty but please remember to send everything by guarantee delivery, with a receipt.

I have been divorced with four children two of which were still at school, I did not get 1penny from my ex-husband and he was very well known in the financial world in the city and had hidden everything in an overseas banking system, but I was much younger then and also the laws in the UK have changed considerable since then. He even gave me notice to quit our home ...

As you have not been on here for a while I and others on here trust that you will be back soon.

You are in my prayers and positive thoughts each morning

07.05 Spain :-)

Hi SpanishEyes..

The army know everything as he was the one that informed them... I haven't heard from his unit or the army unit welfare officer..They said they would ring me but never did...I want to get away from the army as it hasn't done me any favours...

He has had my mobile cut off now and hasn't paid BT, sky or tv licence etc...He owes them lots of money....He txt me the other day and said he was skint!! £33k a year and he's skint!!!
He told me to move out and I stood up to him and said I will move out when I am ready and not when you tell me!!

I now have a new mobile number so he can't contact me anymore....

It will be bidding day on Thursday so lets hope there is something for me as I don't think I can carry on the way I am for much longer...

Jules xx

Hi

I have just been to see the lady at the council, she has said that once I put my homeless app in on 31st May I won't get put into the highest band until the 2nd week in July!! Not forgetting i have to leave here by 25th June...
She also said it is highly likely that I will be put in a hostel and I can't take Buddy with me...I will have to pay for my furniture etc to be put in storgae, which is about £90 a month...

I don't know why I bother, I fell so down now, just when I thought things were looking up I get a kick in the teeth...She also said when i'm in the highest band that it could take upto 4mths plus to be offered a place.....

I know what hostels are like as I had a couple of friends stay in them, most are full of drunks and druggies!!! I so can't wait NOT....

Sorry to moan..

Jules x

You're not moaning Jules.
So many people rooting for you to get settled somewhere very soon, and tomorrow is another day. I'm sorry Buddy can't go with you, and I think it's disgraceful to be put in this situation when there are young people, druggies and other unmentionables, who have never contributed to the state, get it all laid on a plate to them.
xx

Jules, really sorry to read your last posts. Do hope that something turns up out of the blue for you. I presume Buddy is your little dog, so hope that you will not have to be separated from him again.

I cannot understand this bidding business, as my stepson in Newark was rehomed by the Council recently. He has lived on benefits for years, and always lands on his feet.

Thinking about you.

Angelsong

It looks like I will be seperated from Buddy again...Poor little man doesn't know whats going on...If i'm in a hostel I don't know how long I will be without him again.....This is really making me sad.....

Jules x

Jules, please stay strong and positive that you will get somewhere where you can keep Buddy and won't end up homeless. Have you tried contacting your local MP for your area, he may be able to pull strings.

My son wanted a flat some years back when he was about 19 or 20. He kept going to our council and they said No everytime but then on one visit he saw a drunken man carrying a can of cider who was insisting on being housed as he had been thrown out of a homeless shelter for being drunk.
He was offered a flat! My son made a fuss and got in touch with Charles Clark who was then his local MP. CC made contact on my son's behalf with a housing association and within two weeks my lad was offered the flat he has now. My lad quoted the Equality Charter.

Make a noise, make a fuss, contact your MP and possibly your local newspaper! Maybe then you will be heard.

Will try and call you as soon as I can, have your new number now.

take care, stay strong, do not let things get you to places you have been before, don't let Pat win.

love and hugs
Lizxxx

Thay run a bidding system in Edinburgh, and it seems a stupid way to work

Oh Jules my heart goes out to you. It would be easy for me to just say stay strong but I now it's not that easy. Try and show your horrible ex you are better off without him, selfish pig. I hope I'm not speaking out of turn but he needs a slap. I hope you and Buddy are re-housed soon and don't have to be parted again.
<3 and ((((hugs))))

Cath xx

I find it unbelievable that the army accepts your situation Jules, and the council's attitude also makes me angry. I do so hope that you will find somewhere soon. Of course he is claiming he is skint, that way he won't have to part with any money.

In our area no matter what the situation the local MP will not get involved!!!!

BUT may be worth a try x army wife may help .....Bl@@dy terrible how we treat army families !

I didnt sleep to well last night, Kept thinking about being in a hostel....I wont be able to see local MP for at least a couple of weeks....

My sister is coming to stay from saturday until tuesday, that will be nice as im not coping very well at the moment...

My dad was fuming when I told him, he said it's not right that a disabled person should be put in a hostel...

Jules x