General Chat

thank you BC, Yes I know who the thread was directed at, unfortunately as the boy who cried wolf, sometimes even she genuinely needs support.

I also realise that people give support in different ways, I don't have any problems with those who don't care to publicly offer support. I do have a problem though with those who criticize the people who ask for support. and before anyone goes running off sending PMs I am not directing that at anyone in particular, it is a general comment.

Myself, I am grateful for the few times I have asked for and received support, I have no family nearby and, having moved around a lot, no local friends for a support group so any support I receive on here is warmly welcomed.

Ann
Glos

I have my MIL fairly close by (well a few kilometres) and we talk on the phone all the time. I do not have close friends or relatives nearby either and love the comradeship and support others on here give me and I can hopefully return.

I do not know how I managed without you lot and feel like part of an extended family.


Gail

I wouldn't have been able to go through a pretty awful 8 months as well as I did, if it hadn't been for the support I got, and still get, from people on this site... it really meant a lot to me, when hubby would read the days' posts out, lol... even the nurses used to look forward to it, they were often sooooo funny!!

I will always give support where I can,, just to know that someone has taken the time to type a few words, well, that can give a real boost, and this helps recovery, or at the very least, helps with feelings of well being!!

I didn't dare pop my clogs.. there were too many lovely folk out there who'd have murdered me, lolol!! ;¬))

Love

Daff xxxxx

Just heard from son, doesn't look too good I'm afraid. This is what he wrote.

"Apparently the form of stroke he had with internal bleeding in the brain is rated 1 thru 5 (5 being the worst) and he had a 4. He is still in intensive care in Chesterfield, on ventilation etc. They tried reducing the sedatives yesterday but he reacted badly so is sedated again. There are still issues controlling his blood pressure and of course having had one serious bleed in his brain another could happen at any time. Pretty bleak really. The latest plan is another CAT scan this morning followed by an attempt to remove the sedatives this afternoon and see how he reacts. If it goes really well he could possibly be moved to Sheffield specialist unit for an operation, but there doesn’t seem to be a lot of optimism around at the moment."


I do wonder, if he does come round, how will his mental faculties have been affected?

Ann, thank you for the update. I'm sorry that the news isn't good.

Please give my best wishes to your son and his family.

Sallie.

Sorry to hear this Ann, but hoping for the best however..... don't really know what to say that could be of any use.......just thinking of you and your family.....x sally

thank you Sallie and Sally, not a lot anyone can do or say really is there? We are not close to them, just met on a few occasions but my thoughts are for my DiL and Son and the children.

Sorry to read this news Ann. Will be thinking of your Daughter in Law, Son and their children.

Jenny x

Oh, Ann, I am sorry.... as you say, it is what the effects might be, as well, should he recover... but, I have my positive head on today..... I have beaten the odds, and I hope he will, too....

Take care,

Love

Daff xxxxx

So sorry to hear this latest news, Ann, our prayers and best wishes for you and your family....


Jean and J xx

thanks Jenny and daff. Think he might have more odds stacked against him though, as my daughter pointed out, at his age (think he is about 76) the operation would be very risky poor man.

Ann if you ever need any support you have lots of peeps on here who will give it

An you are one of the 1st on here to give support to others and we are here for you mate

I'm still going to be positive!! Stubborn wench, I am!! Your DiL will need them, anyway... she is going to be needed by her mum a lot over the next few days and weeks, while her dad recuperates.

(((((((((hugs))))))))

Love

Daff xxxxx

thank you for that Keith.

Hope it works this stubborn positive thinking then Daff. Thanks

Keep it up Ann

Hello Ann....sorry to read the he is'nt too good, but will send positive thoughts all the same.

Take care
jude xx

Prayers are with you God hears them.
Helen x

Hi Ann, sorry things don't look too good for your d.i.l.'s father - I hope he finds the strength to fight back and makes a good recovery if it is possible. Such a worry for all the family and sad to see someone you love go through all that.

Lizxx

As usual Liz, you have all the kind words I wish I could put down in situations like this.....

Just checking in this morning Ann, in the hope of better news ...... thinking of you all...

x sally

No more news so far.