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Oh,I am so pleased for you Frances.It has made such a difference to me too.

Thanks Sharron :)

Just a nudge, for the lucky ones of us that are NOT golden children.

And a big thank you to Sharron for starting this thread, bringing it out in the open, and for listening to me when I needed it most.

Gail

Hi all
Just read through all the posts. Will Look at the article when I have time.
I was lucky had good parents and grandparents( well on one side anyway) My mother and her mother were estranged. Mum walked out. The bravest thing I think she has ever done. She was always quiet, but said all the right htings and always backed me in anything I did. After I was married, she said to watch out for my mil, as she reminded her of her own mother. She told me all of what had happened, the longest I had heard her talk. Boy did we talk, it never stopped till she died.
Thing is she was right about my mil. But I was well armed for her.
They are all dead and buried now, but lessons learned and passed on to my children will, I hope let them deal with something of the same nature.
My family now have little or no contact with my oh family. Thats the way we like it.
Thanks for the thread.
I know you will keep it up

Hi Wee Annie.

I hope the thread is kept up as well. I managed to cope with a narcissistic mother until she passed away. Now trying to manage a brother who is the same way.

I am now well armed thanks to this thread, but they can still manage to inflict hurt.

Gail

I feel bullet proof now. my kids are great. we have the usual arguments, the same as any family but always make up. Insight is a wonderful thing.

You could never write it all down yourself could you.Nothing big to say,just several million little things that add up to a great deal of unnecessary misery and stress.

It should never have happened but it is good to be reassured that it was not all in your imagination.

Good luck to you Wee Annie, and to the rest of us who had to endure it unsupported.

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as someone wants the thread.

Thanks guys xx

Nudge for a new friend.

Gail

I read this........I understand now.
I sent it to one Sis & said just read it & tell me what you think........She say's it all makes sense now.
But my other Sis..cries so much she can't read it,she tries but it's too real.
Thank-you whoever found this-we will rebuild but at least we have some peace now.

this thread turned my life around.. i never knew there was a name for the way my mother treated me ... like someone said...so many little things...have destroyed my life , but since this thread i know i am not alone and i can put it all in a box in my head now and not dwell on it now...freedom after 60+ years....

Stella and Eeyore.
Good luck and peace to you. It is probably the most important thing I have ever read too and I am just so grateful to the person who wrote it.

Sharron

Thought it might come in handy.

OMG - cannot read it all but it is her - it is my mother and if I had a pound for each time she said 'you have a vivid imagination' I would have a very tidy sum. She also had a clear field as my dad was at sea most of the time. Her lies OMG her lies and she believed them. Have a friend for over 50 years who knew her well and friend was also a high-up mental health social worker and regularly tells me she is surprised that having had a mother like I had - that is a miracle I grew up normal!

Nudge for the people on Lindy's thread.

nudge cos I need to show it to my friend....

nudge to keep up the understanding of personality disorders

Sitting here stunned. So much I feel I want to say, but am physically shaken and near to tears - haven't even read the article yet. Will need the right time, probably when the house is empty.
what gets me is that I can feel like this when I thought I'd completely dealt with everything years ago - various mentors/doctors/counsellors, endless talks with close friends who knew, and with my darling aunt (offending mother's younger sister) and with my own sister - will have to work out if Ithink she's strong enough yet to read all this for herself.

Apologies, but B****y H**l! So many others in the same boat. We have no idea, do we? Thank you everyone, I know that this site is going to settle things for once and for all - peace at last.