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Why Worry?

There are only two things in life to worry about:

Whether you are well
or whether you are sick.

If you are well,
then there is nothing to worry about.

But if you are sick,
there are only two things to worry about:

Whether you are going to get well
or whether you are going to die.

If you get well,
then there is nothing to worry about.

But if you die,
there are only two things to worry about:

Whether you are going to go to heaven
or whether you are going to go to hell.

If you go to heaven,
then you have nothing to worry about.

But if you go to hell,
you'll be so busy shaking hands with all your friends,
that you won't have time to worry!

So, Why Worry?
Be Happy!


Hope this doesn't offend but raises a smile.

Lizxxx

In October my mums partner of 21 years died suddenly. My sister, daughter, and myself flew to Alberta to be with her.

We stayed with her for a few days then moved into a motel just behind her place when her partners daughter, sons and children flew in from BC. They stayed with Mum.

After the funeral there was a "wake" at mums. Of course we were the last ones to leave and headed to the motel (a 2 min walk). As my sister and myself were walking to the door of the motel, along the parking lot, she said "can you see that?"

I sure did!

The parking lot was lit by those huge orangeish lights that were at our back. Instead of 2 shadows there were 3. Myself, sis and ?

We just knew it was J walking us safely home. A gentleman in life and death.

Deb

Deb, that was lovely.

Lizx

Man weeps when he thinks he will die soon while a woman will weep because she was born so long ago.

Oh Liz, that was great...really made me smile:-) BC XX

Having seen a spiritualist that said Daddy was with her - and she repeated names and statements that I had asked him for previously..... that no one else could've known. I know there is life after death! What that life is I don't know, but I do know he's happy so that's all that matters!!

Bernie, I think everyone's had misfortune and bad luck in life. If our family and friends who have passed over COULD help, then they would. But if everyones deceased ones could intervene in their lives, we'd all be winning the lottery, all be living til age 250 etc. What will be will be Im afraid, and our lost ones dont have much of a say. After my grandad died I lost my home and had a miscarriage; that could easily have happened before he died. I sat on my sons bed and cried my eyes out, wishing my grandad was there. Slowly my life picked up and I got back on track, like I think you have now. Its upto us to do it though, I think we get a chance (or a kick start as I call it) and its upto us to grab it with both hands and work with it.

my brother died june 2007 and it made me think about this subject. i strongly belive that we all meet are loved ones that have past b4 us. i think that wen we pass over there is someone that is there to greet us as we go so that we are'nt scared. i also belive that we then go on 2 live with are loved ones at the age we were most happy'est of course we will recognise are family members as they are a part of us X

I hope there is a life after death, thats my pennys worth, believe and hope are two seperate words with different meanings.

In much the same way as I hope I win the lottery on saturday because then I believe a holiday will be on the way lol

What I do not like is when people are ridiculed for their beliefs, I have heard too many people recount apparitions etc for me to just put it all down to being in the mind or too much alcohol consumption.

A guy I work with whom I respect very much told me of one time he and his work colleague were working in a warehouse, they were stripping out some wiring etc, as his mate was up the ladder he recalled seeing a man with a helmet on as plain as day walk through an adjoining wall, the chap up the ladder that was being held by my colleague saw this too.

On their way out they mentioned to the security team what they had seen and the security guy just brushed it aside as a regular thing, its only jimmy he died here some years ago.

To the original poster, the impression I have is that immediate family who have passed before will meet you initially, then you will be introduced to the ancestors so you can put a face to those certificates lol.

Some lovely stories on here, and some sad, but no, I definitely do NOT believe in life after death in the sense that those who have added to this thread do.

It would be wonderful if there were such a thing, and the thought that it does brings comfort to many people, although it is my belief that these feelings and sightings are figments of imagination, though they feel very real.

In my view, there is nothing after death.

The only life after death is through the genetic material we have passed on to our children, and will, in turn, be passed on ad infinitum to our descendants.

There and only there lies our immortality.

Dee
x
(Bet that's another thread I've killed, lol)!

Hi everyone , i have just read some of the threads on this subject would just like to say , when my mum died a few day later i woke in the early hours to see my mum standing at the bottom of the bed smiling at me i tried to say something but couldnt hear myself talking.
Also a few months before she died i could sence that she was getting tired of living she had a heart attack but a few months before she had said to me i waited 27 years to be with your dad wont be too long now.
Hope you are all ok not been on here for sometime but i see a few old names
Margaret xxx

This is a great thread, everyone voicing their own opinions, to which we're entitled, without any insulting or hurt feelings.

Wonderful..

I,m not really sure,I hope so,all possibilities are open,But it is "Possible"with me, because after meeting some one I had,nt seen for a long time, his first remark was,"Blimey Mate I thought you were dead".So the possibility is there.**M**.:o)>

my dad had a dream on the night of his mothers funeral.he saw her and her sister who had died a few years earlier walking hand in hand in a beautiful garden.he then saw a glowing light and they both walked towards it holding out their hands.he then saw his other aunt who was there youngest sister walk from the light to take their hands.his mother turned and smiled at him and all three walked back to the light.the next day his sister came and told him that their aunt had died of a heart attack in the early hours,dad said i know i saw her mom came to meet her.its a personal opinion but i am sure there is a afterlife.

I had a dream last night - It prob was just a dream but thought I would add it on here anyway as it reminded me of this thread

Yesterday my Dad was told his cancer is progressing at an alarming rate and we knew back in Nov last year he had roughly 6 to 12 months left but it was still a shock yesterday to be told it is now taking hold fast................anyway last night .........................
I dreamt about my grandma ( my Dad's Mum ) I was on a bus that drove past her old house, I could see into the windows and their in her living room were pictures on the walls and on top of the TV of my children ( she died many years before they were born ) I got off the bus and ran back to the house to ask them why they had pictures of my son and daughter in the living room, when I got there my grandma was stood at the gate, she smiled at me and said " It's ok, don't worry, your children are lovely and I will be watching you"

I must have woke up at that point,

Maybe just a dream after all the stress with Dad, but worth mentioning on this thread

Of course it's a matter of personal belief, maybe a dream maybe not. It sounds lovely and maybe her way of saying she's watching over you at this stress full time..

When I was a young teenager I used to get the 'ghost ' of a cat come to visit me. If I was reading in bed I could see the imprints of the cats paws walking up the bed. You could see the cover moving as the cat circled round and round to go to sleep. Other times I could just feel the weight of it on my knee and feel the treading motion of its paws.

Anne

I definitely do believe there is something else after this life, I regularly go to a spiritualist church and have had so much proof, with loved ones coming through, and saying things which only I could know,(though not unfortunately with the information I need for my tree).

When the children were young I remember my son sitting on the chair, he was about three, singing Postman Pat, I was stood looking out of the window and he was about four or five yards behind me. I felt someones arms around my waist and laughed and told my son to leave me alone. When I turned around he was still sat on the chair.

I went to the church within the week and the medium told me what had happened, saying that the arms I felt around me were my grans, who had died a few months before. I also smelt her perfume around me a lot.

It is such a lovely thing to believe in OH is very sceptical about it and needs absolute definite proof for himself, but I am sure I would sooner believe that we will all be together again someday, rather than empty nothingness.

Has anyone read Doris Stokes books, very addictive and hard to put down.

Marilyn x

Marilyn, I love the Doris Stokes books and any similar ones too. I read Gordon Smith's book. He is on at Hunstanton when we might be staying near there, so I will be booking to see him altho I don't think o.h. will, he doesn't believe despite his father and step mother being involved with the local Spiritualist church.
Lizx

I certainly believe. Many things have happened over the years to convince me, but one particular thing comes to mind.

5 different people who attended my mother's funeral in 1992 describe the exact same thing. None of them knew each other from Adam, so I knew there hadn't been any conferring. One, an Aunty from Manchester, one a friend from Scotland, one a local friend, one who is a spiritualist medium and the last a friend from a town about 30 miles away.

My mum was walking up and down the aisle in the church looking at all the people, and she was amazed at the amount of people there (standing room only). She was pointing out to people and saying "Eeh I didn't expect her to be here" and "Eeh, I never thought I'd see him here". They all described the dress she was wearing, and say she went back to the coffin at the front of the church and adjusted a flower which had come loose in the wreath. Funnily enough I did see a flower move myself, but I didn't see my mum.

For 5 separate people to have witnessed the exact same thing says something to me.

Dianne xx

Sorry, I forgot the bit where she walked out of the church with the rest of us and stood in the crowd watching her coffin getting buried.