General Chat

I,me listening( in Frasier cranes voice)

My ex lost out on a lovely daughter growing up...& is now losing out on Grandchildren. So who was the loser.

Hi Carol, same with me, I met a great man....he counselled me, cried with me when I told him all the real bad stuff, helped me through it all.......he has helped to heal my pain. I am lucky!!

I will never forget what I went through with my ex......but I have learned to forgive....because growing old & bitter was never an option for me & was never a satisfaction I would give to my ex.

Lindy you did the right thing xxx

Carol you were always worth it xxx

Whirley you ramble all you want xxx

luv sue

yes Ann , cos no one whants to own up on gen gen board, or perhaps they have taken the No given , and acted

I will never forget the day I left.......aged 18..6mth baby in pram with a black bin liner with mine and the babies clothes....with a fiver to my name in my pocket......and my head held high.....and 2 stiches in my chin...

I felt ashamed......never felt proud of anything cos looking back, I was turned into this non confident person. I felt whatever I did was never enough or good enough, because when you get told it all the time, you believe it.

you see all the hurt that these people have caused to each and everyone of you, but look at you all talking careing about each other, you are much better then the ones you left behind...thats their problem let them get on with it( living with what they have done , missed out on etc) sorry now i am rambling

sorry hayley i got to laugh,, you head held high..... good on you girl!!
xxxxxxx

Thanks, Taff.
Whirley and Ladybird - Yes, it helps to talk about it, when you're ready.
Carol - I, totally, agree.

My lawyer said that I should divorce him now and if I changed my mind later I could re-marry him. But there has never been one single moment of one single day when I wanted him back. Life was tough with three little children (aged 2, 4 and 6) But it was a whole lot better than being beaten or verbally abused, whenever he chose!

I have never re-married because I have not found anyone I could love as much as I loved him! I am absolutely sure that he was the one who lost. He lost 3 lovely children, who have grown up to be terrific adults. He lost all the memories of when the children were growing up. What have I lost? Nothing! I have regained my confidence and I am able to live my life the way that pleases me. Selfish? No, because my children, now 28, 25 and 23 always come first, all the time.

taff you know where i am going now, hush hush out the back lol
ann

Whirls...we moved on...{{{Squishy Hug}}}

Hayley, you did the right thing for you, more importantly for your baby.......

they wanted to see my "marks" so I told them "shave my head and then you will see them"

sorry not being rude out the back for a cig
ann

Oh, Lindy , you have hit thenail on the head there! my ex has lost his 3 kids and me , and no-one wants him now!!

Ladybird - You reminded me - my brother (before he gave up cigs) used to say that a cup of coffee and a cig does less harm than a Valium!!!

I still do not know how I got from Wandsworth...just found myself sitting at a bus stop in Hastings...1 suitcase,1 pushchair & holding tightly to my toddler.

got to get refill..... tobacco
brb
xxxxxxxxxx

hayley ...i rented a flat , me Mum an Dad helped with the deposit . That first day after I moved in and shut MY door was the new begining . It was damp scanky , but it was mine an my 3 year old sons . I fitted a plug on the kettle all on my own ... we stood back and IT WORKED !!!.
XXXX Kim x.