Genealogy Chat

hi all. hope everyones searches continue to progress well and that when you get to the end of what sometimes feels like a gravevine, that there is fruit. Many of you know that I succeded in tracing my last found half brother and spoke for an hour to his wife (she rang me).Desspite the promises she made to me, he has never rung me himself. Get the feeling that despite my having instigated the contact that there was far more 'take' than 'gain' and that the chances of him ringing now are about Nil. Have come to terms with that- not many other choices really. Doesn't make me not want to hear about other peoples triumphs though. Good for you all. jess x

can't be that far back.. 'Adoptees' are ''Vee eye Peas''!

Jess, Chris, I've put a thread on tips board called 'quandary' and Dea has kindly suggested that maybe you two could offer advice. It's not strictly adoption relation, and don't worry if you can't offer any further advice - I think Dea was just trying to maybe get me some experienced peeps suggestions. Regards, Emma

Hi Julia, Sorry I haven't been 100% will have a look and mail you tomorrow, take care till then. Sheila

brought back to top for Christine Jess

Can any of you good people give me some advice on the laws of adoption. My mother was adopted (i think ) by her natural father and his wife, who he brought down from Scotland to Liverpool. my birth grandmother was 16 and as far as i can gather my g/father was around 50. I am waiting on BCs for my mother to see if adoption was legal. I cannot find anything yet on g/mother as i don't know much about her. Could my g/father just take the baby in them days 1923or were they laws to be followed? MOE

I know liz, my mother died in 1974 and my g/mother turned up at the service everyone thought she was my mothers twin sister and us kids knew her as Auntie lily. my mum never treated her as her mother even though her own dad and adopted mum had been dead about 20 years.

Nudge for David, be back soon. Sheila

Mo. if he was her father and for what ever reason her mother didn't want her, then yes, i guess he could. So there was a 34 year age difference between her dad and her step-mother?

No Jess, the age gap was between my natural g/mother who was 16 and my natural g/father who was around 50. He was a married man from Glasgow working on a ship that was brought to Liverpool to be finished and somewhwere met my g/mother and when she had the baby he brought his wife down to liverpool because she could not have kids. they then ended up with the baby, does this make sense? I think his wife was around his age. Moe.

nudge for Paul

Mo, sorry Yes, makes far more sense! Jess

Hi all. just wanted to keep you up to date, thanks to Joan and Sheila, and any one else who has helped me i have found my cousin and her daughter. i have been in contact with my second cousin ,i had a lovely email welcoming me to the family, (they were shocked to hear about me) and she asked me to send a letter to her mum my cousin, giving them as much info as poss. the letter took 4 hours to write! I sent copies of my birth certificate showing i was adopted and my birth mothers birth certificate, i shed lots of tears, and rewrote it hundreds of times. My cousin received it today, and out of the blue she phoned me at work, more tears on both our parts. she told me she knows where my birth mother (her auntie) and my full blood brother are. she is going to approach my birth mother for me, and show her the letter and certificates. I could not talk any more as at work, but i am phoning her tonight at 7.00. God this is all to much i am all over the place. my cousin said she will not get hold of b/m straight away as she has to think what to say, because she never knew about me. she said that even if the worst happens and b/m doesnt want to know, she will keep in touch with me. i will let you know what happens, and to all those who have not found any relatives, i was going to give up, so hang on in there! Julia XX

Can anyone help! i have finally found my mothers birth details (they were hand written on the bottom of the page, so i kept missing them as i scrolled through)My mother is registered under her unmarried mothers name (again i got confused looking under fathers name) and next to my mothers name there is no volume or page number it just says either..........See d26 or seed26 What does this mean? For details of my family history see page 16 of this adoption thread. thanks MOE!

haven't got a clue Mo, sorry. sadly Lou isn't able to be with us at the moment due to personal circumstances otherwise she might have known. hopefully she'll be back soon and may be able to help. jess

Nothing to do with the previous postings on this thread, but I thought it was interesting: A Gallup Poll taken in 1954 asked the question: Do you approve/disapprove/strongly disapprove/don't have an opinion of Unmarried Mothers. The result was that 98% strongly disapproved of Unmarried Mothers. The same Gallup Poll question was asked in 2004 and the results were: 2% of the population strongly disapproved of Unmarried Mothers. A complete and utter turnaround of opinion in 50 years. Marjorie

Bumped for Susan Stokie - a bit of reading for you!! Jess

Hi Everyone This is a very big THANKYOU to all those who have helped and supported me in the search for my father. Some of you know I found him and that he wouldn't speak to me the night I rang. Last Thursday I posted a letter, giving a brief resume of my life....and last night I got the telephone call I have been waiting for. He introduced himself as my Dad...we chatted for an hour and have arranged to meet in a little under three weeks. I would encourage anyone searching.... to never give up. I have been searching for twenty years...and I was told six months ago that he had died. He is 79, I'm 36...and we have so much to catch up on! It has been a bumpy rollercoaster of emotions...but definitely worth it despite every tear shed. No doubt there will be more of those when we meet. Thankyou again. Suzanne***

HAD TO AMEND THIS...DIDN'T REALISE MY FRIEND WAS STILL LOGGED ON) So this is from the real me!!! lolol Hi Everyone This is a very big THANKYOU to all those who have helped and supported me in the search for my father. Some of you know I found him and that he wouldn't speak to me the night I rang. Last Thursday I posted a letter, giving a brief resume of my life....and last night I got the telephone call I have been waiting for. He introduced himself as my Dad...we chatted for an hour and have arranged to meet in a little under three weeks. I would encourage anyone searching.... to never give up. I have been searching for twenty years...and I was told six months ago that he had died. He is 79, I'm 36...and we have so much to catch up on! It has been a bumpy rollercoaster of emotions...but definitely worth it despite every tear shed. No doubt there will be more of those when we meet. Thankyou again. Suzanne***

Thanks to everyone expecially wendy and joan who replied to my quest to find out what SeeD 26 meant. (see page 16 of this thread for info. I found my mothers birth/adoption registration. It meant see dec 1926 (just to help anyone else)My mother was adopted 4 years after her birth. grateful always MOE!