Find Living Relatives

hi, I am searching for living relatives of the above named people, i was adopted at birth and have tried for many years to access any information about my birth parents without any success. This is probably not the forum I would to choose to use but I have come up against a blank wall and this is my last hope.

If anyone could help me with further information I would be very gratefujl

Regards

Susan

Where and when were they born?

Rose

Britain or Ireland?
Thanks

Added:
Think relates to this post:
http://www.genesreunited.co.uk/boards/board/living_relatives/thread/1312411

Information copied over:
I am searching for a jack todd who was in or previously in the merchant navy in 1957
He would have had links to south east london around this time. I believe this gentleman was a close relative of mine but cannot research any more searches until I know this is the Jack Todd that I am looking for. Any help anyone can help me on this matter would be greatly appreciated

I'm assuming, Susan, that you were born in S E London in 1957/8..............

Are both of these people named on your birth cert?

The man was probably 'known' as Jack............unlikely that it would be his registered name

I cannot see a birth, marriage or death for Joan in the London area.
Any further information other than the names and south east London?

Joan O malley was born in Dublin in 1920 not sure of Jack Todds birth year or place but think it was around the 1914 time

Regards

Sue

I was born in Lambeth in 1957 Jack Todd was not named on my birth certificate I found out this information from adoption agency records, his occupation was listed as merchant seaman ?

Susan,

I am not sure how familiar you are with this site. It is not helpful to continue to add new threads with the same information requests.

This really confuses your helpers who are working for you. I sense an urgency, but all good things take time.

Sappho

Sorry new to this I do not understand how this really works. I have a detective posting next to 2 of my postings and I do not know what this means. Any help would be appreciated.

Thanks

Sue

That's just my board name, to disguise my real one. It's based on my initials of DET :-D

What I was trying to point out is that you have posted 3 (or is it 4?) threads about the same person. 2 x "jack todd or joan omalley" and 2 x "jack todd".

Stick to one thread (this one) and delete the others. Although it looks as if you probably had internet or computer problems last night shown by the timings, there is no point in duplicating the same request. The same people read them, but may not realise that it is a duplicate, and end up repeating the same research/advice.

You've already had one of the "jack todd or joan omalley" threads Reported for duplication, not be me I might add.

It is confusing for new users of the boards, but all we are doing is trying to help you get the most out of them ;-)

Sorry new to this site, and not great at technology either.

Thanks for all your help

Regards

What other info. is on your adoption records that could be useful to us?

Rose

Hi,

My birth mother was married to a Mr O Malley but had an affair with Jack Todd which was the reason I was adopted, unfortunately , I did manage to contact rest of the family but did not do this for a long time because of loyalty to my adopted parents and when I contacted Joan O Malleys family I discovered to my dismay that she had died a couple of months earlier, they were obviously not happy with my sudden appearance. Although I did manage to speak briefly to one of her daughters who confirmed that her Mother and Jack Todd had been together for a brief time. Therefore the person I am really searching for is Jack Todd and I have even searched merchant seaman records around that time , I am reluctant to contact my birth mothers relatives as I do not wish to intrude or cause upset but I am just trying to track down Jack or John Todd, I have found a person I think could be him, but I am having the same problem they gave me some info but stopped as soon as I rev ealed who I was. This is very difficult for me to continue to search because the last thing I want to do is upset anyone, just find a need to find out about my origins, history, medical conditions etc.

I have used this message board as a last hope as I feel if I do not get anywhere I will have to just let things be.

Thanks again for all your help


Sue

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Which merchant seaman records have you searched? You can order them from Southampton Archives but have to specify an exact name, I believe.

Or you can search, for example, all the men named Todd who were in the Merchant Navy at that time, at the National Archives, as you're not sure of christian name.

Did Joan and Jack ever live together? If you have an address for Joan from when you were born, you could look at old electoral rolls to get "Jack"s" correct name.

Rose

Ive searched merchant seaman records on findmypast there is a jack todd who was born ikn 1914 and I know he was around the age of 40 when I was born but all the leads I have followed lead to a Jack Todd who was born and died in Canterbury so cannot see where the London link comes in., I have no way of knowing whether they lived together except for the brief conversation I had with Joans daughter who said that they remained friends, it was also interesting to find out that my birth mother remarried (that is what I was told) but can find no record of that marriage and had a child whom she gave exactly the same christian name and second name as me 3 years later. I do not believe she was married to Jack Todd either as I can find no records to support this although the daugher told me she had married him. Its all a bit of a mystery !!

Thanks for info on old electoral roles would you know how I gain access to these.

Thanks again for all your help

Regards


Susan

signing on for tonight, thanks for all your help so far.

Regards


sue

So she was actually born Joan Nathan?

Rose

Hello again Susan,

When you come back on to this site you will see the helpers. Just to explain a little more about the names of the helpers. Most are pseudonyms - a nom de plume (pen name).

I hope you do not mind but to help you we need you to helps us and it is important to read the Community Boards - General Boards. Keep to the right side in the first instance and go through the Summary List. This gives you advice on the site and what site is best for your query. It is the advice that is important.

As you have found adoption is a delicate subject and to gain information needs careful treading, anything you put on here can be Googled and read by anyone using the internet. It can work for you and against you so care is needed.

Having read the site information you can proceed with caution.

Now to your thread: If you have adoption papers. The most important thing is to take your time to read what is there and then take from it as much information that will give direction to your helpers on this site.

I have noted three threads. Because you have answered some of the queries on other sites, may I suggest that you condense the information and set it out on one thread, then delete the others.

For example: Keeping the same headings you could proceed with " I was born in Lambeth, London in 1957 the daughter of......... and then adopted. etc. I am sure you get the picture. It will then clarify what you have and what will help the helpers to follow on.

Please note this is advice only and you do not have to action it.

Good luck,

Sappho

Not sure what you are suggesting Sappho?

The other two threads have been reported so Susan cannot delete them, but GR probably will in the morning

Everything that is needed is on this thread...no need to condense the infomation at all