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Wonderful idea a soap or a book. . . Butterfly nets come to mind . . . as a child, my mother was always threatening me that someone with a big butterfly net would come for me if I didn't settle down!!!
I'm trying Mum, really I'm trying, but now instead of just quoting you, I am seeing your face in the mirror each morning!!!!
Night all,
maxiMary XXX

Hi Gail, hi Mary, me too, Mum looking back at me from the mirror lol

The counselling was good today, more tears obviously, but sort of healing ones in a way. I can't see her next week as she has too many appointments but will be going the following Weds and there after.
I came out and made some phone calls, and then popped round to see another woman I know with the hoarding problem. She is lovely and had a friend helping her sort out some paperwork but she is the kind of person who can't stop talking, and all a bit wearing as it is he said and she said from a hundred years ago almost lol But was good to see her again, she used to go to a support group with me and others, but some of the people were sharp with her because she sometimes took up most of the meetings with her tales.
Mary, I gave her friend the Flylady address to look at on her computer so she could tell A. about the ideas for help. Her doctor has told her he cannot refer her for any more help and has more or less wiped his hands of her, I think it is dreadful but she is not a fighter so will probably not try to go elsewhere for help.
Feeling positive about the counselling altho it is early days yet.
Thanks for your concern those who asked, and those who didn't, blow you lol Only kidding, honest.
Positive thoughts to all of you posting on here and yes the soap/book sounds a great idea. Many of my pals years ago said I should write a book and the counsellor today said I had followed an incredible path and shown myself to be very strong. She seemed surprised that I had bought a house on my own in my early thirties and about other things I had done too. She also professed to be shocked that I am 60, said she thought I looked 20 yrs younger! I think the sun was in her eyes through the window tho lol
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Liz That is a great result for yesterday, it does bring a lot of tears at the beginning, but as you say they are healing ones. You will start to sort your thinking out, I had a terrible time, was so confused, and blamed myself for everything, you will realise what is important and what is not. I've mentioned before on not dwelling on what I can't do, but to be pleased at the things I can, although they are getting less as time goes on. Go for it girl.

Gail, thanks for that info, I had no idea what to expect, I thought maybe they would change my tablets to something stronger. My doctor rung Marie Curie centre and they told him that I had had no pain control because they thought my depression was so bad it was more important. Because of that the appointment shouldn't be too long coming through now.
Morning Mary, or whatever time it is there, is it still snowing? We haven't had much at all here this year, and spring is on it's way, saying that we can have some bad weather when all the little birds and flowers have begun to think it's spring.

Joyce if you think you are going to put me up for the clown you can think again,lol, although I am pretty good at tumbles.
Ann that is pretty good, I like it Tablets of Gold, even the description is perfect for us lot.

Caz xxx

It's a big help isn't it, this thread, we all tend to think we are on our own and no-one understands, I thought I was going mad at one point but another lady said the same thing on here.
My pain management will be with a specialist nurse and a doctor I've been told, it was last time but that turned out different as you know. I wouldn't be able to cope with a group of people anyway, I panic in crowds.
I have just sat down from having some toast, then I'm back up again for my chemo in ten minutes, the timings of all my tabs is getting me puddled, and they all have to be taken with something to eat, apart from chemo which is exactly half an hour after. I will look like Billy Bunter at this rate.

Caz xxx

hi everyone well done on your appiontment's the hardest part is starting it will get easyer the more you go. it's a blue day today would have been mum's 86th birthday god bless her little cotton sock's. hugs to all

mmm lost mum 13 months ago sisters have gone to visit grave but i'am not well enough to drive 300km on my own get to tired not worth the risk after easter might be able to shut the shop for a few days and go visit family that would be nice. just as nice to know you are all there! any way ? for today is 44 to old to have a baby have started a new thead have your say love to all irene

Morning Irene, I've been wandering round threads reading and catching up with the war years, very interesting. I lost my mum in 2000 and it still hurts, miss her every day, my dad in '77, I talk to them in my head and it helps, I know they are still around when I need them, does it sound daft?.
My auntie had my cousin when she was 42/3 and had the energy of a young un.

Caz xx

Good morning everyone have a good day
Love Rachxx

Good morning again ladies and gentlemen......

I know I posted earlier about us producing a soap opera but the idea certainly didn't include any scenes from 'Women behaving badly'...and all the cast being preggie ( cannot include you men folk into this discussion).lol

Joking apart, given the chance I would have given birth to around a dozen but nature decided otherwise. had to have 'that' operation when I was 33...

Hi Gail, thanks for that nomination....

thanks also MaxiMary for your input.. reckon your suggested title of 'butterfly nets' would be very appropriate because we are all butterflies at the moment and need gentle treatment.

Liz, well looking at you right now I would say you were in your early 30's........

Happy birthday to your mom Irene... mine passed away when I was only 26...

Caz, what can I say about you...are you bluntly refusing to be my top clown, was relying on you lass...hope your wee birdie has been behaving himself and just let him know I have no need of his services... 'mouse' has decided to settle down and behave itself...no need to reply to my last pm because you are one busy lady......

Breakfast time now folks....

Have a great day and take care



JoycePxxxxxxxxxxx

Have a good day folks...off to work now.

Love n hugs :o)xxx

oooooh Joyce, do you really see me as a clown, I was hoping for a more ladylike part, come to think of it I suppose I am the perfect one for that part, got tumbles off to perfection, and I have also got walking like a drunkard off to a tee, no practice needed.
aw go on then, as long as I don't have to wear silly make up.

Aye, my birdie is still up to mischief, the other day I prepared the sprouts for tea, left the peelings on paper while I had a rest, came back and he had only put a lot of the peeling into the pan. Seen me doing it and thought he would help, left me to sort them all out though.lol He's lovely.

Morning Rach, how are you today? nice to see you still joining us.

Caz xx

Hi dave how have you been? I'd like a man's point of view on this is 44 to old to become a mother ? of the day (don't panic I have a father lined up LOL!) hug's from irene

I actually slept in til 830 this morning, felt absolutely drugged when I woke up, had been having a dream, believe it or not, about my first boyfriend, with whom I'm still in contact by email, 59 years later (we were both 5 and reprimanded by the teacher for having a "cuggle" under the stairs at school).
The sun is trying to come out, it's so cold yet, minus 16 overnight and todays high is supposed to be minus 10. I thought I saw snowflakes a few minutes ago but it was the sun reflecting on the huge spiderweb outside the kitchen window!! Somebody needs to clean the outside of the windows here!! Please don't let that 'somebody' be me!!

Thinking back to one counselling time,with a psychiatrist, I now realise I never did tell him the whole story, I was so upset that I couldn't even get the words out, beat around the bush, never did tell him what had really triggered the meltdown. He did determine a lot of things which were absolutely true, but the key issue was never discussed, I was upset, mortified that such a thing could happen (one of my children had the unthinkable done to them by their then-stepfather) guilty that i hadn't protected as I should etc etc. I managed to recover somewhat, and learned to cope but would probably have achieved it much sooner had I been totally honest with the Dr.
This is leading up to my suggestion that if you are currently in counselling or waiting for it, be brutally honest, they can't read your mind, I know it's hard, but withholding info just lengthens the process and I believe makes it less effective.
To all who are on this part of the journey I say bless you, you are doing something for yourself - allowing you to find and love yourself again.
{{{{{hugs}}}}}
maxiMary

hi everyone how you all doing ,well im of to docs in a min so wont be on to long ive not been to good this week ,so im of to see what he says especialy after my hospital visit on saturday ,so hope fully i will be on later and catch up with you all hope you all having a good day regards elaine

Hi All, I am on my way to hospital now, if I am not here tomorrow they have kept me in. I had to ring to report any side effects and I can't walk for sore feet, they say it's serious so have to be checked. Please can I have some positive thoughts that I will be home today.

Caz xx

Colleen/Mary - how very brave of you to tell your story on these boards - I can relate to what your saying as my son was also abused whilst in the army cadets - found out only very recently - after twenty-five years - how bad it was, but God bless him he's coped. Still is totally homophobic and I can't say I blame him one little bit. As you say, essential to come clean about everything during counselling or you won't get the help you really need to deal with whatever is bothering you.

Love and hugs, Ann XXX

Thinking of you Caz...hope all goes ok. Let us know when you're back.

Twinkle...Hope all went ok for you today too.

Hugs xxxx

I miss you all every morning. I'm usually too late getting on here.

Thank you Caz for suggesting a change in tablets causing the nausea, but I'm not on any new ones.

And Carole, there may be something in what you say. nerves do funny things to us don't they?

My son wants me to go to the doctor... he has just had a dreadful chest infection which started off with.... nausea!
Then he got a cough, and has been on antibiotics now for two weeks.
SO... he thinks I may be next. As my husband says to us all the time.... *I'll be fine*.

Now how about this for a good day??
I have cleared out my wardrobe, and bagged some stuff to give away.

Not an easy job let me tell you.
I had to sit down and have a drink of water, then just sit down......... ;-0(
But I've done it. And I am so proud of me...

I only hope that you all feel this good today.

Deanna X

Today is my birthday, I feel so stressed! Oh started to emulsion living room walls. Son at work, daughter went out. The house is in a terrible mess! Oh just gone to get a take away before second coat! We were going to go out, but I feel too stressed! Oh is cross, cos he wanted to go out. But I don't do crowds and noise well, so I want to stay home now.
I feel like crying :o( x

Just pm'd you Carole. I am sorry your day isn't perhaps as you would have liked but hope your o.h. brings you a nice takeaway and your son and daughter come in to cheer you too. Wishing you a Happier Birthday from now on hon.
(((hugs)))
Lizxxxxxxx