General Chat

David I know your comment was not meant to be abrasive, nor was it interpreted as such. Please don't apologise.

How many times I've heard my mother's voice, telling me to get moving, to do something right or it's not worth doing, to finish something because it's no good half-done (even though I could finish it tomorrow). Inadvertently a lot of sayings have been ingrained in our memory bank, in my case by a well-meaning mother who wanted her daughter to be strong and independent.

Mary

David, I am so sorry if I hurt you.
I know it was my comments which caused you to be feel bad.... but I was not being personal.
I'm very sorry... I am not an offencive person, so please don't think I am.

Everyone else.... Doctor phoned Allan today and gave him antibiotics which Tony had to go and collect.
The X-Rays came back showing an infection... well *Waddyah Know*?.... He has never ever given Allan pills as strong as these so he must have Been bad. Not that we needed any proof.
He has had a hell of a week poor man.
After almost killing my son, you would think he would be a little more careful with my husband!
See you all in the morning.

Mary... Allan is going to make that cake when he is well again.
He knows about Canadian flour so he will manage to find what he needs here.
Love to all I have not mentioned, but I always think of you all.
Deanna XXX

How lovely you all are, always finding something amusing amidst your problems, when you can.
I am about to start on my phone calls, so watch out folks, it could be YOU! lol

love
Lizxxx

Eileen

I was touched by your storey and your brave daughter .

Many years ago in a time I was able to travel I met a mum with her son who was in a wheelchair .They were both lovely people and I was touched by her love for him .She never smothered him or molly coddled him allowed him to have a few drams and watched while he danced in his wheel chair. She had the most radiant face I have seen in an older woman .Sadly he died a few years later and when I next saw her her face was still the same .When I spoke to her yes she was sad but she said it had been such a privalidge to have had such a wonderful son and knowing he had gone to a better place and that his body was now whole gave her peace .
I think your daughter is a special person just like him and you ( although worried ) are very proud of her and so you should be .

love
Kathy xxx

Kathy thats a lovely story too. My second cousin had a disabled son. He did very well and got a degree. He died in his early thirties. But my cousin though sad and misses him belives in God so strong that she knows he is in a better place now.

Gill how did you sleep? I lay in bed thinking of all on here, and making little histories for them. Short biographies. Don't know if thats why I fell asleep!! :o)
Just kidding you all xxx

Gail I'll do your thing later when I have more time. Just popped on here as I get ready for work again .xx

Have a good day see you later xx

morning everyone just to let you all no with all my rambling last week i got confused its this friday hubby hat to go into hospital the 3 rd hospital car is picking him up at 7 30 in the morning and im going to follow on to hospital about 9 i wish it was last week then it would all be over but as it gets nearer im becoming more shakey roll on the week end hugs to all and thanx for all your kind whishes xxelaine xx

Kathy, thank you for sharing your story of that mother with a handicapped son.It is very touching.

It is heart-breaking to just stand by and do nothing.Loving them to bits doesn't seem enough.

Eileen xx

Thank you Carole and Deanna and all for your understanding and sharing.

It is very much appreciated

x

Carole, I would love anything you can send, my confidence is rock bottom.

Tomorrow we are going shopping for plants to replace some that were knocked over with frost and are gone. Have terrible hay fever just now, but it is my own fault, as stick my nose in anything that is blooming. Would love some rain though. Very dry spring again.

Last year we grew some flowering peaches from seed. They came of a larger weeping peach tree I have growing. They have a very vibrant pink flower and plum coloured foliage. So pretty, we planted 6 near the front veranda and as they are weepers I am trying to train them up tomato stakes. I hope it works. Also vege patch this year. Just hope the water lasts.

Eileen, your story touched me as well, made me understand a bit why my husband puts up with me. My problem is not life threatening, but I also want to do everything myself. Sometimes I learn very hard lessons by doing this. Falling off ladders, and lawn mowers for example. I will keep trying and doing things but am a bit more careful and wait now until OH is home before being too daring. I do know how hard it is to step back and watch, but it is so important to try and keep what mobility you do have, sometimes the limits get very stretched, but it feels good to be able to try.

Best wishes for today Elaine. Liz I hope you are feeling better.

Gail

This is not depression or anxiety it is a very big B***ER!!!!!

Yesterday I negotiated withwhat turned out to be quite a nasty shopkeeper to buy ten pounds of tomatoes at a discount because they were only just about saleable and he would have had to throw them away today.He had about anouther stone thay were the same but made a big deal of putting them carefully on the display.I don't know why.

Today I have carefully simmered and sieved and seasoned and there was a lovely pan of ketchup in the making.

Dad was in the kitchen,in the wheelchair,washing up and poking about taking labels off jars.It takes a very long time.

I nodded off on the sofa and the bl**dy ketchup caught on the bottom of the pan.

The positive bit is,I'm handling it.I must be going the right way.

Hi

Yes I am glad that I solved the family mystery.

Ann I first knew was that Mary Ann Walder had moved to London from Sussex and married Thomas Roberts within 7 months of giving birth to my gggran. Thomas claimed fatherhood in the baptism just after they married. When I found that he was also living in Sussex in 1861, the same county as Mary Ann, I knew that he had to have been the father of my gggran. They had moved to London together in early 1864.

When I found out that his wife had died just 6 weeks before the birth it suddenly occurred to me why the baby was illegitimate, it was because the dad was only just widowed, and that his wife was ill for a while with TB before she died. Everything just fell into place then and their sudden move to London after the birth explained it. His job was also a clue which was a servant.

Ben

hello everyone

Just sneaked on for a minute, thought I might try posting on gen instead of chat but after 1 posting my follower is posting on gen tonight now.

Take care all

Gill

Gail, thank you for your comforting words.
My daughter tries to do too much, which results in what is called a 'crisis' in France, meaning she is bed-bound for several days.
Her husband doesn't stop her from doing things, but he does sort of look out of the corner of his eye to see what's what. I have had to learn to keep my mouth shut, just let her get on with things.She is always saying how important it is to keep the little mobility she has too.
Last week, the weather was so lovely where they live, she and hubby had a stroll on the nearest beach.I say 'stroll', it was only a short one,then they sat on the sand and watched their gorgeous old slob of a dog go mad with himself.

Am off to Amsterdam tomorrow morning, may be able to pop in beforehand. If not, I hope you all have a good night's sleep, as pain-free as possible.

Eileen xx

Good night everyone and yet again I have not been able to stay and chat.
I really wanted to today too.
Had a hair cut, looked like a witch so it was overdue.
Tony came down and had a go on my computer.. so I could not go on it. I don't mind, he loves to spend time here and I am just so happy that he is here after all he went through.
Then I sort of followed the day the way it took me!!
SO... Good night and I am promising myself that I will come on and chat.... before I even get dressed tomorrow morning!! WE'LL SEE! ;-0)

Best to all of you , and sleep well.
Lots of love ,
Deanna XXX

Welcome to the thread Svetlana.

I hope we can help you get back control of your life! Stay away from Amsterdam, and lock up the cupboard with all those black lace outfits in. Throw away the key. Make tomorrows trip there your last as Svetlana!! xxxx

Gill we love you xxx

You cheeky minx Carole.I don't want the whole board knowing what I do for a living, when I go up to Amsterdam...lol So, I had you all fooled into thinking I was going to help my daughter!

On a serious note, I am going to help out, and, have a look at an English shop whilst there, to see if I can get any OXO granules for Joyce (don't really think I will succeed), and go to a wholesalers with another daughter-the one who drove her car into a ditch, to see if I can find large sheets of ready-made pastry.You can only find the small sheets of puff p. everywhere.

Despite having a lot of discomfort and quite some pain due to another infection in the waterworks, I feel a lot more cheerful. Must be the kind thoughts from you all....what else? Am dreading the long train & tram journeys, need to be near a loo all the time, not always possible, is it?

Good night all.

Eileen xx

I have been reading and being lazy and not posting, had a lot to do with washing ironing etc after the holiday plus all the paperwork that mounts up in 4 weeks so feel a bit too tired to type much. have to say though Eileen, I have a lovely picture in my head of your daughter and hubby sitting on the sand in the sun. I am sure that those few minutes did her the world of good and she will have appreciated the time so much. It is the little things that mean so much isn't it? Hope your trip to Amsterdam goes OK.

Ann
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Hi all

Rach has a posting on general about spiritual healing which I have added to .

I have felt really bad the past few years as I am a registered healer and for more years than I care to remember have worked at our local healing centre .I don't get paid and would never want to .Trouble is the past few years I have not felt up to it for my own problems !!!

I feel guilty because I think god gave me a gift and I also have regulars who keep asking when I am coming back .

I am qualified in swedish massage .aromatherapy ,reflexology and I studied 3 years shiatsu but I don't do any of them .What is wrong with me ??? I think it is called healer heal thy self ( easier said than done ! )
Forgot to mention I am also a dog beautician but gave that up as they have teeth !!!

Sorry for going on it's just seeing Rach post me feel yet again I should be trying to help others not wallowing in my own mess .

Kathy xxx

Oh Eileen I thought you had gone to Amsterdam!! lol

Third counselling session tomorrow, for me. Haven't even looked at my folder of stuff they gave me. A week goes by so fast.

My car is poorly and is going to cost getting on for four hundred to fix! I am having oh's car tomorrow and he is having sons car. Son is day off.

have a good nights sleep xxx