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hi everyone a big thank you for all your kind wishes ,well ,its been a horrible week ive only just got back from stoke hospital and feel so guilty to leave hubby there , well here goes a update he was took down to theatre last week on thursday morning a four hour opp turned into a 6 1/2 hours then into icu were he remaind unconcious and on a ventilator for 5 days as he wasnt responding to any thing when they to him of sadation was a frightning sight i tell you then becauce he wasnt responding they took him for a ct scan on sunday dinner time to see if he had had a stroke or a bleed into brain i was at my worst that day i tell you ,but got all clear on ct so surgion said it was just the anestitic taking longer to come out of his system ,last night he finaly woke up a little so now he in hdu ward he is talking a little ,i didnt want to come home and leave him there on his own i feel so guilty but i no i hato have a breather from the hospital as ive been there since last week me an daughter sat buy his side every day xxelaine xxam so tired

Hi Elaine, well hope you got some rest and can keep getting a breather during your trips to the hospital. I hope your hubby makes a great recovery now he has got the anaesthetic out of his system, so that you will be less worried.
Carole, and Mary, thanks for your lovely thoughts, I don't quite know how to get out of this feeling but I expect it will pass, been this road before. All quietish on the home front at the mo, I spent most of the afternoon on the sunlounger outside as such a lovely day, kept waking myself up with a snort lol.
Watered all the pots and tubs later and then got a meal, o.h. was tired so went to bed before 10pm, he is on early shift and hates being in a hot factory in this weather. My friend from Germany phoned as he went up, so I was able to have a natter with her, she has fm diagnosed last year, altho 12 yrs younger than me and now she has r.a. as well as o.a. so not happy, but in Germany she gets offered lots of drugs to help her illness, not like here where they don't seem to care what or if they give you anything.
I have known her for nearly 40 yrs so we are good pals, altho we don't see each other often cos she has lived abroad a lot.
I didn't get to London to see Ros as I couldn't face travelling in the heat, and coping with London when it was hot, Ros said it was roasting when she got there on Monday. I do feel I let her down tho.
My cousin is pressurising me to say when I will visit her for a week or so, she doesn't understand how tired I get and when I go she thinks she can just tell me to change my ways and it will happen, ie. I can sleep when she sleeps and get up when she does, she is a lark and I am an owl so it is difficult, also she doesn't realise that the drive there tires me and with the fm and cfs, it takes me a day to recover.
I don't have the money for the petrol at the mo either, as she doesn't drive, never has, and expects me to take her here there and everywhere when I visit, which I don't mind if I feel ok and can get the petrol. I like to pay her towards the food etc too so have to wait till I can afford to go - wish she would understand.
Catch you all tomorrow maybe, thanks for support and sending love to all.
Lizxx

just poped in to say im realy on a downer its all caught up with me i think and i just want him home and wana be with him not at home alone had lots of tears today im leaving in a min to go see him a houirs drive away im getting better at traveling though so thats ok ,here we go again tears rolling catch you all later when i get back hugs to all elaine x

Sending hugs Elaine, talk to us while travelling, we're with you.
Love
Mary

Oh dear,
I feel guilty now that I have missed a couple of days. been really busy making birthday cards (have 12 birthdays in July including four family ones.) nearly finished them now, made one for granddaughter today with a beautiful pink and silver fairy on it. Her favourite colour is pink.

while on the subject of children i saw a lovely tee shirt for a toddler when in town today. It said "I recycle my tantrums" I thought it was a very true statement!

I am sorry so many of you seem to be down. I wonder if yesterdays sun acted a little bit like a pick me up for you. The summer has been so disappointing, as usual, so far. i don't know why our expectations are always high because we rarely have a good summer. I am just hoping we don't have a repeat of last July's floods.

Deanna, do you think you maybe did too much when you felt so well, or did you not feel well because you slept so long and deeply? this happens to me if I sleep deeply and have trouble waking. Hope you soon feel on top form again.

Liz, wish I could do something for you to make your life better. so sorry you were unable to met Ros, she will have been disappointed as well. Never mind, another time maybe.

Elaine, thinking of you and hubby, I hope you found him more alert when you visited today. you do need to get away from the hospital to rest and you can be assured that he is in the best hands when you are not there. you have been so stressed and you are so tired that it is natural that you should be tearful. come on here and talk to us when you are on your own at home and hopefully it wont be too long before he is home again.

everyone else, thinking of you all, too many to name now. take care everyone

Ann
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Elaine I am so glad to hear from you.
He is going to be okay now Elaine, just need the rest and recuperation .
He will get home and will be treated like a king... until he gets fed up with it! ;-0)

It must have been a dreadfully worrying time for you love, but as you know, we were all worried about you both too.
Lovely to hear from you at last. XX

Ann, you are probably quite right, I did too much, but I enjoyed it and hope I get well enough to do it again! ;-0)
We changed the bed this morning and it was not a pleasant experience... we have both had a drop in our energy.
Still it was done, and tomorrow I will wash the bedding.
Thanks for thinking of me. X

Carole, hope you are okay today nice to know that you are there when I need someone... isn't that why you started this thread? ;-0)
Don't forget to look after you too. X

Had a bit better day today... not great but okay'ish.
the weather has been so hot.... but with a fan for every corner... who's complaining?
You may laugh at one of my worries.... I am reading a good book which Tony bought me (birthday... mothers day..??) and it is a hardback ... love the book, but cannot hold it up to read.
If I put it on a stool, I have to bend over and hurt myself.
Recliner motor broken so I can't sit back and read it leaning it on my 'ample figure' SO the only time I can read it is in bed.
What a moan I am.... everyone in the world should have my worries..... my book is too heavy!!
Do you HEAR ME?
Many people in this world have...
a)never seen a book, and
b) don't have a bed to read in!!

Please pick me up on my senseless moaning... it may make me get things into proportion.
we are going to see 'our' baby tomorrow.
He has had a week of people staring at him and admiring his sweet little face....
He must be so fed up with them all.
Daddy has taken him up to granny and grandad today (Jon's mum and dad) and mummy was on her own to have a 'real rest. Bless her she is so happy... I pray that she always will be.

Well.... almost Emmerdale so must go my lovely pals... and I will see you all tomorrow.
Please don't be upset if I seem to have left you our, as I really haven't.
I think of you all every day..
Good night all,
lots of love,
Deanna XXXX

though i was having a reasonable day until now. Just had a blazing row with my 12 year old daughter about her selfish behaviour. She is driving me crazy bought her expensive properly fitted clarkes shoes but she wont wear them she dosnt like them/they dont go with her school skirt even though she liked them at the time. She is supposed to wear glass for read but wont wear full stop because"they make her look dorky" i wash and iron her clothes but she wont put them away just leaves them in a heap on the floor and at times they end up back in the wash bin without ever having been worn because they have been trampled on the floor etc. She never offers to do anything around the house and if you ask her to do anything she dose it with such ill grace or takes so long you wondered why you ever asked her in the first place.
Today she rang me to say her drink had leaked in her lunchbox but the way she said it it made it sound like i had deliberately made the bottle leak just to spite her.

She has all the tact of a herd of rhino, tonight her brother actually had a friend round ( a very rare thing) and she goes up to this friend and says "do you know XXXXX" the boy replies yes so she say " tell him i hate him"

her brother has learning difficulties and has virtually no friends so for him to have a friend come round is a big deal.

I try not to get stuck a cycle of negative thoughts and actions about my daughter but it is so hard when she gives you so little to be positive about.

im getting my mind in some order and i promise to always check this thread and give you all the support you have given me, david is mentaly unwell and wont be coming home but he is going to get the help he needs for the rest of his life so when that sinks in i will be ok xxxx
love to you all x

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If you ever need a chat just give me a shout.

Love and ((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))

Lorraine, he is safe and that is the main thing. and you and the family are safe too. He loves you and knows you love him. He will be fine.

Deanna, would one of those trays help? the ones that have a cushion underneath. could you rest your book on that if you had one? I must admit i don't like reading hard backs for that very reason, much prefer paperbacks and have several large hardbacks unread as yet.

Whitenancy. your daughter sounds like a typical teenager. They always know the strings to pull to aggravate their parents. Hopefully she will come through it and be a perfectly nice person. Not easy to be patient though.

Ann
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evening all well im back from visiting hubby ,when i got there he was sitting in a chair ,but still very tired he has had a little walk today with the help of the phyiso team ,he still seems a little confused and the nurse looking after him asked me if this was normal for him i said no ,but he must be ok as he was chatting to a man he reconised in the bed oppersite and about son in laws car so im hoping its just the anesitic still wearing of he is full of bruising all over but has had all drips and tubes removed so thats a good sign ,just one left in his arm ,they concerd about his eating though he has to forse himself other wise he wont get his energy back ,carnt wait to see him to morrow love to all elaine xx

Hi everyone I have been a little manic the last few days and have upset a couple of my friends (not on purpose) and now I feel wretched!
Rachxx

hi all i haven't been to good just lately my dr cut my tablets down to 10mg two weeks ago but i have been feeling very low upset and very drained again i have been trying to keep myself bizzy to keep my mind of how i feel but i have sciatica so i can't do allot as its very painefull
my son has to go back to court on the 10th of July as he hasn't been going to youth offenders meetings im very worried about him i have other things going on but i won't bore you all with them

my love and hugs to all

carolina xx

Whitenancy,

I'm no expert, but have raised five children who I am happy to say turned out well. Regarding your twelve year old daughter, you need to get her in check now before she gets any older. It's sounds like she is taking advantage of you.
First...........NEVER put yourself on her level by raising your voice and arguing with her. Remember YOU are the mother. Tell her what you expect and the consequences if she doesn't do it. ie: No friends over to house....or NO TV or games..... or staying home at week-end..........In other words take something from her that she values......Regarding her clothes, do what Madonna does with her daughter, make her wear her soiled clothes to school if she doesn't look after them. I believe Madonna used to pick all her clothes off the floor, put them in a big plastic bag and when Lourdes
complained that she had no clean clothes to wear to school her mom told her to find something in the bag. That worked like a charm as Lourdes didn't like going to school looking shabby.
Also tell her that when her brother has friends to visit she must have good manners or stay in her room. If she is rude to her own friends tell her not to invite them over.

I was the youngest of seven children three boys and four girls and I don't remember my mom raising her voice to us. Just a look would do it. However she had a great sense of humour and we loved and respected her.

REMEMBER.........Be firm and follow through with the discipline. It will pay off in the long run.

Good Luck !!!!!
I will say a prayer for you that you can be strong. It won't be easy.

Margaret x ((((hugs))))

Hello everyone,

Most of you are going through a very bad time of it.My heart goes out to you all.It would be wonderful if we could fall asleep and wake up with all our problems behind us.

White Nancy, take heart,this too will pass.Have seen it at first-hand with one of my granddaughters.She has crawled out from her cocoon, and is now almost like a 'normal' kid again.

To all of you, far too many to mention, all good wishes and love, hope you all feel far better soon.

Eileen xx

Hi everyone, I am supposed to be getting washed and dressed, and I will in a minute.

Ann, I do have a book rest, but it is not good enough to be used unless the chair reclines... and a tray with a cushion?
ANN.... Cushions don't come bigger or softer than me!! ;-0)

Well got to go and get the next load in, then get ready myself.... if I could just *jump into the washing machine!!*
I will be fine again in a day or two... I am at the acceptance stage, so I must be on the way up again.
Hope you are all well in yourselves, and i will speak later...
Nice to see you here Eileen. x
lots of love
Deanna XX

Hi all

We all seem to be having a bad time lately let's hope things get better soon .

I got fed up waiting for son to cut the grass so did it myself then went on to do 5 hrs weeding etc .Have been in agony since so now I have an appointment with the osteopath tomorrow ..I would have been cheaper paying a gardener!!

Just had a call there has been a mix up and I can't see the osteo till monday now .Can some one come and help me put my socks on ????
There is some thing else I find difficult but wouldn't like to say what !!!! Andrex is a clue

Glad to hear Elaine's hubby is on the mend
Hugs to you all

Kathy xxx

Kathy, you are a lemon, to do so much in one go and cream cracker yourself! I know exactly how you must be feeling, as I have the same problems with socks and Charmin! (or whatever else is on offer lol)
Sorry your apptmt has changed, lots of hot baths might help a bit if you can get in the bath.
We'll talk soon, he is on lates next week.

Very overcast today, so cooler, is summer over now?
I loved being able to lie out on the lounger the other day, it did me so much good. Still getting bad tension headaches, and feeling so fed up. Wish I could shake myself out of this but we all know that doesn't happen easily.
Love to all
Lizxxx

We all seem to be down in the dumps, which is putting it mildly probably.That's why this thread is so theraputic,
Lorraine, am delighted that your son is being well cared for at last, but you must miss him to bits.
Elaine, hope your hubby is well on the road to recovery soon.
Liz, are your tension headaches still bothering you?
Deanna, maybe we should go to a car wash in a swim suit to have a good old scrub.
The housing association phoned me up when my elderly aunt came to live with me in 2004 (she had been living in her own house nearby up until then) to ask if I needed any adjustments made to the house!!! They came along about a week later and put in higher toilets up and downstairs, extra handrails on the stairs both sides, one on the wall in the downstairs loo, and a larger one in the bath.I have to use the latter everytime I climb into the bath to have a shower, which is proving to be more and more difficult.Oh for a walk-in shower!
Talking about socks, I never wear them if possible, too much trouble to get on.Never wear tights, haven't done so for about 10-12 years.One of my daughters hasn't worn them for years either.We Can't stand the feel of them.
Anyone I haven't mentioned, I wish you for you all to find some peace of mind, and for your bodies to ease up, give you some slack, so to speak.We could all do with a break.

Eileen xx

Kathy, silly girl doing all that. I can sympathise, when my back is going through a really bad spell I too have trouble with socks and andrex!! didn't like to say before, thought it was only me!

Deanna, have you thought about getting talking books instead. I know, not the same as lovely feeling page turning ones but would be lighter and easier.

Ann
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