General Chat

Liz my son is like you he always wants to sleep.
When he was in first school he used to have a sleep in the morning on a bean bag. He still keeps odd hours. Goes to work odd hours being a bakery assist' manager. Some days he is up at three am others it 10 am. Never has a chance of propper routine. Sorry I thought you meant your counsellor had given up on you, but I understand what you actually mean now! xx

Mary is there a link to read about the presentation tomorrow, or is it the link you sent ? If it's a new one I'd love to see it.xxx

Mary-Lou it's your mind saying you can't be bothred!
Take over it and do something, that way you will prove you can do stuff. xxx

Gail it's only Thursday, hope to hear more from you before Sunday xxx

Going to rest now been busy mixing cement, digging holes, taking cuttings and planting them and cutting lawn. Now I itch from pollen!!

thinking of all xx

Good evening to one and all..

Just to say I was not able to keep my promise of update on Beating the Blues and the opening of first session on the computer which proved very interesting, I have been indisposed but hope to scribe away tomorrow morning.... sorry Jules and Liz xx

Good night for now,

JoyceP xxx

Joyce, don't worry. I googled it and it says all people should be able to access it through their gps and who to complain to if the gp won't pay or something so will be talking to my doctor on Monday and see what she can sort out. It does say it can work for ocd sufferers so will have a look further when my brain is more receptive.

Gail, Rescue Remedy is a Bach remedy, you should be able to get it where you are, I would think it is world wide now. Easy and safe to use, and helps hugely with anxiety etc.
Maxi-mary, your garden sounds super, so wish I could send you bits from here to add to it. Have so much extra stuff growing and can't bear to throw it, will be making contact with a woman who sells plants for charity and see if she wants to come and pick lots up.
Hope Colleen enjoys her presentation and things continue to go well for her, and you. Just take care, tho, don't go wearing yourself out. That goes for everyone getting inspired to do gardening and that swear word too lol

Love
Lizxxx

Hi all, my nerves are in tatters, excitement and apprehension (fear) all rapped in one.

Liz shopping is a problem where I live, usually go shopping every couple of months. Will have a look at destination for rescue remedy as will probably need it through the birth also for my OH and baby's father.

I have been very busy on the phone today and YES we have respite for my dad for up to a month. I am over the moon. Have also been organising his appointments for next week and someone to take him to them. At least my brain still functions.

Daughter and her OH are at the holiday cottage and relaxing before the birth, which is really great for them. It is right on the beach, as daughter is a real water person she is loving it. The whales pass by along the coast this time of the year as well, so we are all going to do some whale spotting. OH and I went last year (whale watching) and it was brilliant. We also got to see a baby whale with its mum.

I will be back.

Gail

Hi Gail, hope you can get RR - it is tried and tested by many folk and very safe.
What a wonderful place the holiday cottage sounds to relax before the big event, will you all stay there till things start to happen or can baby be born there?
Hope all goes well.

So glad you have got your Dad organised so you can relax a bit, and hope that flows as you have planned it. Hope he is better now he is home and among familiar things.

Enjoy the special experience coming up and hope everything goes as planned.
Love
Lizxx

Good morning to you kindly folk out there xx

So Liz you have found yourself a few leaders on Beating the Blues, brill and best of luck when you see your doctor on Monday.
Jules, all the paperwork and feedback for me to take part in this computerise therapy exercise is issued by the South Essex Partnership NHS Foundation Trust, as mentioned before my own doctor initiated my taking part so the availability is out there for everyone. My own 'helper' who I interact with during my sessions mentioned three areas taking part, one being where I live, the other Castle Point, the third one...sorry I have forgotten Jules... but interesting to note that the whole concept of this interactive healthcare product was the brainchild of researchers from London and Newcastle universities together with staff at the specialist CBT department in Chelmsford.... talk about being right up your street Jules..
The whole concept of this on-line educational and awareness programme was to help people to learn to cope with anxiety, depression, stress and insomnia, then findings to be forwarded to one's own doctor, if in agreement. It also allows the GPs to offer non-pharmaceutical treatments and reduce waiting lists for cognitive behavourial therapy.
Also on a personal note it certainly takes the stress element out of facing a total stranger e.g. councillor, who may or may not ask you the right/wrong questions, cancel appointments, even not showing interest and lacking understanding.

Most GPs rely on their Primary Care Trust to arrange services like Beating the Blues for them and you may find that the PCT have not yet bought it for them to prescribe, so get chasing if you are interested.

Am away for a coffee break right now but will return in a little while to update you on my first computerised session.

JoyceP

Hi again.

We are all going to stay at the cottage, my OH is driving there next week.

Daughter has a heart murmur plus other health issues and docs want to play it safe with a hospital birth. It was her first wish to have bub at home, but live too far from a hospital if things went wrong. Hospital is set up for water births if she wants to do that, she is going to use the water part and see how she gets on.

I have had great fun shopping on the net for baby, have purchased a few really nice things, but mostly basics like nappies, nappy buckets bunny rugs and blankets and a car seat. Plus set of scales and a SIDs alarm. Daughter used to stop breathing when a baby as premmie, and did not want to have to worry with her bub, great these things are available now.

Daughter does not have access to internet and waiting on a dish to get connected. That way they can send me picks and going to get a web cam as well.

Cannot wait to give daughter a cuddle, so much excitement.

Gail

Am back.......

Here begineth the first lesson, as promised.

I typed in ..www.beatingtheblues.co.uk..entered my given activate code number and started the programme. Obviously you need speakers and a printer to enable full utilisation of this course and feedback for final assessment.

It talks you through sections of 34 statements about how you have been over the LAST WEEK, a bit like multiple choice but asking what applies to YOUR situation and state of mind. e.g.
How you have felt about yourself. Have you had support when needed. Has talking to people felt too much for you. Have you felt overwhelmed by problems. Have your problems been impossible to put to one side. Have you felt panic and terror. Have you thought it would be better if you were dead, and so on.......
Depending on your input you are assessed weekly, and given a print-out Progress report after each session which are based on Anxiety and Depression, each of which are rated between 0 to 8. You are also given a print-out Problem diary, Monday to Sunday, each session. This you fill in each day with positive or negative things that take place........the next question being is, will I be asked to forward this written problem diary to my clinical assessor or will I be asked to fill in the info online at my next session?

There are 8 computer sessions which can be repeated if necessary and done at your own pace.

Our mood of the day is related to the number of positive and negative activities we do, the more pleasant the better we feel....so Joyce is off to the stables this afternoon to do some 'horse whispering', just hope my daughter's horses like me otherwise I will be in big trouble..lol.

Tesco's van has just pulled up and is about to drop off my weekly shopping so must love and leave you.

Any questions? just aim them in my direction, okay.

JoyceP XXXXX

Hello everyone,Its not like me to come on here so early, but i am having a really bad morning,I thought if i have a look at this thread it might help me,
stop me self pitying myself because others problems are worse than mine,
Hi Carole i often think of you,hope your doing ok.
Love Christine

Hello Christine, I hardly get on this thread now, want to send you a hug.

I may not get on much but things are not right in my life and at the moment i feel like you. I know i have to change some things and the way i feel about issues to avoid being hurt.

Im at work now and am going to ring the college counsellor to get some sesssions. I have heard she is very good.


Love to you all,


Caz xxx

Hi Gail - enjoy the R&R, be good to YOU.
You're question re bourbon and coke made me giggle. I LOVE Coke - but haven't had any for probably a year. Since I discovered that fizzy drinks leech the calcium out ofm your bones, and I am making efforts to keep my bones strong, and since the children can no longer have any cane sugar or colourings, we no longer have anything fizzy in the house. (except between my ears LOL).
I'm getting quite tan frombeing outside so much recently, which gives the impression of excellent health, it's all an image and the tan was free LOL.
MiniMary and Emlyn are taking the afternoon off school today so they can attend Mummy's award ceremony, they are SO proud of her. Mary was here at 7am, worrying about what she should wear as she didn't want to "look wrong" and embarass her Mum. Bless her.
I'm heading outside between rainfalls, picked up 4 new small hostas yesterday for $2 each - one is called "Peace", that HAD to go in my garden!!
have a safe and happy day, thanks for the pm's which have made me feel warm and fuzzy.
love
Mary

hello everyone,
just to say that I am managing to keep up with my outings--so far,so good.I am going little and often which I think is for the best ,rather than longer gaps and longer journeys. No full blown panics,so think I'm doing it the right way.
love and((((((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))) again for all who feel the need.
love,Paula xxx

Mary, I am very light on the coke as do not want to get too tipsy, and I know it is the coke that does it and not the bourbon. So am also watching my bones.

~~~~~~hi all.

Gail

afternoon everyone well ive spent the morning looking after two grandchildren they do cheer me up when im down so it realy helped me as well now for the main one ive got pack mine and hubby things ready for his sunday admision to hospital but i keep putting it off i no ive got to do it but i dont want to need a kick up the backside ive got get it done for satnight as sunday morning ive got his family coming to see him before we leave for hospital so im preparing myself to do it tonight so can rest tomorrow , hows everyone on here hugs to you all xxxelaine xxx

glad that this week is over, can start looking forward again now... thinking of you all ((((( hugs for those in need))))) wendy

evening all well ive just poped in again to ramble on again lol well i think ive totaly worn myself out today i havent stopped all day havent stopped all day since 6 this morning funney ive just realised ive changed the bed clothes 4 times this week lol well i carnt find any thing else to do so i am trying to unwined witch is a little dificult for me hubby seems quite calm and relaxed so thats a good thing family coming in morning before we leave for hospital so im not sure that i will get chance to pop on before we leave but i wish to thank every one of you who have helped us through this last few week BIG HUGS to you all and ill update you when i come home in a few days time please keep him in your prayes on monday send a bit of cyber thoughts his opp is set for after dinner love to all xxxxx elaine xxxx

Hi Everyone, I haven't been too good this week so been resting a lot, I only came on to wish Elaines husband all the best for Monday and I will be thinking of you both Elaine, Hope I am not to late for you to see this.
Hope everyone is doing ok, I'll be back soon I hope.

Love and huga to you all.

Caz xx

Still thinking of you Elaine love... chin up and I will be thinking of you both for days and days.... XXXX

To everyone else, I am happily sorting and chucking out rubbish.... and enjoying it !! ;-0)

I will be back and I will catch up with you all.
I have not for one minute forgotten any of you.

God Bless,
Deanna XXX

Good evening!
Just sticking my head in to say hello,
Keep thinking good thoughts everyone, well im trying to anyway!
Hugs to you all
Mary-Lou
xx

Thinking of Elaine and her oh, hope everything goes well (sure it will).xx

Also Gail, off flying to be with her daughter xx

Had a bad night last night at ten to two our house shook! Woke oh and I up. Lots of doors slamming and shouting from the house joined to us. It was the 21 yr old son, having a row with his girlfriend. Someone shouting call the police then! The two of them stormed off down the street, to come back half hour later. Then at 20 to three the phone went!! Oh 's mate ringing to tell him "We are the champions"!
Could do without him starting that when he is drunk!
Tonight the woman next door seems to be having a ladies party! Loud music, screaming and shouting. Never rains ........

Well hope you all have a good weekend. xxx