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Yes I had a good trip and can virtually confirm that Thos Roberts was indeed the father of my great, great gran who was born just before her parents married.

Its quite simple that Thomas was courting with Mary Ann Walder when his wife was ill and dying and when she died whilst Mary Ann was pregnant, Thomas was free to meet up with her again and to marry her and be reunited with his child.

He did then christen her as his natural child once he wed her mum and there is no way he'd baptise her as his if she wasnt and there is no way he'd take on and pay to bring up someone elses child if he relied on parish expense to bury his own son who died as a baby because he was poor. I have asked for other genealogists opinions and they all reckon he had to be the genetic father. I think becuse of my ocd it is one of these doubting and ruminating things again.

Ben

Good day all of you.
Nice to see you Ben, and you really have been working hard on your tree...
If you ever get fed up with yours.... mine is sitting here, and I will allow you to go ANYWHERE to do my searching.... ;-0)

I've been on her a for a little while, but the computer froze.. so I will be back later.
Tony has just taught me something about FREEZING COMPUTERS!!
See you all later... look at our numbers... 3333 *all da trees* Allan is Irish, don't let on I said that!! ;-0)

Deanna XX

White Nancy.... don't go saying silly things like that again.

You are VERY important, and all our worries and pains are most important to ourselves.
Your pains and worries ARE you... do you know what I mean?
What I am trying to say... badly.. is that you are a very important person and your worries are also important.. so if you need to talk, we are all here.
YOU never need to take a pain killer when I have a headache.... and viceversa. I'll make it as clear as mud for you ,if it takes me all day!! ;-0)
It is a lovely thread where we can feel wanted... so no more talk of 'inferiority' OKAY??

JOYCE.......... you are back. How have you been love? Better I hope.. miss you when you are not here.... I have been fine really, and on and off here often too quickly.
I have not really had the time to sit and have a chat.... too busy talking elsewhere... ;-0( you know what I'm like.. all mouth!!

Sue... if forgetting celebrities names... what you had for dinner yesterday... the names of flowers.... or telephone numbers is a bad sign..... I'm in a bad way Sue.
And as for telling you if you turn ga ga.... how the h*ll would I notice???
This is me Sue... the resident idiot!!
Chin up girl, we are all going to be fine. X

It is really chilly today, don't you think so?

Well I am going back into the room to sit in a nice cosy comfy chair, and listen to my radio.
I am reading a lovely book, but it is too heavy for me to hold.... do any of you mind that hardbacks are too difficult to hold?

anyway.. love to all.
Ann
Kathy
Liz
Eileen,
Sharron
Christine
Elaine
Carole
Caz
Mary
Wendy
Anyone I have missed, I am sorry and I'll get you next time

Deanna XX

love and((((((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))
to everyone
Paula xxx

Hi Paula.... where is everyone today?

A tiny spark of sunshine and they all leave us, and go into their gardens!! ;-0)

Deanna XX

HI Deanna,---as long as it means they're happy lol
strange day here mostly overcast and cold with odd patches of breakthrough sunshine.Still ,got bedding out to dry so just so long as we dont get more rain till later. xx

evening everyone ,just poped on before i try to get some sleep am so tired carnt keep eyes open but i no im gona be waking up every hour ,well we now on count down 1 day left before pree opp apiontment and 8 days till opp gtting realy nervious about it all so im here to drive you all mad again ,sorry ,gona keep a writen log of how i feel and whats happening councelars surgestion she said if i put my feeling down on papper it might help me ,worth a go anyway night all you all take care xxelaine xx

Elaine we are all with you both. Fingers, toes, legs arms all crossed for you. It's a big thing and no wonder you are worried but stay strong, you will be needed to pull you both through this. You will come through....xxx

love to you all xx

Morning all

I hope you all enjoy your day

((((((((((hugs to all))))))))))))))

I am still suffering the dreadful sick headaches.

Take care

Gill

Have a lovely day all of you.

Fathers day so there may be children of all ages hanging around all day.... ermmm.... helping!! ;-0)

Mine has not arrived yet, but he is on his way.

Elaine, I think of you and your lovely husband and awful lot.
Please don't think you are alone... we are all here for you.

Deanna XX

deanna ,carole and everyone thank you ,im having a bad day today as im in a state of panic/anx and got the shakes and body feels like its running away,deep breaths ,am panicing over travling tomoz as i just dont do it and then thinking this time next sunday hubby will be in hospital please god help me through it hugs to everyone xxxelaine

Elaine we are all here for you, I'm sending some sunshine your way,
hugs and love
Mary

hi elaine

I shall keep you and hubby in my prayers, I know you will get through all this difficult time - there are a lot of people here sending you positive thoughts and prayers.

((((((((((big hugs for you)))))))))))))))))

Gill

thank you for all your kind words of support. let me explain a bit about myself which will help put things into context. I am 40 i grew up with a strange sense of being different but never understanding why i can remember looking through the family papers to see if i could find evidence that i was adopted. my mum left my dad in 1978 so i grew up in an all female household which was unusual for the time. desperate to find the loving family i never had at 17 i met my 1st husband (who in hindsight turned out to be very domineering) i had 2 children in 93 & 95 and by the age of 3 my son had been diagnosed with learning disabilities. This turned out to be a turning point for me as i suddenly realised that i had the same problems Dypsraxia ) as my son this spelled the bigin of the end for my marriage my husband couldn't cope with the fact that his son & heir was not perfect and too boot his wife was going round telling everyone she had a problem too! he started becoming obsessed with my friends he did the big confession on 1 who rejected him 2nd he left me for the week before xmas when that didnt work out i took it him back but before long he started hitting on friend number 3 (he is now married to her). I took the kids and went to stay with my sister 150 miles away and eventually got my own place nearby.
by the time i left my 1st hubby what little self confidence and belief was in tatters. That was just over 4 years ago and since then my life has moved on in so many positive ways i met and married a fanatic guy who is everything i always wanted in a partner and I am just about to finish a college course, but despite all the good things going on in my life i cannot get rid of all those fears and anxieties that have plagued me for so many years

My sister also suffers from severe depression and misuses alcohol. My mum very rarely ring to see how i am she ring me when she cant get hold of my sisters and even calls me by my sister name.

I have tired to help my sister on numerous occasion but have got to the point now that i dread talking to her and spend my time wondering what her next crisis will be

Kay, Citalopram user now for 10 years!
xx

Big welcome to Kay.

Elaine sending you love and strength to help you both through xxx

Deanna hope you had a lovely weekend xx

Ann how are you?x

Paula hope you had a good weekend xx

Joyce we miss you how are you? xx

Caz did you have any visitors for fathers day? xx
Hows the aches and pains? xx

Wendy how are you? xx

Jules thinking of you xx

Kathy is J home? xx hope you are both okay x

Sue how are you? xx

Eileen thinking of you xx

Carolina are things okay ? xx

Gail down there praying for you and your family xx

Gill sending you hugs ((xx))xx

Ben keep up the hard work and put your ocd to good use xx

Liz have you got all your washing done and put away? xx

Ann GG haven't seen you on here for an age xx

Mary love to you and yours xx

White nancy you are special so don't think you are not worth our listening to xx

Malc hope things are going good for you xx

Dave also thinking of you xx

Irene haven't seen you on here for ages but often wonder how you are xx

Christine missed you today! xx

Betty, how are things going over there ? xxx

Sharron how is it going at your house? xx

Well time to go to bed. Bet I'll lay awake most of the night worried about poohing in the morning when leaving for work! Sunday nights are mostly the worst!
xx

Dear Carole , and all
House is lovely and quiet ,so come on here as i do most nights..My day not been too good today,Just wanted a little time on my own but thats hard here.
I suppose i better go to bed,
Goodnight everyone sleep tight,
Carole hope you have a goodnight sleep,I will think of you in the morning.
Love Christine xxxx

Carol thank you for your PM and thoughts and prayers. I also hope your mum and dad are doing well now that your dad is home.

My dad is not much better, but hanging in there, in hospital. I am flying to my daughters at the weekend and will be away for a few weeks, baby is due at the end of the month. Dad was not happy when I told him I was going away, I know he needs me as well and have been very torn. But I have put off leaving for the past two weeks and cannot leave it any longer.

If I can get my laptop connected while away I will let you know when the baby arrives.

Hugs to all of you and try to keep well.

Gail

PS Carol I also enjoy your funny E-mails

Oh well here we go again! Monday morning poohs!!
Not traveling too far today so hope it will not be too bad. Again didn't sleep very well so tired this morning, pleased I'm not driving.

Gail....what a lovely surprise to see you this morning.
Your dad is in good hands. Now you go be near your daughter and don't worry. Let us know when baby is here xxx

Christine are you another night bird like Liz?

Thinking of Elaine and her dear husband. You will both soon be home xxx

Have a good day all xxx